Should he forgive me?

[Anonymous]

Months ago, I catfished my friend with benefits who is now my boyfriend or was my boyfriend. I did it because I wanted to talk to him more. I know it's stupid and psycho but I felt like he was pulling away from me as myself so I pretended to be a girl he might like. I did this for quite a few months before we finally got together and I feel so awful about it.

I told him just now the truth and he has broken up with me. He said he can't trust me which I get but I feel my reasoning for doing it was justified because he was closed off towards me during that time but not her. Again I know it's crazy and I shouldn't have done it and I brought this on myself but I feel like if he truly loves/loved me then he can eventually forgive me right?

This is me not saying get back with but just forgive me for what I have done.

[PointTaken]

I wouldn't. Yet I've been through many manipulations and lies. I cut them off completely because if they have to lie or manipulate, then they don't trust me. You didn't trust him and now he knows you would do it again. He trusted you apparently and you threw it out. Yet, did he go through with it? Try meeting the "other" woman?

[Asker]

He was going to apparently but just as friends. But if I had never said anything I doubt he would have. I think he just said that to piss me off. And I wasn't trying to manipulate him, I just wanted to know more about him. Something I wasn't getting as myself. I realize I went about things totally wrong and I wish I never did it.

[PointTaken]

People do some dumb things they regret. Sounds good at the moment but ends bad. Don't worry about him if he forgives you or not. Nothing can be done other than learn from this and continue your life. Be happy and then who knows, he might come around. If you're all mopy and sad, he wouldn't want to be by that.

[Asker]

Thanks that's good advice though I doubt he will come around. He seems extremely hurt and disappointed in my actions which is expected. All I can do is hope.

[PointTaken]

Saying "I'm sorry" is just words. Show you're sorry but don't overdue it. Like once in a while text him. Once he starts to talk to you, then tell him how sorry you are you did it and you know what it did to him. Then be happy again and joke a little with him.

[Asker]

Ok I can definitely do that. Thanks!

[FilmGuy93]

I wouldn't forgive you...

[Asker]

But I didn't mean for it to get so out of hand or to cause him harm. I never meant to hurt him.

[FilmGuy93]

It doesn't matter what you intended. What matters is what happened. You built a relationship on a lie. You should take some time for yourself to do some healing before dating again. You have to build more confidence in yourself.

[LazerBean]

Nope.

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope

[Asker]

But we've been friends for a very long time and I just hope this didn't ruin our friendship. I know it might've ruined our relationship. I was just trying to get inside his head a bit more. I wanted to know what he was feeling at the time and I wasn't getting that as myself.