What is one non-negotiable that if broken, would cause you to never go back to that person?

[Anonymous]

Major one for me is trust;since I’m very selective about who I let in and if for whatever reason they cause me to lose trust in them, they’re out.

[Finchie40]

Betrayal , if she cheats on me , it’s over , I don’t give cheating girls’ a second chance , I might bang her again but she won’t get my heart with it.

[Nikki1989]

Wow, you are a walking red flag with that disgusting comment.

[Finchie40]

How is that disgusting? Just being honest

[Danielle93]

A cheater isn't even worth banging material either; waste of time. I would just ditch and block him immediately.

[Finchie40]

Yea I was just being silly with the last statement , I don’t take cheaters back at all , but I did end up having sex with my cheating ex again after we were apart for a few years but my heart for her wasn’t the same , so I told her let’s just remain friend’s with benefits.

[glennos89]

Cheating and lying. My last girlfriend wasn't being honest on several occasions so I had to let her go

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach here, I totally feel you! Trust is the ultimate MVP in the relationship game. When it's shattered, it's like trying to put together a puzzle with missing pieces—not happening. Lovebombing and red flags might be the initial culprits, but breaking trust is the finish line you don’t want to cross. So, trust is the non-negotiable dealbreaker for many, and I salute your selectiveness! 🤓❤️

[jennifer_bloom]

If a guy is racist against any group in a persecuting way and not just in a "I prefer a different demographics due to dietary and lifestyle similarities" type of way;

If he swears and uses foul language, or if he judges me by unfair standards, I will never date him.

[Vesuvius87]

Abuse, infidelity and overall lack of trust.

[LifeHitMeandRan]

I've got 5:

1. Any disrespect towards God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. This DOES NOT mean making mistakes, but a deliberate disrespect towards my faith.

2. Cheating. No further explanation needed here.

3. Violation of trust/lying.

4. Abusive in any way. Verbal, Physical, Emotional, Sexual. Abuse of any kind towards any person or animal.

5. Being a Gold Digger/Financially Irresponsible. I am traditional and believe in paying for the first date (and many others). But, I cannot deal with a woman with unrealistic financial ideas.

I can deal with/move past almost anything else, but ANY sign of these 5 and I'm gone faster than yesterday.

[wysiwyg2525]

* Lying
* Manipulative
* Someone who tries to change you into
someone your not like how you dress,
whatvyou eat, what friends to have. They
have an image of a bad boy or ex that
they want you to be.
* comparing you to their Ex
* GOLD DIGGERS - someone who is not
happy with a $1 burger or homage meal.
They care about spending hundreds of
dollars and they to help pay 50/50 or
even offer to pay for a date.
* Bad hygiene
* don't keep their house clean
* someone who can't cook
* cares too much about a social image and
need approval from app friends vs living
life. If you on your phone constantly then
why bother being with someone.
* putting tables on life i. e. sexuality,
friendships, who to be friends with etc.

This is just to name a few. I'm sure there is others.

[Malemajor]

Yes, trust and no matter how much lying, crying, whining, denying, insulting, evading, and gaslighting they do, the kiss gives it away!.

Signs of adultery in bedroom:

You will know it when the kiss dims. Suddenly the beard comes in the way, it's not slow, sensual or passionate anymore. No kisses on the neck, cheeks, eyes anymore, like a stripper she will impose tariffs to access her face. Permission needed to go down on her. She will stop going down on you. Your entry unto bedroom will be met with gaslighting comments like this is all you come here for, a sigh, etc.

[Purpleronnie]

For my relationship it’s the same as most , infidelity , Emotional / Physical Abuse , crossing agreed boundaries, persistent decline in affection , complete breakdown in communication , loss of trust etc … these would end the relationship immediately and permanently.


The more slow burn ones would be dishonesty , lack of respect , lack of support , lack of emotional closeness , decrease in meaningful Time spent together , conflicting interests or views and in general growing apart and wanting different things in our life or different pursuits

[warlock83]

Broken trust. I've had it happen a couple of times in the past. I'm 42 and single, and do not feel up to going into a relationship at the moment, or ever. Been cheated on, lied to financially, and lied to healthwise.

I will tell each quickly:

1) Had girlfriends who cheated on me

2) Moved to a home with an ex and thought we could make it financially, but she had payments I knew nothing about, which caused me to pay more and lose my savings at the time.

3) Girlfriend's health went from good to worse (we both have multiple sclerosis, but mine is manageable)

[slatyb]

Hard to say -- there are changes that would end the relationship, but not many completely unforgivable acts. If she wanted to have sex with others, we could talk about opening the relationship. Cheating with another man would be a problem, but it would also imply that she is getting something from him that she's not getting from me, and I would want to know what it is.

[molonski2]

Drug use / Lying / Fraudster ( illegal activity )
Sex worker ( after claiming to be accountant )
Cigarette smoker..

Financially illiterate / Family history and association in crime / Quality of associations - guilty by association.

[mrmonogamous]

Cheating of any kind. Once we’re exclusive, which was always after the first couple of dates, we were committed.

[Anonymous]

I don't live my life amid a cloud of ‘red flags’ and inviolable rules. People are people and you have to be flexible and forgiving with each other.

[msc545]

If they cheat, I am done and done forever with that woman. Unfortunately most of the eventually do this and that signifies the end for me. I have no forgivness for this.

[Mac-One]

After over 60 years I can't imagine anything happening that would cause a breakup.

[Sal_Monella]

If I caught her cheating. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Its not a mistake. It was thought out and intentional

[LiamJHayden]

Trust it is. That can be lost by any betrayal from cheating to stealing to disparaging me to others.

[Anonymous]

Cheating. But that’s the obvious one. Also hitting me being addicted to drugs or a gambling addict.

[Dennisjf12]

Never ever cheat on your woman, that is the worst thing you can do!. Dennis

[douride2]

If my partner cheats they are gone. No second chances. Out of my life forever.

[Ironco]

I would say when I'm disrespected.

If they loose or decide to disrespect you, it's pretty much over.

[Anonymous]

If she became a feminist. If she cheated. If she started doing drugs. If she started smoking or drinking.

[Anonymous]

It's betrayal... I can't trust a traitor (fake friend, bad neighbor, or a crooked relative).

[Fighterpilot99]

Cheating is the penultimate dealbreaker for me. I don’t forgive or forget. And I always get even.

[Deserter3]

If she calls me while smashing another guy lmao, imagine taking her back after that

[Cherryblossomfairy]

Disloyalty/Cheating

[Screenwriter]

Emotional and/or physical violence.

[Nikki1989]

Trumpism, Mysogny, et ectera.

[Nikki1989]

*Misogyny

[JailyneMariaH]

sexual abuse

[exitseven]

If she is a habitual liar.

[tzdc21]

She betrays me, its over.

[qwerty2469]

Had sex with a black guy

[straightmax12]

Don't fuck with my PS5.

[Brittanyrunner06]

Drug use

[BeenThereLovedIt]

Disrespect.

[Greek_goddess_Iris]

Cheating.

[Fireguy17]

Trust.

[MikeTheBartender]

No sex.

[Anonymous]

Disrespect

[Panthero80]

Drug abuse

[robocop666]

theft