Is he afraid or is he hiding me?

[Anonymous]

so me and my boyfriend have been dating for five months and things were moving pretty quickly and getting serious really fast. He’s really sweet guy. A gentleman. I have not met his family. Yet he claims they know about me. at first he told me that his parents thinks that he’s sleeping over at a friends house, and I got very upset with him, and I told him to tell his mom the truth because I wasn’t going to tolerate that. He did take me over to his house once his mother was actually out of town and his father was home, but his father didn’t know it was in the house. He asked me if I wanted to meet him but he made it seem like it would make his dad feel caught off guard and of course me feeling otherwise I said no. Fast forwarding couple months I found out I was pregnant and I told him he was shocked at first, but he was happy. He said we can have a baby shower at a hall and I was wondering, where were we going to get the money from to do it at a hall and he painted this picture of His family helping out my family helping out so I agree to it. I asked him. When will you be telling your mom? He told me that he would tell her when I get to my second trimester. I’m in my second trimester and he hasn’t told his mom yet. I brought it to his attention, and he told me that this does not concern her and got a bit upset,. is he afraid to tell his mom or is he just hiding me?

Updates

8 mo

Update: when i spoke to him about this for the last time he told me this has nothing to do with his mother and that his son’s mother inlaw is sick and about to pass and his mom is stressed out and he doesn’t want his mom to stress. Isn’t the new edition to the family supposed to ease a bit of that stress and tension?

[Hardon-Collider]

Yes, he is hiding you. He is hiding from his parents by lying about who you are. He is hiding the truth of your situation from you by painting a picture of a future that is not real. He is hiding the deeper reality from both of you because it is too difficult for him to face. He is hiding because he is afraid.

[es20490446e]

His mom will probably think that you shall take care of the baby yourselves and get a job, which is the sane thing to do.

Probably this idea is too hard for him to face. So he's postponing it, when in reality the sooner the more time everyone has to plan ahead properly.

If he's not telling his family, tell the situation to yours if they are decent people.

[Asker]

He’s in his 30’s that is definitely not the case he has a good job

[es20490446e]

What professional skill is he most proficient at?

[Asker]

He’s a delivery driver to corporate offices

[es20490446e]

Underpaid?

[Asker]

Not at all

[es20490446e]

And you?

[Asker]

Currently im staying at home sue to my pregnancy but i do have some income coming in

[es20490446e]

If there is no financial stress, I see no major reason not to tell.

Apart of not having the balls required.

[NoDecision]

Why can't you figure this out yourself? Or does someone need to draw you a picture? I think he is afraid of his mom's opinion.

[Asker]

He claims he is not when i brought this up to him and keeps saying his mom has nothing to do with this.

[NoDecision]

He lies like a rug.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, relationships and their surprises—keeps life spicy, right? 😉 So you're in a bit of a pickle. It sounds like he's caught between wanting to be honest and not ready to face the music with his family. It could be fear or just uncertainty, but either way, it's a red flag in the communication department. Remember, love should feel open and supportive rather than secretive. Encourage him to chat with his folks because when you’re expecting a little one, it’s all about teamwork and support! Maybe offer to be there when he breaks the news to make it less daunting. 😊 You've got this!

[Anonymous]

I think Love Doctor Brad explained it quite well.