Guys, how would you react if a woman told you she doesn't expect loyalty from you?

Question

I'm seeing a man, he wants a relationship with me, but honestly, I don't believe men can genuinely enjoy monogamy: it doesn't matter how much a man likes me or is happy with me, I do not believe a man can only want one woman. Personally, I'm not happy to know that a man has to control his impulses to avoid cheating on me, this makes me feel like a burden and I think he'll eventually resent me for not giving him freedom. I accept men's real nature, I'm fine if a man wants to flirt with other women or have sex with other women, as long as he comes home to me. At the end of the day, I'm only looking for companionship and I don't really care.

I'm afraid of telling him that I don't expect him to be loyal, because I don't want him to think I am looking for an excuse to cheat, I don't want other men, I simply do not a man to feel caged in a relationship with me. I don't know if I've explained the problem clearly enough.

Thoughts?

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

I think your correct about not telling him your feelings about this because my first thought would be "Great, this chick is telling me this to make excuses for herself to cheat." And when I'm assuming that, I'm probably going to cheat as much as possible because I'd be pretty sure she's cheating already and I just don't know. Basically you might open a Pandora's box of cheating and all because you don't share the "usual" opinion held by females.

You might feel like this, but you don't have to talk to him about it. This is one of those things I think is best for you to talk as an anon on the internet about instead of twisting whatever you have going on around this.

Strange because you're not the first girl I've heard that feels the exact same way. These chicks with dudes, that we usually refer to as future doctors and scientists, really seem to feel that way quite a bit. I guess the dick is good and the chicks make concessions... reminds me of that saying, "women make rules for betas, and break rules for alphas." I guess we see it with guys that pay the bills and gives her a free ride in life, so they give that hall pass... but those chicks usually scheme on getting a little something something on the side.

I guess I'd be curious as to what has brought you to this mindset.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Not every guy cheats , so by you having that mindset , you must of been cheated on , or knew guys’ that cheated. So since you have that mindset, think of a way that would prevent a guy from cheating on you? I will help you, give him more intimacy and affection , have sex with him as much as possible , keep his balls drained and the chances of him cheating on you will decrease tremendously , if he still cheats on you after that? Then he is a selfish POS period , I suggest you kick his ass to the curb

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the spicy dance of expectations and reality! 😉 Your viewpoint is fascinating. People have various ideas about relationships, and it's completely okay to seek companionship without the traditional monogamous expectations. If you're honest about your feelings, it can lead to a deeper connection, as long as you're both on the same page.

Your bold openness might actually be refreshing because not everyone shares that perspective. It doesn't necessarily mean you're looking for an excuse to cheat, just that you value freedom. Communication about comfort levels is key. As long as the mutual understanding and trust are there, it sounds like a potential win-win. Love comes in all forms, after all! 💃🕺

HawkPerception · Answer

Not into it. I want one girl and one girl only. One girl who understands me best and is always in my corner. A girl I would genuinely enjoy sailing through life with. I want to make her feel as special as she makes me feel. That's my dream. To find love, move off grid, have a family, and live happily ever after.

ohsheeT · Answer

I dont like that you feel this way I do and don't understand it because not all men cheat but I like that your bold enough to say what you feel

And since you bold enough to say it and feel it I hope you find what your looking for

AviatorTom · Answer

It's not a burden to be with just one person, it's a gift, and most men want it that way.

Summeroflove · Answer

We just wouldn’t be compatible

Purpleronnie · Answer

Well , if that’s the relationship a woman “expects” then sadly I’d suggest it’s the best kind of relationship shr can likely hope for. That saddens me 😔

I don’t want a woman who seems to have so little respect for herself or who expects so little of my gender that any flavor of man can fit the bill. Does that make a man proud to have that woman by his side? A woman that seems to have given up on the idea of a healthy monogamous relationship and demands respect and loyalty?

A ‘MAN’ wants to feel like he is the only key that can fit his woman’s lock , not this type of woman where any and every man has the master key

A woman should be afraid of telling any man this , you got that perfectly correct. I’d suggest a woman like that has a quiet word with herself , maybe give herself a shake 🫨 and wake the hell up !

Kaneki05 · Answer

There has to be a form of loyalty in any bond, and you express that yourself with 'as long as he comes home to me' so the question is wrong in essence since you do expect loyalty. Just not sexual Loyalty.

Which I'd say to that, 'Cool though I'm probably not going to sleep with any other girl and I'll be loyal to you in the way that's important to you.'

BadApple69 · Answer

Your way will only end in disaster… a man should commit to one woman. If you choose to forgive him if he slips well that’s up to you but don’t set him free to do as he pleases because he will undoubtedly find a girl that cherishes him enough that she doesn’t want to share him with other girls. And really… that’s what most of us want. A girl who is a little jealous when other girls look.

McLlovin · Answer

A woman that doesn’t want loyalty has inner personal issues that needs to be confronted by her. You got to deep dive in your own mind and ask the question why. Its not normal. Spend time with yourself and really think why you feel the way you do and how you can change.

If you dont expect loyalty that means I can't trust you because that means you probably dont want to give loyalty either. So its essentially an open relationship

HighValue · Answer

I disagree. To me, if someone actually loves someone, they can easily stay loyal. It is only immoral people that are unfaithful like that. Plenty of men can be and want to be totally loyal to a good woman.

Anonymous · Answer

I would consider her trash.

1. A quality woman would not say that. Because a quality woman would have too much respect for herself to ever be ok with that.

2. It is very clear that this is a woman who punches above her weight. Which is why she believes men cannot be monogamous. Because she is ONLY attracted to men who who have a high likelihood of cheating. She would never be drawn to a monogamous man.

molonski2 · Answer

Personally I'd be fine with it and just carry on bcoz at the end of the day it wouldn't matter , but I'm not sure this will be his reaction , as by the sound of it he wants only you and that's it.

jonah777 · Answer

Personally I played that game for her insecurities I tried my hardest to show she was wrong but it seemed like no matter what I did I couldn't prove it. I even stayed at her place every night but she was very insecure also combine with her hatred of men we dated for 2 years. But from my experience honestly if thats your outlook you are not ready for a relationship. I know I'll never go through that experience again it was hell lol and its not fair to yourself or your potential partner

Anonymous · Answer

Well id just know we are fuck buddies. I’m ok with being fuck buddies with all of my fuck buddies but if I really liked the girl I’d probably be upset because her saying that would make me feel like she’s viewing me as just a fuck buddy. But in general I’d be fine I’m not jealous of girls fucking guys really. Sex is sex to me. I’ve never been in an open relationship, but I’d be willing to explore that.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I would be suspicious... I would wonder if the reason she was telling me that was to give herself a built-in excuse to be disrespectful and disloyal to me.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

That's not something you want to tell him. If you tell a guy you don't expect him to be loyal that's like telling him you won't be loyal to him. That's how he will take it. That's like saying you're not serious about him.

DonaldDarko · Answer

I'd think that she had issues with men and a bad attitude about them. Probably she had a lot of bad experiences and a lot of baggage.

Ironic_Method · Answer

My wife is the same way and it's not only hot, but makes me appreciate her even more. Though finding someone who is sane, clean, and doesn't something more than a fling is hard.

Berethor · Answer

A man who can find other woman can benefit from it, for me it would likely not change much.

aceleon · Answer

if you are real and not a troll, will you marry me?

Iron_Man · Answer

I wouldn’t think much of her I think that she probably would be a cheater so she’s trying to ease her conscience

Anonymous · Answer

Massive red flag. If the person I'm with tells me she doesn't expect loyalty from me, it strongly implies that I can't expect her to be loyal, so I'd tell her to pound sand. I'm not interested in that childish bullshit.

Alex-Snow · Answer

She must want an open type relationship and wishes to also do the same. Is that ok with both of you?

es20490446e · Answer

That I can appreciate other women being physically attractive doesn't mean I want to have sex with them.

Anonymous · Answer

I actually enjoy being loyal to the girl of my dreams.

That's just hypothetical, I'm still single... but if I had a girlfriend, I would never cheat on her.

If a girl said that to me, I would wonder if she is loyal...

glennos89 · Answer

If you think man aren't capable of being monogamous then you're absolutely wrong

Anonymous · Answer

That would be weird to me. I want a loyal and monogamous relationship. I would really question why she wouldn't.

Staximus · Answer

I would think that I would not be able to expect loyalty from her, either. Not all men cheat. Learn to pick better men.

genericname85 · Answer

i'd be like ok but i expect loyalty from you xD

LiamJHayden · Answer

I would assume she plans on having other partners and walk away.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I wouldn't stay with someone who thinks that poorly of me.

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