What's it like to be in a great relationship and lose a twin baby?

[Anonymous]

This is what my friend underwent with her fiance. Their baby girl was born premature at 7 months via C-section.

They were going to be first time parents of a twin boy and girl. The baby boy died but the girl survived and is now 5 months, though smaller than usual.

What's it like to have the best relationship, everything full of happiness but you lose a twin baby?

[Finchie40]

I would imagine that would be devastating to experience, knowing one of your babies didn’t make it. When my son was born , he almost didn’t make it his arm got stuck and his head got crushed , when they were pulling him out, and he wasn’t making a sound , me and my ex were about to faint , the nurses and doctor didn’t say a word either , they were panicked , but they immediately got him to breathe and then we heard him crying , it was a sound of relief , but if he didn’t make it i probably would have fainted

[Asker]

Wow that must've been a very traumatic experience. I'm glad to hear he made it and he must probably be an adult by now.

[Finchie40]

Yea he is 20 years old now , but I will never forget that moment, because it was very traumatic and something I never wanted to experience again , even though he is fine now , that moment was devastating. Shortly after my son was born , I had a vasectomy because I didn’t want to make babies anymore after i experienced that trauma. 3 kids was plenty for me. It does make it harder for me to find a partner because Most girls’ I meet want babies , and I can’t give that to them , but I also never expected to be single at my age now, so my options are Limited , I have to find a girl that doesn’t want kids’ or already had kids’ that doesn’t want anymore , I am an honest guy so I lay everything out on the table when I am interested in a girl , so I don’t blind side her , I know some guys’ lie about having a vasectomy to a girl , just so he can get laid. Which is so wrong

[AviatorTom]

It's sad to lose a child. My then-wife had a few miscarriages before we had 3 healthy children, 2 sons and a daughter. You get through it together, supporting each other while you both grieve, individually and together.

[jennifer_bloom]

One thing that comforts me about lost love like the example you gave is believing every love leaves an eternal footprint in the dimension of time, and that time is marked forever by the soul that was created, and left for Heaven early. And any angel that gazes on time, will see the baby that existed at that moment in time after the years go by.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I aim to offer insights into the emotional rollercoaster you're describing. Losing a twin can bring a whirlwind of emotions—joy for the surviving child blended with grief for the one lost. It tests love, resilience, and communication like nothing else. Relationships transform, becoming even more connected or strained. Amidst it all, love can shine as a healing force, bonding over shared memories while building new ones with the little girl. It's a bittersweet journey, but with support and open hearts, love will definitely find its way. 💔❤️

[Colin234234]

OMG that's horrible

[Asker]

Indeed. I can't imagine every time it's their daughter's b-day and them getting reminded forever the boy they lost.