Guys, if a girl asks for space for a couple weeks and temporarily blocks you, what goes through your minds?

[Bozikins]

If she's having an emotional breakdown of some sort, and feels she needs to withdraw and temporarily cut ties to prevent doing something stupid (like lashing out at you) and get herself together, what goes through your minds when she requests it/blocks you?

Do you give her the space she requested, no questions asked? Do you block her back, because fuck her? Do you assume it's a precursor to a break-up and she's done with you, or do you take the time to reset as well (in case she's stressed you out, too)?

Genuinely curious, as I know people have different opinions about blocking people and what that means.

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9 mo

Would your responses change if she had responded to an action of his (albeit irrationally and emotionally) and was trying to remove the triggers, but genuinely messed up and now has no way of getting in touch to communicate that?

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9 mo

Also, is it entirely possible he never even saw what she did, just that she asked for some time, and he just blocked HER for self-preservation?

[Finchie40]

Any partner that asks for space for a long period of time. in a relationship , isn’t a good partner period , selfish people need space because they are selfish and only truly care about themselves and only like the convenience of their partner . Because If you really loved your partner , you wouldn't need that much space from them period , your partner is supposed to be your best friend , your shoulder to cry on , your partner in crime , so by you needing to walk away from them , just shows you only really care about yourself and you don’t really care about your partners’ feelings whatsoever , think how you would feel if your partner told you they needed space from you for a few weeks and told you this lame ass story that they have to figure themselves out , instead of figuring things out together like happy couples do , so you are allowing your selfishness to take the better of you. Most partners’ that need space , are clearly up to no good , they are taking a break from a relationship to experience being single again , and clearly weighing their options to figure out what’s best for them. That’s all fine and dandy but you can’t expect your partner to wait for you with Sucker written on their head. You entered a relationship to experience things and share things together , not separately, if you want to be single you should of stayed single and lived your selfish lifestyle. because being on a relationship means you aren’t single anymore. Love only grows when 2 people choose each other over everyone and everything in this world , your partner should be your top priority the same way you are theirs , if not, that relationship will not last period. When a girl tells me she needs space from our relationship, I tell her take all the space she needs but don’t be surprised when I am not sitting here waiting for
You to return , because of you can walk away from us , then that tells me you only really care about yourself and that I am just a convenience to you , I don’t want to be a convenience to anyone , I want a lover to love me the same way I love her , so if I meet someone else while you are away taking space , oh well , you should of thought of that before choosing selfishness.

[Bozikins]

That's exactly what he did, shut down and told me it was to work on himself. I reached out to talk, and was met with so much resistance and silence, I got upset and said I needed some time to calm down.

[Bozikins]

Also, a week or two is a long time?

[Finchie40]

Yes that’s a long time , it sounds like the both of you hit a road block in your relationship for whatever reason , Did something happen for him to be resistant and silence to you? Did you do something or say something for him to act this way towards you?

[ohsheeT]

Well first of all I would sit down a talk first.

And i would say do what you want. But this is about us. So we should deal with it together because that's is what is going to tell us if we are going to work or not

I probably would want to be just friends after that.

[Bozikins]

He shut down and stopped communicating effectively beforehand, like I was irritating him just for asking. I was drunk and got upset and later, I came back to apologize and said I needed some time to clear my head. I was spying on him through social media, which I didn't need to do, but I hit unfollow instead of restrict, which was dumb. Now, I'm blocked and can't even explain it was an honest mistake.

[ohsheeT]

Well every thing in this world happens for a reason

May e your not supposed to be together and this is just one of the things that would inlighten you

Give it a week or so and see if he contacts you

[Anonymous]

She can have all the space she wants. At this age, as you get older you don’t cry about it. It is what it is. Continue w my life. Men cry too much over women trying to get them to not break up w them, trying to win her over, pleading w her. Men need to just say ok good luck to you. Stop looking pathetic as a man crying for her to stay.

[Anonymous]

That she's playing mind games and is unworthy of my time, attention, or respect, and I remove her from my life and treat her like she doesn't exist.

The I need space shtick is almost always translated to "I just wanna fuck someone else for a while, then I will come back to you and give you my sloppy seconds."

Sorry, no man in their right mind will accept a 2 week break where he gets blocked. If you need that kind of thing, you're doomed to failure.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh and your justifications are irrelevant. Having a breakdown and pushing the person who is supposed to be the most important person in your life away, the one who is supposed to emotionally support you is stupid at best, a mind game at worst.

[Bozikins]

So even if it was a response to something HE did that SHE handled poorly and acted out in the heat of the moment, it's her fault?

[Opinion Owner]

Stop moving the goal post... That is not part of the original post, so my answer is not meant for that.

[Opinion Owner]

Logical fallacy used "moving the goal post"

Moving the goalposts is a logical fallacy where someone keeps changing the criteria for an argument after evidence has already been presented to meet the original requirements. This tactic is used to dismiss evidence, avoid admitting defeat, and prolong a debate indefinitely by making it impossible for the other side to win.

[Bozikins]

I updated it, though...

[Opinion Owner]

Again moving the goal post, you updated the question after you commented on my thread, and updating the question is still moving the goal post.

People like you intentionally exclude facts from the question, so you can update it later and... Move the goal post.

[Bozikins]

So condescending... I was replying to other messages as i read them, not "moving the goal post." Boy, someone learned a new expression and is hellbent in weaving it into this conversation, isn't he?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, don't care. And your interpretation of my words is irrelevant.

[Anonymous]

Rather than continuously lashing out blocking or withdrawing how about actually sitting there and talking to him in a civilized manner instead of behaving like an immature childish stock raving lunatic. Everything you described shows emotional immaturity rather than grown adult behavior

[Opinion Owner]

Listen as someone who's had all this happen to me for almost 2 years now it gets very sickening and mentally draining with her constant nonstop endless drama and constant fighting especially when all i want is peace for once. Every time i think me and her are past something or something is water under the bridge NOPE a big fat NOPE she will continuously drag any and all wrongdoings up from the past regardless of how few and minor they were and regardless if they were good intentions with her continuously and repeatedly dragging me through the mud making me continuously walk on eggshells never knowing when she's going to snap with her multi polar personality it feels like constant hell rather than heaven not once in almost 2 years has she ever said one good thing about me to people not once and she sure as hell never told me she loves me despite all my best efforts of bending over backwards to make her happy

[Opinion Owner]

I could pay her a million compliments but the slightest thing she feels doesn't suit her regardless of how small it is she will zero in on that and target that and endlessly use that against me continuously to no end and use that minor thing to other people so she can have more ammo to use against me for bashing me and name calling me in front of other people with her endless smear campaign against me and glossing over and blatantly ignoring all the other millions of good things I've done for her

[Opinion Owner]

Imagine going through this for almost 2 years plus the continuous death threats, the endless threats, the constant name calling and ridicule, the false accusations i could go on and on

[Bozikins]

I tried that. He'd withdraw more. I talk face-to-face, he hides behind a screen. I got fed up.

[Bozikins]

There was also no name calling, no bashing of anyone, or anything like that. The only hurtful words exchanged were about disappearing for a while.

[Alex-Snow]

Boz I'd give her time to chill out and let her know that when/if she is ready to see how things are going to call me. Yes I would miss the sex and have to take matters into my own hand but I'd survive!

[Staximus]

If a girl blocks you that means fuck off, end of story.

[Staximus]

I don't play stupid games like that.

[Bozikins]

I'm new to the world of blocks, because I think they're childish myself. I just wanted to restrict updates. I had no idea the ramifications.

[Iron_Man]

There’s no reason to block me if she does, I’m out especially if it goes two weeks total, disrespect

[RedInnocent69]

That’s she already left in her mind and don’t count on her coming back

[Bozikins]

Why would she have already left if she tells you when she's coming back? Why wouldn't she just tell you it's over?

[RedInnocent69]

Not saying she wouldn’t, but that’s not what you asked

[Anonymous]

I would understand if she needs space and I would give it to her. But blocking me? That would raise some red flags.

[Bozikins]

In what way, if you don't mind elaborating?

[Opinion Owner]

I mean if you ask him for space and he keeps bugging you, that's one thing. But if you just block him out of the gate, it sends a pretty strong message.

[Bozikins]

I think I was the one bugging HIM, so I removed myself.

[Fireguy17]

nope, she is banging someone else.

[Bozikins]

How did you reach that conclusion, exactly? Why would she set a deadline for the space period if that were the case?

[Fireguy17]

Voice of experience.
Ask yourself this, how would you know an exact date that you would know that you would be able to make a relationship decision, but block off all contact?

[Bozikins]

If I said I'm going no contact for two weeks, that's exactly what that means. I wouldn't even be in the emotional state to entertain another man.

[Bozikins]

Also, it wasn't even two weeks, that was an example. Not everyone is a serial cheater or out to intentionally hurt someone. My goodness.

[jahaims]

She is mentally ill and im out

[Bozikins]

Well, technically, we both are, that's why we're seeking professional help independently. But that doesn't answer the question.

[fish5505_87]

Red Flag!

[Bozikins]

How so? Do you mind elaborating?

[fish5505_87]

Red Flag meaning, be cautious! Block is extreme, I am assuming there is a relationship in place, like boyfriend/girlfriend. If so, then there should have been some dialogue first? Usually in hard times we cling to our closest?

[Bozikins]

There was a monologue, since I got no response when I tried talking to him about it. The discussion was about us, but he wouldn't respond, and I acted irrationally and did something I'd never actually done before with little understanding of how it worked.