Would you rather a girl tell you straight up that she likes you, or keep it subtle so you have to chase?

[that_one_girll]

(The hunters vs. communicators debate — never dies.)

[OneViewpoint]

I'm a communicator. I'm not into playing power struggle games or dominating a woman in the early stages of a relationship. If you like me let me know. There's not gonna be any "aha, I own her now" moment, LOL. That stuff is childish and insecure. I don't have time for it. The thought process would be more like, "OK, maybe this is worth investing my time in". But I also realize that not every guy is like that. So being honest comes with risk. I get it.

But the "communication" doesn't have to be overt or even verbal. It could be indirect like being available, picking up the phone or replying to texts. It could be a smile and a simple "I'm having fun" or, "I like being around you". Just a little nudge that tells me I'm headed in the right direction. Or... being honest and not wasting my time... "I don't think is gonna work out for me". OK, disappointing, stings for a bit, but I'd appreciate the consideration for my time and emotional investment and money.

[HawkPerception]

Straight up. I hate games. I feel like women have been brainwashed by society to act stupidly with their subtle hints that no guy ever notices. Guys want to feel desired just as much as girls. Guys hate rejection as much as girls. We're just more used to it, because it's how we've lived, expecting that we won't have girls ever approach us.

[ShellyB]

Asking guys this question is funny! It is like asking “would you rather know the lowest price you can buy the car for right away, or would you rather they tell you a higher price at first” or something like that, where obviously it’s better for one side if everybody is honest and it is better for the other side to keep some information to themselves at first.

“Yes I want girls to throw themselves at me and get viewed as desperate by their friends!! It makes it easier for me, who cares how it affects them!!"

[BarryLiverstone]

How would it negatively affect her if she communicated

[ShellyB]

@BarryLiverstone Other than her friends thinking she is desperate and guys thinking she is easy it would be fine!!

[BarryLiverstone]

But it’s not desperate if you think someone is attractive. Obv you would need to talk to them to see if there is chemistry or if it’s just skin deep. Desperation is another thing altogether.

[BarryLiverstone]

And yes, it’s desperate on both sides to throw yourself at someone and say you want to date them. I’ve had girls do that and it feels awkward as they didn’t know me

[ShellyB]

@BarryLiverstone Casually saying “oh Evan is cute” or whatever is no big deal but going up to Evan and saying “I like you, do you like me” or some version of that, I would honestly say if you do it one time you will be teased, if you do it twice you will be viewed a certain way. I don’t mean by Evan who knows how he will see you, and in the long run it doesn’t matter much, I mean by your friend group and social circle, people talk and people remember things. It isn’t usually strangers in a bar. If it is strangers in a bar that is different there are different things to worry about (less social more physical) anyway someone can agree with me or not I am just saying how a lot of people think, and basically why girls are rarely going to walk up and hit on you. We will be judged.

[BarryLiverstone]

In that context it makes sense. When I saw the question my context was strangers at a bar or event.

[BarryLiverstone]

Thank you for clarifying

[katiesmuff]

I liked a bit of effort involved to the guys that I had any interest in which was numerous for sure. I did without being straight forward would certainly give the signs that I was interested. I never made them chase very hard however.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach on Girls Ask Guys, my aim is to help guide you through the mysteries of human connection. In this case, embrace the direct approach! Let's face it, lovebombing with honesty is always refreshing. A confident confession beats ghosting any day, avoiding those "I think she's just not that into me" scenarios. Plus, who doesn't love a bit of flirtatious banter when the feeling's mutual? 😘

[Chazmatazz269]

Women definitely need to use their big girl words when they’re interested in a man. “The game” is for children. You don’t get to select for immaturity and then b*tch when your mate is immature. If you want to date grown folks, you have to date like grown folks.

[ohsheeT]

Well rather tell me.
But 98% of the time I'm going to see it or feel it and then ask her before she tells me

[Finchie40]

She is best to tell me straight up and not play games

[AviatorTom]

I like blunt, keeps me from wrongful guessing.

[Zack-Bann]

I would rather she tells me straight up
But not with a gun to my head for me to say it back


But manufacturing a “chase” is just childish


Nothing wrong with having a spicy and tasteful experience.
Back and forth teasing and such


But purposefully pushing me away in a ploy to make me run after he is not the way to go

[Lliam]

I was never into chasing. I want to know that she likes me. But she doesn't have to come right out and say it. I mean, it's okay if she does, but she can show it in other ways like hanging around me, chatting, showing interest, or by the look in her eyes.

[HighValue]

Telling straight up would be much better, especially since multiple women do the exact same action and some think they are flirting and others think the guy is harassing them if he responds. So many women have no idea what they are doing or how to interact with people, it would be better to just be direct.

[FunkyMonkee]

I'd rather she tells me, it wastes a LOT less time!! All the days, weeks, months we've spent playing hide & seek, we COULD'VE been getting on with our lives!! Or, if she DOESN'T like me, why keep it a secret and let me waste all that time chasing someone I'll never have when I COULD'VE been using that time for other things? Unless we have easy access to a time machine, time is something we'll NEVER get back!!

[genericname85]

just tell me ffs xD i don't have time for that emotional cat and mouse nonsense. like why would i have to "chase" a person i want? why should they not chase me? why should anyone "chase" anyone if they already like each other? doesn't make sense to me.

[AgentG111]

If she wants truth and honesty in the relationship then be blunt. If you want a chase and fight for you, plan on him always second guessing everything about you and his pursuit, realizing there's always someone better than you.

[Anonymous]

Straight up!

Most women are the opposite of straight forward about their feelings when they like a guy. We can't tell if you're flirting or just being friendly. We have to guess, and we get judged when we get it wrong. Half of women complain they can't be friendly with a guy without him thinking she likes him, and they other half complain men are too dumb to recognize it when a woman is flirting with them. And often they are the same women. It's a problem of women's own making.

[UniquelyBasic]

I want her to be subtle to lead me on and when I don't pick up on her signals she'll get pissed off at me for being an idiot. It's the best 🥴

[sawno]

Please just tell me, works a lot in your favor since in this society subtlety can't always be acted upon.

[tzdc21]

Just straight up tell us. The guessing game isn't exciting, its only exhausting and frustrating.

[Nikki1989]

Most women will tell you straight up regardless of what the clueless women haters on here might say. Nobody likes playing games.

[slatyb]

She doesn't need to tell me directly, she can just invite me to dinner or whatever. It's the same thing, but less emotionally charged.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

Ladies, render the salad upon Caesar. We done chasing y'all.

[TrueConfection]

😂😂😂

[PrinceAlbert57]

Subtle. I think everyone likes a little flirty attention so keep it going as long as you can.

[exitseven]

I always hated it when girls would play these games

[Staximus]

Some women will sit there like a bump on a log and expect a guy to know she likes him. Spare me that kind of mysterious bullshit.

[MJVillarama]

Just be real with it, honesty wins every time.

[jahaims]

Subtle for chase is immature af. Communicate like an adult instead of playing immature games

[Anonymous]

Yes, because I'm too shy, and I can't make the first move... that's why I prefer dominant and self-confident girls who like to take initiative.

[Pohjolan]

Straight up if I'm interested and subtle if I'm not so its all just in her mind.

I don't want unnecessary extra drama.

[Anonymous]

Every single time I prefer her being direct. I'm a retard in those situations.

[LiamJHayden]

Just say it. I cold approach, but can be completely blind when one is already interested.

[Anonymous]

If I feel like I have to chase, I feel like she doesn't like me, and I find that unattractive. I know that's not what girls mean when they try that, but that's what it feels like to me.

[lorenzomichael]

Fuck the chase just tell me we’ll have our fun together on the run..

[Godihateyou]

If she is American id rather her fuck off. If she's south Asian she should tell me so we can get married.

[RedWine9]

I like it somewhere in the middle; keep it thing intriguing.

[Twalli]

If a girl plays "hard to get" I won't chase her.

[Rosemaiden]

Chasing could be fun.. but sometimes I'm overwhelmed with my feelings and pour it over a guy!

[DannyUk2017]

On this Day/Age chasing is Out the question.

[chrissykerdock]

if he cums in your mouth i get he likes me

[Brady]

A girl tell me she likes me.

[Iron_Man]

I want to hear it now

[Iron_Man]

Because if you have to chase then every time you get into a fight, you’ll have to chase her as well and I’ll be chasing her forever always doing everything

[Shy_Steve]

Straight up and then I can do the rest.

[msc545]

Straight up, I'm much much better.

[blackeagle007]

Straight up. I hate guessing

[Sebastian100]

I would like it if she tells me

[robocop666]

Straight up as they do

[MasterKS]

now its a era woman should be open.

[Anonymous]

Thats aggressive. Aggression is not love

[BarryLiverstone]

Communicate.

[Pterodon]

Fuck the chase.

[kiwimiwibiwi]

Be straight up

[guesswhereivebeen]

Make it known

[shortster]

Tell me