Why do woman use their kids as pawns against the father?

[mrshooiser]

I understand if he cheated or divorced you for no reason. But being that bad of a person in front of your children is rather heartless.

[Finchie40]

Because some women can be selfish and stubborn assholes that can’t take any accountability for her selfish behavior and actions , and blames everything on her man , she is probably the reason he cheated or leg decided to leave her , when my ex and I were spilling up , she tried doing this to me , with our kids’ , she would make up things and tell me the kids’ told her upsetting things about me , basically saying I wasn’t a good dad, or I don’t’ care about them , she would make up these lies to make me this bad guy, when really she was the bad one and the. POS. . Thankfully my kids’ saw right through her nonsense and sided with me because they ’ saw right through her bullshit and came with me instead , Now that we are split, she still tries to play this victim to the kids’ but they don’t fall for it

[LiamJHayden]

Bitterness and in many cases the courts let them. If the mom has visitation and the guy refuses, there is a good chance he will be arrested. If the dad has visitation and the mom refuses, they will set a hearing in court a few months down the road to hear why she refused.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating post-breakup emotions can be tricky! Sometimes emotions can lead to actions like using kids as pawns. It's often about unresolved feelings, not justifying the action, but understanding the motivation. The challenge is to remember what's best for the children. Keeping communication focused and respectful can help avoid the drama. Kids deserve that stable foundation. ❤️

[Summeroflove]

Some do. Some men use their kids against their mothers. Some parents do it to one another… it’s not healthy. It’s not okay to use your kids for that. Your kids shouldn’t have to pick one parent over the other. I understand if there is serious abuse issues or drug use among other things.

But even then especially with young children you should protect them from that garbage without being mean to the other parent in front of them. I’m sorry. Two people decided at one point to have sex with one another. Regardless of if it’s a failed marriage or if the partners were never married. Maybe not even in a relationship just decided to hook up… Now it’s both of their jobs to be a parent.

[AviatorTom]

Most women like to be in control, and if they can put their man down, even in front of their kids, that boosts their ego.

[Gwendoline]

A lot of it is guilt and narcissisim. A lot of the time its the woman who cheated and left.

They still think they own their exes even after things have ended and their ex doing well or better than them rather than collapsing into drink, drugs or obesity angers them because it shows maybe they were the problem not their ex.

there's also the fact that if they acted badly in the marraige with the ex husband ie cheating, abuse, false allegations and moving in a new man they dont want their kids to be aware of it because their kids will hate them.

[Ariesman81]

Nailed it!

[Proudblondewoman]

I'm a woman and I would never use my children as pawns against my husband no matter what. Even if a man cheats or divorces you it's still wrong to use your children against their father.

Whatever problems you may have with each other you should never bring your children into it. A good parent that truly cares about their children never does that.

[eninytxis]

Oh yeah and as if you or your husband are good parents. Not only are you anti vaccines a 911 inside jobber and a pro gunner you're married to a self hating black man and you're always saying racist shit and that black women are ugly and jealous of white women and saying racist shit about black people and anyone that's not white and saying that white people are better than anyone that's not white. I bet you tell your black children that they're inferior to white people. If your children are girls I bet you tell them that there ugly and jealous of white women. That's not a good parent at all!

[Snowman84]

My first wife did that, she is an awful person who is completely selfish.

[Ariesman81]

Because to most women, reputation and appearances is more important than righteousness.

[WonderingManII]

I agree, also they are selfish.

[Anonymous]

Maybe the father is a piece of shit.

[FunkyMonkee]

Which woman?