Why are there so many fathers willing to give all the responsibility to the mother?

[CherryK]

I just noticed so many single mothers busting their butts to be both a provider and nurturer to their kids and the fathers just live their life as if they dont have a kid or they dont fight for their kid. Maybe they pay child support and they feel its enough for their kid. Whats worse is there are parents still together and the mother still does more for the house and kids than the dad. Why are mothers more invested than fathers? Are we raising the boys to do less?

[HollyK21]

I think it depends on the guy and who he is as a person. There are plenty of men who love being involved and even if they aren’t with the mom, co-parenting is easy and fair, with both putting equal effort. Some men just aren’t in that place, whether it’s because of age, not having wanted kids in general, and the list of “reasons” is endless. I’d advise any woman to just be careful who they sleep with, because I do believe that some guys will show signs of what sort of parent they’d be, just based on how they treat that woman or people overall.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

@BarryLiverstone Is correct.
Also, the father might not be top notch either. A good father would be involved and participating in both their child’s and their girlfriend/wife/mother’s life.

[Anonymous]

Because these women are willing to marry or have children with men who are useless...

My wife is a stay at home mom. I work full time but do all the cooking, laundry, bills, vacuuming, fixing the cars, fixing the house, replacing the water heater, managing all networking infrastructure, yard work, help with kids' homework, organize and execute vacations, sports with kids, plan doctors appointments...

My wife worries about nothing. I'll tell you this though- she gives awesome head. lol

[TheorionMage]

NO! Those Mothers thought with their hearts, blinded to the type of man they allowed to fertilize them~
They MADE their choice and perhaps they thought his offspring would bind him.
And SHE was not pragmatically cold enough to put HIS bastard/ess up for adoption or abort~

[Lionman95]

My answer is yes. We do less, I did most in my childhood less housework than my sister did. That way many guys can´t cook and therefore consume fast food as a meal because that way they can stay home and have less need to think about cooking and do other things instead.

[BarryLiverstone]

There are many reasons but a big one is that so many people are raised by one parent and they just repeat the pattern. Kids raised by married parents who love and support each other are the key role models showing how marriage and relationships work. Too often kids don’t see that example so as adults they make different decisions.

[CherryK]

Sad.

[Anonymous]

Give? You obviously have NO idea about vindictive women that use their children as weapons against the father. It's not always as it seems... from the outside. Courts side with mothers way too often, Leaving fathers out in the cold. All she has to do is cry abuse and his life with his children is ruined. This goes without saying anything about how she vilifies him in the children's eyes, all because she got a boo-boo on her heart.

[CherryK]

I would have to disagree. My sister has been molested by her father and the courts say there's no proof and he has her 4 days out the week.

[Opinion Owner]

And I'd have to agree with your disagreement in part. I didn't say all of anyone. The majority, are the cases I speak of. You know one, or maybe a handful of successful visitation cases. Are you sure your sister wasn't molested? Maybe she was. Maybe Dad is being a good boy because he's on the radar? You been there, watching her or him, 24/7? You know, for sure? I'd wager to say you weren't, so your experience pertains to your case.

All of that said, your comparison isn't a fair one. Dad got/kept his visitation, because there's no proof. He didn't surrender, or abandon his parental responsibility. The question had to do with women being left alone and dads going on their merry way. I know plenty of men that try to see their kids, but as I said, because the women are vindictive, the men can't see them. What woman is going to say, oh he's a wonderful dad, but since we couldn't get along and split up, I fucked his ass in court? People only know what they're told. They speculate over the rest.

Your case and point speak to the correct outcome if in fact he didn't molest. Mine answer pertains to the screwed up cases. The questioner speculating as to why women are apparently left abandoned, and my answer, as to the reasons why women appear abandoned.

Apples and oranges.

[CherryK]

Actually no. Women have to prove any forms of abuse. Because you can't prove molestation if there's no one else around to witness it then its heresay. My sister is too young to understand what happened to her. And unfortunately her father is a schizophrenic. She's repeated what happened to her for the courts at her young young age and it didn't matter.

[Dchrls78104]

In the west it's the laws of the land. Child custody cases almost always go the mother's way. In my country, for example, there was once a man who had a wife and two sons. He was a decent and responsible man and willing and able to provide for his children but she cheated on him and was promiscuous. The law said that the boys had to stay with her rather than with their more responsible father. One day she was found murdered with one of her sons, and one of her lovers was arrested for the crime.

[magiusX26]

look up men's rights and you will see that most are not so willing to but more or less forced to and why. dont feel like going and finding a vid link explaining in to you or typing out that whole shit storm of a convo.

[CherryK]

What?

[magiusX26]

look up in this case google. "men's rights". yes those exist. there are actual organizations that fight for men's rights.

[magiusX26]

one key set of rights being fought for is equality in family courts. custody, child support, asset dividing.

[Anonymous]

NO NO NO

WOMEN TAKE THE KIDS AWAY FACTS

its all over the internet 70% to 80% of men said they want to see their sons and daughters

the women does not want them around
and some times women die cause of it

[CherryK]

So are men incapable of taking care of their kids? And why?

[Anonymous]

because apparently he didn't want kids but she had it anyway, because his wants dont matter so now she's a single mother

[CherryK]

Im sorry but if u raw dog ur basically saying i want a baby with you whether or not she's on birth control.

[Opinion Owner]

Lol do you even hear yourself. "You're saying you want a baby if you have sex with a woman even if she's on birth control."

Like seriously, women are getting pregnant by men they barely no, the man says he doesn't want a kid, the woman says my body my choice and has the child anyway, then wonders why the man doesn't stick around. It's not rocket science

[htmndg183]

If i'm having kids, I need to be there for my child because i chose to have them and they are just as much as my responsibility as they are my wife's :)

[TheFlak38]

you stupid bitch, single mothers are single by choice. Men have literally no say in this. Custody is always given to the mother and the father has no power over anything.

[Anonymous]

You won't want to hear this but most single mothers are single mothers for a reason. Most today simply aren't worth investing in.

[CherryK]

How many single women have you dated

[Anonymous]

Because that has been the norm for so very long. Their own moms were probably the same way especially if they came from a single parent household with only the mother.

[My-lover]

It seems as less because you ignore the other stuff they do

[EaterPeter]

Yet another example of men not having guts to do what it takes

[Iron_Man]

Not everybody is like this