How many cheaters cheat because they want their cake and eat it too?

[Summeroflove]

You see these people. The narcissist picks a man or woman who is… Secure. Stable. Emotionally secure. Supportive. Provides. Protects. Is financially stable. Doesn’t bring drama and chaos but peace…

They want that. They want all these things they want the appearances of having a family.

But they also become bored. Because they like the drama. Like feeling desired. Like frankly when the sex gets boring being able to spice it up…. They can have the best of both worlds and don’t think their partner or family will ever find out about what they’re secretly doing. And then… they play the victim.

[SoccerPlayer99]

That cake is fun in the moment but very devoid of anything meaningful after that moment. It's a high you grow to get used to and chase. It's almost as if you cut bits of your empathy out yourself as you do it. Numbing yourself to what you are doing not only to your partner but to your soul. I'm reminded of little Wayne's song "Love Me"

little Wayne "But it's like soon as I cum, I come to my senses"

[jahaims]

All cheaters cheat to cope with self hate

[Summeroflove]

It’s not the only reason. People take away from the fact too that people want pleasure and gratification

[WhitneySnow]

I think most cheaters are like that. But they’re not all narcissists.

[Summeroflove]

Not all. But the more serial ones yes

[Summeroflove]

Narcissist at best

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the age-old "have your cake and eat it too" scenario! You're spot on, my friend. Some cheaters absolutely thrive on the excitement and drama that an affair brings, while still desiring the stability and security of their main relationship. A lot of them get hooked on feeling desired and spicing things up, like it's a secret double life. It's like they're living in a soap opera! The narcissistic cheater loves to play the victim card too—anything to avoid facing their own shady actions. Always trust your instincts and stay fabulous! 💃😘

[Anonymous]

Probably most of them.

[Anonymous]

All of them

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe over the years a spouse becomes less attractive?

So the only sex is sex with someone else?