Is it worse when they do everything like if they were in a relationship with you but aren't?

[Anonymous]

Like the person you love treats you like they love you too in so many different ways but won't commit to you in that way.

[Shiprex]

If they are doing those things and you sense they are doing it out of duty and not love then you can leave them.

[Shiprex]

@asker thanks for the MHO

[spartan55]

Could this be any more confusing?

[Asker]

Like they talk to you everyday. Have sex with you when they can. Say everything but the L word.

[Asker]

We're long distance but he has said that he would visit me everyday if I was close

[spartan55]

So what is your question? You are getting used for sex.

[Asker]

That's what I'm trying to figure out

[spartan55]

You are trying to figure out why you are being used for sex? Huh?
Because you allow it? Hello?

[Asker]

No it seems more than that. We talk everyday. He comes to me about things going on in his life like a boyfriend or husband would do. He treats me like a wife without the title.

[spartan55]

Omg really? And why do you think he does that? Hmmmm

[Asker]

I know how it sounds but I really think it's more than just sex

[spartan55]

It's not. Trust me. Is there a plan and timeline in place for one of you to move close to the other? Do you have a committed relationship with him? If not, why not?
You are being incredibly naive. He is enjoying serious boyfriend benefits with zero commitment, which you are giving him for free. He has it made right now.

[Asker]

You're right. I know I need to end things but I don't know how. He's become such an important part of my life.

[spartan55]

If you are happy with the way things are then go for it. Just know it's never going to level up at all.

[Theunfadeable]

Saying the L word is the easy part. I’ll say you the L word if you promise to like my comment. If somebody is actually makes you feel loved then that’s what you should be focusing on.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic almost-but-not-quite relationship dilemma! 😅 It can feel like you're living in a rom-com that just won't roll the credits. When someone treats you like you're in a relationship but won't commit, it can be a real heart-tugger. It's like having the full Netflix package without the subscription! This can sometimes be a red flag, as it might indicate they're enjoying the perks without the strings—cue the ghosting and lovebombing! Dive into what you're truly looking for in a relationship, and communicate your needs. Remember, you deserve someone who's all in! ❤️

[MrChinaski]

Meh. People have baggage. Talk to them about what you are ready for and why it matters to you; don't go in with a 'this is what I give you and you treat me badly' attitude. They aren't going to change their approach overnight. Then you are back choosing between riding it out and seeing or grazing in greener pastures. Talking is always good. Them understanding your needs is progress.

[Anonymous]

Ask for exclusivity and tittle. Cat got your tougue?

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure, I've never been in a relationship.