I have been the person that ended a relationship, then after a few months started dating other guys. Only to find that maybe it doesn't quite work out, then my ex comes back again. And I'm talking about months of no contact. At some point he even went as long as a year. And because the love was so strong I tried to work things out. But he was hurt.
Explaining that actually he felt betrayed because I got with someone else.
But I don't see the logic.
We were done. Maybe for him he can't see the reason why I went out there so quickly but I was a highly sociable person and meeting lots of new people practically everyday.
Although I wasn't the type to have one night stands if I met someone and it felt like we had a connection I went for it because well I actually wanted to be in a relationship.
Some people date just to have fun. But I was getting myself out there to start the life I wanted with someone.
His blowing hot and cold left me miserable. He wanted me but didn't want it to be "serious" even though we been doing the same dance for 10 years.
One day someone has to give in. And unfortunately I couldn't keep waiting for his ass to finally decide that now was the time he was going to commit to me.
If we exclusive that cool but when the person turns around and tells you they wanna keep things casual they're just playing games.
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If you are broken up you are no longer an item so all bets are off. If it was just a time out to re-evaluate your relationship with the goal to work things out and give it another go, then that I would classify as cheating. In that case I would make the break up permanent. But that's just me. Some will take them back anyway because in their eyes it is better to have a cheater than no one. Doh!
Of course I would I'm human but at the same time I have to stop and say thank you for showing me exactly who you are and what you're all about and I'm looking for something better than that because I'm worth that and I hope you can feel the same way I hope you do the same thing I did walk away
That was his moment in time to prove to you how much did he cares for you by not doing what he did well you can see how much you cared and I guarantee you is manipulation is already started try to get you back but I will tell you what you taking back he's going to do the same thing over and over
I don't do that "break up and make up" nonsense. I tell any girl I'm with that she can leave the relationship at any time - the exit door is right over there, but know before you use it: it's a one-way door, and once you walk out of it, there is no way to ever get back in.
If you want to have messy relationships - breaking up or "taking a break" and that crap, then you're always going to have messiness. I don't play that game. I'm an adult, and I expect her to be an adult and to treat our relationship like it has adult importance.
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Betrayed no.. Just no longer interested and wouldn't go back to them...
Damn I expected better from the gag community especially the older demographic.
If you're broken up that means you're single how is it a betrayal?
And what does that mean "broken up for now"? Did you set a deadline to this breakup? Because that's not how things work.
If one or both of you need some time off you do it but you don't break up, it means you're still a couple you're just not seeing eachother on the regulat for a while to detox some bad stuff, in that case yeah sleeping around is still cheating.
But if you explicitly broke up and reverted back to being single then everything goes and no one owes the other anything.This actually happened to me. About 12 years ago, my then-bf broke up with me for a couple weeks. A couple weeks later, he called apologizing and wanting to get back together. I agreed. We had sex, and I ended up getting a freakin disease from him. Luckily, it was curable, but what a piece of shit he was for not even bothering to tell me. Apparently he slept with someone else while we were broken up. Now, I don't do the on-again off-again thing anymore. I think a "break" might just be a loophole for them to sleep with someone else and say it's not technically cheating.
This happened to my brother. Dated a girl for 5 years I think. They broke up and she slept with this guy that he kept warning her about that she thought was a friend. He kept telling her the guy was into her. Well she slept with that guy. My brother felt very betrayed and definitely her decision severed ties. I don't get it. I choose to have very low expectations of people so if you guys are going to break up don't expect them to take your feelings into account still. That's just common sense to me.
No -- if you're broken up, you're not together anymore, or then what would be the difference in feelings if you were NOT broken up? LOL If you're broken up, how do you know it's "at the moment" and only temporary? That's called a time out, and if you don't specify that you're having one, it's a break up !
That feeling of betrayal is nothing more than you wanting the other person to have missed you enough, or regretted the break up enough, to still be miserable. When you hear he/she is sleeping with someone else, you feel angry that you've been so easily replaced sexually, and so quickly.Yeah I would think she broke up just to find a reason to have sex with another person. Like the break up was doneo n purpose. We would never get back together after that. She can go be with the other guy, cya. I don't date people that sleep around that easily anyways.
It would only validate the break-up even more. If we break up, whatever she does is none of my concern. Just as I have. No "break" and then getting back together. If it's over, then it's over. I don't look back when breaking up. I move on with my life and find a better person.
No. If we are broken up,
and . She bangs another guy.
she's fair game,
If you think you can get in her pants you go for it.
i dont blame her or him,
and if we got back together. It is what it is,
it happened and so what.No. If you two broke up, then that gives both people freedom. If you feel betrayed, perhaps you haven't fully found closure in your relationship, or perhaps you don't want to. And for many people that is totally natural and over time it gets easier. 🖤
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if i did it on a break it wouldn't mean i don't love my boyfriend anymore, the new guy could even be comforting and help with the hurt of the breakup, so if my boyfriend did it i would think the same thing and be open to getting back together if things went that way
Betrayed no, but that would pretty much ruin any chance of getting back together.
Some people will cause a fight and then breakup so they can do what they were thinking about, then want to come back.
How would anyone know if that would happen in the future, could they constantly create drama to have a fight to walk out, sleep around then come back and try to get together?
The pattern is set.
I wouldn't go sleep with another guy, unless I was never going back.Uh, if we're 100% broken up then I'm moving on and not thinking of her as my girlfriend. If it's more of an argument and time apart that's different. In that situation I'd think she's saying she's not into me enough & it's time to make the break permanent. Why would she even let me know she got with another guy except to send me a message.
Well “broken up at the moment” means it’s not a real break up, and everyone is entitled to their own feelings… so of course it’s okay to feel the way you do! I’d definitely be upset and hurt. I don't know the details but I don't know if he’s worth returning if he’s already hooking up with another person.
If it was a very short break up... day or week or 2... I wouldn't want her anymore.
I move on.
If it was a year long break up... probably ok... if she had a boyfriend.
Hook ups... kink... threesomes or anythimg like that... no I don't want her.I don’t date or have relationships anymore but if I did and they wanted to take a break, I don’t do breaks. Either you want to be with me or you don’t. There are no breaks. If they wanted a break I’d assume they didn’t love me as much as they claimed and I’d leave
If you're broken up, then what they do is not your business. They're single as well and you can do as you please while single. Doesn't make it wrong, but I see where you are coming.
Now if you're talking about a "break" then your basically broken up as stated earlier. No one is committed to you if you're broken up.People feel betrayed in that situation because the other person was "supposed to be heartbroken and waiting for me to come back". The breakup was a power tactic to let them 'see what they're missing', but instead they went on their way, so now you don't feel as important as you thought you were.
It's called narcissistic injury. You are not, in fact, the only woman in the world. Get over it.My wife and I were separated which I didn't really know the rules but she said we were just like we were single not married. But I still felt married and she wanted to be free and slept with one of my friends that I've known for 30 years and yeah it felt quite personal it hurt really bad I was depressed for a long time and it took two and a half years to meet somebody that I really like a lot but I'm still in the dreaded friend zone. me.
I guess it'd depend on why we broke up, how long it had been, if it was more of a break with the knowledge we would get back together soonish, etc. Either way, I might FEEL betrayed but I also would acknowledge it wasn't an actual betrayal. Really depends on the circumstances though. Like if you felt he didn't really care about you or that he wanted to get with other people while you were together and he immediately did so right after you broke up, that would be a red flag to me.
You're broken up, what happens during that period is neither individuals business. If you get back together. Then it isn't any different than saying for the first time and learning they have slept with people before. Suck it up
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