If you were on a break in your relationship and your partner slept with someone else, would you count this as cheating?

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Dbdkfofnf · Accepted Answer

Nope.

A break from a relationship is basically a stage where you're reconsidering the relationship.

Despite what people believe, or feel... you can love someone, but never, ever own them. What you go through with that person, even during this break, I believe determines how strong the love to begin with. If someone cheats they obviously never really cared. If they did, you wouldn't cross this line.

I don't do breaks. I just break up if they don't want to keep working at it.

skytatoe · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't take a 'break', in or out, not 50-50.
But in an alternate universe where I would do such a thing. No its 'technically' nkt cheating. Technically. Thats it. Id dump her faster than she can snap her fingers.

guccitaee230 · Accepted Answer

Damn I would, we didn't break up totally. If it's just a small break because we need to think things through and that, I wouldn't be with someone else neither can. Nah uh, I would break up with him if he did

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

yes... it's not a break up. Just time out. So it just proves why the relationship wasn't worth staying anymore.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

I would. A break means exactly what it sounds like- you need a break or some space from the other person, ideally to reevaluate things.

It doesn't mean, "We're broke up so I can have guilt-free sex!" Smh, that's why some relationships are so screwed up nowadays- people don't talk through their problems!

Either end the relationship completely, or work it out- that's how I see it.

GoodManDave · Answer

Marriage, yes. Dating, probably not... but I’d still have so many issues of her sleeping with another guy in such a short time, that I think I’d be done with the relationship, even if I didn’t call it cheating or see it as such, even if I decided we should get back together after the break... but then my break would probably be a week long, at most.

The fact she can get it WAY too easily, or that she planned it, or that it seems like she did it for revenge, it seems too self destructive for me to be attracted to her or respect her after.

I would not be seeking other women, even if I saw the break as “freedom!” To me, even if the relationship is over - definitely over - I probably wouldn’t even DATE someone new at least for a month after the dust settled. There has to be a kind of “mourning period.”

DanishSaint · Answer

I don´t completely get the term "being on a break". Well, obviously, I know the meaning, but I don´t think it makes any sense. Either you are together or you are not, but anyway. If you decide between the two of you, that you need some time apart then I would suggest setting up a couple of ground rules to go along. It´s a really messed up situation, not really knowing if its okay with your partner that you fuck somebody else!! So agree upon it in advance if it really might actually be something that could arise doubt.

SavageSushiRoll · Answer

It’s a break , you guys aren’t technically together. So whatever the individual does before going back to you isn’t really any of your business. If they want to tell you what they did or who they did they will tell you but ultimately it’s the individuals decision. If you get caught up on what they did during a break your relationship if you two decide to get back together will have a foundation issue. You have to love them for who they are now and not what they have done in the past. The past is the past you can’t change it , but if you do keep living in the past you are condemned to repeat it.

Miristheiss · Answer

Yes.

First I don't do breaks. If someone wants a break than I just break up. Secondly, even if I were willing to do a break (which I wouldn't), I'm already emotionally bonded to her so you can't put forth the semantic technicality that we were on a break and suddenly expect all of the intimacy and bonding we've formed to overlook that they had sex with another person. I'd never have anything to do with her again.

It's different from literally breaking up, having separate lives for a year or two, each dating others and having other sexual partners and then after a year or two bumping into each other again and deciding to try dating again. In that case, sex with others is no big deal.

MatinBrumeux · Answer

If two people have an agreement that they need a little space and time apart, with the idea of getting back together they should both stay faithful.
Otherwise, breakup.
I don't think breaks are helpful if you plan getting back with someone because a couple needs to learn how to communicate and work through problems together, not separately.

worldscolide · Answer

I dont do breaks... i just leave. Typically when a woman says "I want to take a break" when referring to a relationship its because she wants to go off and fuck someone else. So i grant their wish i remove them from my life and dont look back. when they try to contact me later i advise them they made their choice and i have moved on. Taking a break is a manipulative game, and games are something i simply do not play. I see women that play them as beneath me.

EclipseoftheHeart · Answer

Been asked before, but if you are taking a break with the idea of both of you getting back together again, then yes, I would call that cheating and also someone just using the excuse of a break to have sex with others. How lame is that?

MissKittyz · Answer

I never understood the whole point of a break. I feel like you either break up or keep being in a relationship. But anyways, to answer the question, I'm guessing if we are on a break, we aren't actually dating at the moment. So no, that's not cheating. Or else what's the point of a break.

naijagurl · Answer

It depends on what the terms of the break are. Very detailed conditions should be made before a couple goes on a break to avoid misunderstandings like that. For me at least, if my partner slept with someone else while we were taking a break, that would be the end of the relationship for sure.

LegendarySir · Answer

Breaks means a pause, so, technically, the relationship is not active. So it shouldn't be cheating.
That being said, I'd never take a "break", I'd just break up. Breaks are basically "I wanna fuck other people but still have you around just in case I feel lonely again".

Barrabus_the_Free · Answer

Ugh. That's the whole point behind a "break", one of the people wants to fuck other people but not be a cheater.

You know what a "break" means? It means it's over. Finished. Stick a fork in it, cuz it's fucking DONE.

liburnia · Answer

There is not such thing as "on the breake". You're either together or not. If I have to think about the relationship there is something wrong about the whole thing.

anon1903 · Answer

not cheating, I'd be bloody jealous even if I see their arm hooked in somebody else's.

Breaks are cool. You get time to clear your mind, organize your feelings and see what you want. Its no green card for "fucking" someone else. Tbh, I might even end up feeling insecure. Was I not good enough in bed?

I'd not sleep with someone else as long as I'm in relationship, even if my partner on break is okay with it...

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Break is a weenie way of saying we are split up which neither side wishes the other to be happy elsewhere but it is perfectly acceptable if 'I' do, kind of thing. Then when the other does discover some happiness or 'action' while on this, 'hiatus', that other side is only further vilified.

No, it's not cheating. Breaks are just soft breakups where neither should expect the devotion from the other whilst on this 'break'.

lightbulb27 · Answer

yes, taking a break is not ending it. I know both have strong needs, but have some integrity and boundaries. Unless that was the agreement... then it is cheating!

Anonymous · Answer

I'd like to get a ruling on "on a break". The implication is getting back together but is that guaranteed? If so why did you go "on a break"? The simple fact is you're not together anymore. and you can't expect someone to wait for you if you push them away.

CarpetDenim · Answer

Going on a break basically means “let’s temporarily break up so I can fuck someone else and not feel bad about it,” so not really.

dragonfruitA · Answer

Yes. the whole point of taking a break is so you can reflect on the relationship. If you're going to sleep with someone else, you might as well break up.

jxckelynn · Answer

maybe this has nothing to do with this. but a break in a relationship is a damn break up and you’re now single, so do as you please, but have some damn respect for the other person... and for the question i would say it’s cheating unless they literally tell me that they wanted a “break” bc they wanna sleep with someone else..

IAmRedThunder · Answer

Insert Friends “We Were On A Break” quote here

AynonOMouse · Answer

If someone says they want a break, it really means they want to try to be with someone else and if that doesn't work out they will come crawling back.
A break is really a break up. I'd never be with someone again if they said they wanted a break.

CuChullan · Answer

You should set agreed rules for such "breaks". To my way of thinking, if there's a break in a relationship, everything is fair game unless otherwise agreed. And then you spend your "break"policing the rules. Stupid.

Hurlyburly · Answer

I wouldn't be on a break in the first place. The relationship is either over or not, there is no "in between".

Ripper_E · Answer

I don't get breaks, but unless we break up, its cheating. Unless we set terms for each other to where we can see other people. Which is why it's stupid.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Time apart in a relationship is not a hall pass to go fuck someone else.. if that’s their attitude then it’s over 😂

muliebrity · Answer

It'll probably hurt, but no I wouldn't. There was a reason for a break to begin with. To get in touch with ourselves, to see other options

Cage4 · Answer

Lol what's a break in a relationship. Like yea sometimes people need to stay alone and think or wtever but that doesn't mean when in a relationship the other one becomes on the reserves list

BCA6010 · Answer

If we are at the point of "taking a break," then it's already over.

Ayer93 · Answer

No because you're not in a relatiomship with them. You have no right to say anything if they do anything. If you're officially together then it's the opposite.

browneyes13 · Answer

No, we’re on a break and wouldn’t consider it cheating. I would be hurt though.

Jasper7 · Answer

The moment u go out with another girl after u take a break or break up with ur partner. I don't see them coming back tgt

SketchForger · Answer

Are people so insecure that they see "taking a break" as a means of keeping their partner in check?

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

To me when it comes to this it is either work on the problem or break up. There is no in between. I am not one to be taken for granted. The only break I will give is a permanent one.

bill_towers · Answer

A Break means taking your time reflecting about the relationship.  Not fucking around and get Back together. So yes, I Count of as Cheating.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

Nope you can't count that against them cuz being want to break is really being broken up for that time so whatever they doing that time is what they do and you can't hold it against them

sassy_chickx4 · Answer

Yes. He did it to me and then kept accusing me of stuff I wasn't doing

Jager66 · Answer

Yes, it would be cheating and the temporary "break" would then become a permanent break up.

Dude_1820 · Answer

Sums it all up right here lol

Dionigi · Answer

I consider a break as a break up. As soon as a partner asks for some time apart, the relationship is over.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

depends on what you said a break is if its we can see others an be intimate no

crazy8000 · Answer

More like that they didn't really love me and move on without her as a partner, (friendzoned)

ivanhunterjo · Answer

yes because it's a time out not a break up. If she does cheat on you then that proves she didn't value the relationship she was in

Ankitasingh466 · Answer

Im never gonna to take break.

Anonymous · Answer

No, but I would count her as being garbage and never take her back.

Gedaria · Answer

I would say ,, Yes,,!!!

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Its definitely cheating. Dump them and move on.

CoffeeWC · Answer

Only if it was against what they agreed upon.

Tim-loves-it · Answer

On a break? nope, nothing happened.

YvanKarma · Answer

Obviously lol

nipislam · Answer

After broken up every person has self right.

precious299 · Answer

Yes I would

MrKinktastic · Answer

No, it’s a break.

GreyEyedZayah12 · Answer

Absolutely

BlackDawn · Answer

Nope

IkilledCupid_ · Answer

Yes.

winterfox10 · Answer

No, I wouldn't.

Yipee · Answer

I would indeed

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Yes.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yes.

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