Is he in love with me?

[Anonymous]

I was seeing this guy for some 18 months but he was always clear that he doesn't want any relationship. Despite not giving a name to this relationship he spent time with me wenever he could but I always wanted commitment so I decided to move on. When I told him he was like I will be happy if you are happy but he never said to stay however he started behaving like a typical boyfriend after that... spending more time with me sending stuff to my office and surprising me etc however he didn't ever say not to leave him and lets be together or at least accept the relationship. Now I stay with another guy in another country but I can't connect with his guy nor we have a good relationship. I am still in contact with the other guy and so is he. Now he always says I left him and the relationship we shared. I dont really understand what to do coz I love him and can't leave him but he never said that he loves me but all his action does.

[OneNisa]

Which man do you love more? Which one is more emotionally impactful? Is anyone married? Are you married, or are those two men married?

[Asker]

Not a question of whom I love more... of course I love the guy i have been with all this time and I only decided to move forward coz he doesn't want to commit.

[Asker]

I dont love the guy i am with at the moment... just compromising.

[Plugs]

U didn’t find better. Or else u would have ditched him way before

[slatyb]

When someone says they don't want a relationship, believe them. Live is much simpler if we assume that people mean what they say, and if we say what we mean.

[Anonymous]

Why haven’t u demanded exclusivity. U need to have the talk

[Asker]

I did. As I said then he was behaving differently and after I committed elsewhere changed. if I say anything he says he never said for me to leave n he was there. its more like he doesn't know what to do.

[Opinion Owner]

Have a proper exclusivity talk and lay the boundaries of your relationship down on paper

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship guru, the mysterious language of love is my playground. It sounds like you're caught in a classic "actions speak louder than words" dilemma. Your guy might struggle to express feelings with words, yet screams love with his actions. Sometimes, stuff like fear of commitment or communication issues play into this gray area. My glamorous advice? Consider the essence of what you want. A love story needs two willing hearts and shared intentions, not just grand gestures. Trust your feelings but keep the rose-colored glasses off! 🌹🙌

[Asker]

Thank u. I am so confused. Not getting over him and I dont feel anything for the guy I settled with.

[Anonymous]

Stop wasting your time.