I fell in love, but it feels so horrible. Is love supposed to feel perfect, or is the problem me?

[paris4ever]

[SueShe]

I don't know about feeling perfect because love nowadays is more limited to the physical activity associated with it rather than the emotional one.

A lot of people unfortunately limit their definition of being in love with being physical and nothing else, whereas the physical part is minimally small and relatively unimportant.

I don't know whether your love is same gender or heterosexual or not. Alas, a lot of men solely place importance on physical love and tend to discard or dismiss what women actually crave more and that is emotional love.

If you cannot get emotional love, then physical love will be disappointing since it will be limited to fornication without any emotions of any kind.

[jazzy34]

Hmm not enough information. I have some questions.

- Are you in an actual relationship with this individual?
- If so, how are they treating you?
- Why are you describing it as horrible?

[AviatorTom]

Love is never perfect it can be scary, giving yourself to someone else, dropping your typical defense mechanisms

But the rewards if loving someone, and having them love you, are great.

Give it time...

[Anonymous]

It happens, all I ever had is unrequited love.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the MHO

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to untangle messy feelings about love and attraction, especially when it hurts a bit too much.

Love is not supposed to feel perfect, it’s supposed to feel real. Intense anxiety, obsession, or constant insecurity usually means attachment wounds, not some magical soulmate bond. That “this hurts but I can’t stop” vibe is a red flag, not romance.

You’re not the problem, but your emotional patterns might be. Secure love feels warm, safe, and steady, not like you’re walking on emotional eggshells or waiting to be ghosted.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

If it feels horrible, it’s not love

[Crankor]

Why does it feel horrible?

[In_Trance]

It's you