Is it okay for women to depend 100% on men financially?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

No one should depend on anyone financially, that’s the problem with this world, and why a lot of relationships aren’t lasting these days. A relationship is meant to be 2 people working together as a team, to have each others’ backs if something happens to one of you , cuz when you depend on someone financially , you are only hurting yourself , because shit happens in life all the time , . Why I will not get into a relationship with a girl , that depends on me to financially take care of her , because what happens if something happens to me? Like Losing my job , or ending up in the hospital that prevents me from working until I get better etc… A partner should have my back the same way I have hers’ , not one sided. One sided relationships do not last , because it’s not love , it’s just being used by someone that’s taken you for granted , kind of what my ex did to me because she didn’t want to work , but she loved spending money , her spending habits have put her and I in the hole financially because she is a complete moron when it comes to money. So my next partner better have work ethic and knows how to manage money without blowing through it like it grows on tress. My ex has taught me to stay clear of users

Master_Debator · Accepted Answer

Relationships should be the agreement between those two people. One thing that irritates me about the manophere and the feminazi's equally is all these pre-set standards for relationships that they have set in black and white.

If two people really want to be together mutually, they'll figure out a way. One of them isn't standing there refusing to do what it takes because the other doesn't meet this one pre-set standard or requirement like a teacher grading on a checklist.

So yeah, it's okay... fuck what the femanazi's say about that. It's between them and they put in their work their own ways. I mean she might be happier staying at home and grinding her ass off for a bunch of excess material wealth and vacations to France. Maybe spending that 8 hours a day at home with kids or the dogs, suits her better... maybe it suits him just fine. We're not them so we shouldn't judge.

Is it okay for women to depend 100% on men financially?

And with that meme, I depend on my woman financially... I don't hear any complaints inside this relationship... just from the tards that are not a part of it. Over 20 years... what's their LTR's looking like? Yet they judge from their high horses.

emeraldsaphire · Accepted Answer

Well, I just quit my job so I can raise our daughter. Which means I'm financially dependent on my husband for the time being. I do have some savings and investments, but still.

I don't think it should be the default a lot of men use that as a way to control you and that's not good, but in life It can happen and I don't think it's a bad thing

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

I say a woman should have a way to support herself financially without a man. Having your own money makes you independent and able to exit a bad relationship when you need to, or. contribute to and have a financial say in what your plans will be for the present and future. .

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

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It’s “okay” only if it’s a conscious, mutual, and healthy choice, not pressure or manipulation. Total financial dependence can become a huge red flag: control, lovebombing, and harder escape if things go toxic.

Best vibe: emotional partnership, financial teamwork, and your own backup plan. Sexy and safe.

Summeroflove · Answer

Every relationship is different but nobody’s entitled to anything and it’s wrong to use someone without being honest. If you want a relationship that’s about financial benefits and you’re honest about it…. And that man says yes to that marriage. Okay…. You have both agreed on it it may not be my relationship but that’s between you.

If a woman uses a man for money and isn’t ever honest pretending she’s in love with him but would leave him instantly if he lost money or just simply find a man with more money…. Or what also happens dump him for a man that doesn’t have as much but she feels more attracted. Yeah that’s wrong.

If I was in a situation where I was in love with a woman and she loved me but I made significantly more then she does. I would consider the options such as having her stay home and focus on the children and home and myself….. Doing equal work in different situations and some people don’t think it’s fair. Look….. it is if a man’s working 70-100 plus hours a week is mentally and physically exhausted. The woman better be as well….. it sounds mean but it’s one sided if one persons doing all the work including around the home.

Just like there are relationships where both partners work full time jobs but the woman’s expected to do all the womanly things around the home. One sided there as well. Or a woman works so her man can play video games and smoke weed and he refuses to help around the house. I don’t like one sided relationships period.

ohsheeT · Answer

I would say it's up to the man and the woman but then I would also say why would you want to do that why would you not want your freedom of Independence

We all know that things don't go right in relationships sometimes and you want to be able to do what you have to do and not be stuck and not be in that position is something ever does happen you want to be able to do what you need to do when you need to do it and that's the part where I would think that women would not want to depend on a man in that aspect

HawkPerception · Answer

It's whatever the couple wants, but realistically there's not many people who want a partner that just sits there and looks pretty. If you're going to depend on your partner entirely financially, you should at least be doing your part at home, making sure there's cooked food and the place is clean. And that's the bare minimum to ask for, because back in the old days people didn't have all the technology we have nowadays which make that stuff super easy... washing machines, dishwashers, vacuums, steamer mops, etc. Even with kids added in the equation, it's still much easier than women used to have it.

The desire to be a traditional wife is a growing trend because of the lifestyle people envision with it. It's honestly an easy life, that not many men can afford.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

It doesn't matter what the rest of the world thinks about this. All that matters is the opinions of the man and woman involved in the relationship.

AviatorTom · Answer

As a general rule, having all women 100% dependent on men is a bad idea. For an individual woman, in a specific situation, to be 100% dependent may be the best thing to do.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Never. If you love yourself - Don’t.  Always know to depend on yourself. Men come and go.

Rei13 · Answer

It’s okay if a woman does but I don’t think she should. You never know what the future holds and it is good to be able to support yourself

blueonblack22 · Answer

It’s biological for women to be like this. Simply because women have depended on men to provide and protect them for almost all of human history. It’s evolution.

But feminism is trying to defy this to please a small minority of women. And this is leading to discrimination against men along with brainwashing. It’s far more difficult and competitive to be a sole male provider in modern times vs a 100 years ago.

If you want to be 100% dependent on a man. Fine. But you have absolutely zero room to complain when it comes to “gender equality” bullsh*t. Especially if you are an able bodied woman who lives in a western country.

If you want to have his kids and be a good mother to them then great. I respect that. But if you are just lazy and think you are entitled to 100% financial support just because you have a vagina then I have little respect for you.

permanentem · Answer

If you are an adult you should completely take care of yourself 150%. If you can't then you are not worthy of marriage or children. It's as simple as that. You should be carrying more than your own weight so that you can help to support children and so that you can support your partner in times of hardship. People get injured, people get sick, people struggle in the job market at times, etc. So you should always be able to support more than yourself men and women alike. If you can't then you're just fooling yourself that you're not an amateur prostitute.

HighValue · Answer

It can be okay, but if you really want to be partners, it would be better if she had at least some income. If he ever got sick or injured, which is highly likely at some point in life, it would be much less of an issue during recovery if the woman had at least some income so the couple wouldn't get so far into debt so fast.

For example, getting $500 more into debt each month isn't nearly as bad as getting $1,500 to $2,000 into debt each month. It is best to be prepared when possible.

RingOfFire · Answer

Sure it's okay. It's up to the woman of course, but there is no reason she should feel ashamed if she enjoys that kind of relationship. In fact that is completely natural. Men were designed by nature and evolution to provide and protect women and children and women were designed by nature to have babies and make a comfortable home. These are their natural roles in a family unit which is the building block of the human race for survival. It has been that way for millions of years. A man, a woman and children. That's the building block that keeps our species alive. And men and women are physically and mentally built by nature to optimize them for those family roles.

Kaneki05 · Answer

While it seems nice, it be dangerous for her, the guy could be abusive or simply you two fall out now whom's paying for you?
Ya need a back up plan really or be built up so you can be secure somehow, or you have to really super duper trust them but ya know trust is hard

Staximus · Answer

If she wants to feel like she's trapped in a relationship. Let's say a woman lives with or is married to a guy who is a piece of shit. If that guy makes all the money and the woman has no money of her own but she wants to leave, what is she going to do?

msc545 · Answer

It is not okay at all. If I wanted children, I would have some. And it's okay for children to depend on their parents, including their male parents, financially. I think the women you're talking about are grown-up adults, and they can go out and get a fucking job just like I had to.

Account · Answer

I consider it extremely dangerous and naive.
But that would be her choice. I have no say in it. I would give her my opinion if she asked me about it though.

As for me, I would never want to be in that position for the obvious reasons.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

It is fine to do if the guy has the means but only if the man truly loves the woman and doesn't hold that over her head. And if she has a backup plan if he unexpectedly dies..

MrChinaski · Answer

I think it's pretty hard to build a relationship as equals when one party is asking another for an allowance. Financial contributions do not need to be equal. But a degree of financial independence is healthy.

Anonymous · Answer

It's fine if she doesn't pay for anything (assuming she's still contributing) but she should still work somewhere, anywhere, it could be a few days a week at McDonald's. You never know what the future holds and the longer you're unemployed the harder it is to get a job.

queenofcardio · Answer

You can never depend on someone completely. Anything can happen and the relationship dynamic can change.

nolabels · Answer

If such an arrangement is genuinely wholly agreeable to both parties, I find it to be completely fine. Who else's business is it excepting to themselves.

Kelley1 · Answer

It is good when the man earns the money, and the wife does the cleaning, cooking, child care, and caters to her husband.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Only if they play the full role of a traditional woman, if it's just picking and choosing then I don't think so

jazzy34 · Answer

No. You never know what could happen. You need to be able to stand on your own two feet just in case your husband turns out to be crazy and/or abusive.

lilBigPotato · Answer

It makes you very dependent on a single person. It can work out but also cause you a lot of problems.

menina · Answer

No, they shouldn't. No one should be 100% financially dependent on anyone. Unless they're unable to work.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Shit happens. Best to not put all your eggs in one basket. Leave yourself options. Suspect every man who opposes your independence.

LazerBean · Answer

Only if it is their husband, and only if the woman has the capability of making her own money if she needed to.

CriminallyInsane · Answer

If you and he agree to that, then who is anyone else to say it's not ok? I'd never agree to it though

slatyb · Answer

It's very risky for the woman. If the relationship ends, she will have no career and may have a hard time supporting herself.

RavVid · Answer

It is up to the couple. I wouldn't have a problem with it and it is more a burden on the guy than the girl.

whosnumber_1 · Answer

No, it's not smart to be solely dependent. You should always have something to fall back on. I get that circumstances of children and whatnot make relationships fall into these roles.

msg321 · Answer

Man or woman it doesn't matter if you depend on someone %100 financially this means you are at the mercy of him/her. As long as s/he is good you may be good but if s/he becomes bad you find yourself in the streets and nothing to have.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I could never do it. I like having my own money.

Anonymous · Answer

Hmm 🧐 see some countries, some cultures - are different to Western expectations - however personally as a Westerner the laws here allow men or women to have bank accounts, to own property, etc etc etc - women are free thinkers 🧠

Cleatchaser1 · Answer

You're both adults, so that's up to the two of you if that's how you want things to work.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

If that’s what she wants, sure. I wouldn’t, though. I don’t trust any man like that

thegreenyogi · Answer

Of course it's okay but it not be to everyone's liking.

AngryCarl3 · Answer

It's fine if she doesn't mind being held hostage by someone who might or might not turn into a violent lunatic.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think is healthy for one party to be entirely dependent on the other. You probably should work unless you have kids.

exitseven · Answer

It seems to work for a lot of women but it is hard to know what really is going on with them.

Anonymous · Answer

OK for who? It's not a good idea to depend a 100% on anyone. Life is tough, and when the chips are down you cam only 100% depens on yourself. It's best that everyone keeps that mindset.

Shy_Steve · Answer

It depends on how much money he makes compared to her, If money isn't a problem for him then definitely.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Yes it's perfectly okay and it's the norm in a lot of families and foreign societies...

Ariesman81 · Answer

Kind of irrelevant seeing as you already do.

Qiero · Answer

Nope women should make their own money and leave us alone we’re not doormats

beenherebefore · Answer

If that's what both Partners want.

Agape93 · Answer

That would be retarded

Unycorn · Answer

No. You have to swallow everything he man does.

WhitneySnow · Answer

It’s ok, but it’s not wise

glennos89 · Answer

For me those woman are total red flags

loveslongnails · Answer

Not the greatest idea ever.

jahaims · Answer

Depends on what she provides and who the guy is

AgentG111 · Answer

If that's the relationship they have yes.

Still-alive · Answer

Not in this economy

LiamJHayden · Answer

SAHM, yes. Just because she is lazy, no.

LC75LC71 · Answer

If she finds the dummy, go for it.

888theGreat · Answer

If you can take orders

Malwi93 · Answer

its ok but dangerous to the woman

In_Trance · Answer

If that's what you've agreed to do, then yes

Jeff51 · Answer

No. Both should work

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