Am I a lost cause?

[Anonymous]

I’m 32 and I feel like I’m still in my early 20s when it comes to dating. I have zero interest in marriage or kids - like, none. I just want to keep having fun, go out, party, and experience a lot of different men, not necessarily sexually. I’m not done with this phase at all.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to make you realize you’re way less “messed up” than you think, babe 😏

You are absolutely NOT a lost cause. You’re just not aligned with the traditional script: house, marriage, stroller, PTA meetings. That’s not a red flag. That’s self-awareness.

You’re only a problem if you lie about your intentions. As long as you’re honest that you want fun, freedom, parties, and different connections, you’re actually emotionally responsible.

You’re not behind. You’re just on a different road. Own the phase, don’t apologize for it, and only date men who can handle the real you, not the fantasy wife version they want to “fix.”

[OneViewpoint]

Not a lost cause. But not the typical 32 year old female either. As long as you're OK with being different and the tradeoff you are choosing by opting to keep the fun and the party going into your 40's enjoy yourself. Just be aware that your chances of kids or a long term relationship like marriage plummet by 40. You'll be that girl hanging out with other single or divorced older women, going on cruises, or girl vacations in your 50's and 60's and hooking up with random guys less and less frequently. Nothing wrong with that. It's just a different path.

[Asker]

i dont mind being that girl if im rich to add to that lol!

[OneViewpoint]

That's fine but accept that no amount of wealth will buy back 20 wasted years of your life if you suddenly change your mind at 50.

[sawno]

Can you keep doing it? Absolutely you can I don't think there is that much of a limit towards that.
But is it a good idea? Not at all. You have about one year left before it begins to become a rush to have kids and that rush is unappealing. So once you are ready to settle you'd notice most good options are already taken and you are stuck with people who have come out of a relationship, may have existing kids, if your lucky its a late bloomer or maybe he's undesirable for another reason.

This phase was never an issue because its fun, its an issue because you have a limited time to find someone to settle down with and after that you get much less options. If you squander that partying don't be surprised when by the time you do want to settle down you find it hard finding a good boyfriend.

[DryGermanGuy]

Well... you do you, I guess. Just remember, you are closer to 40 than to 20, so there is that.

[Extraterrestrial1999]

Nope, there will likely come a time where you do want to settle down. You gotta remember that everyone has different priorities at different ages

[slatyb]

Do what pleases you. You have no obligation to marry or have children.

[Jersey2]

Your eggs are drying up like raisins and you are already on the slide down from prime. Good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

You may not be done with it but it will be done with you, soon.

[canamlusciouslad73]

Lady, you're young enough to be my granddaughter.(I'm 73 today.) Why would you think yourself a lost cause?