What innocent thing would make you uncomfortable if your partner did it with someone else?

Question

I think some things can be completely innocent on the surface but still feel a little too intimate when you’re in a relationship.

Like maybe it’s constant texting, sharing inside jokes, getting physically touchy, or spending a lot of one on one time together… Everyone seems to draw the line somewhere different.

What would make you uncomfortable, even if your partner insisted it was completely innocent?

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

When he has beautiful roses delivered from the florist to me and she looks at him and says "I don't get any flowers"!!

Now why would she say that TO MY BOYFRIEND? WTF is going on between them that would cause her to say that to him?🤨

Or when he's been using my cellphone and suddenly she's no longer in my contacts? Because they must have been doing some late night texting and he must have had to hurry and delete their conversation and deleted the entire contract from my phone because I woke up unexpectedly.🫢

When they keep having to go to the store together 'real quick ' and they don't come back for hours and without any groceries!🤐

I could go on and on but I'm tired right now. 🥱

_Jenny_ · Accepted Answer

@7phoenix7 A lot of women hug and kiss when greeting each other. It’s not inappropriate, it’s just being friendly

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Couldn't think of anything off the top of my head, so I had to use AI to help brainstorm. Maybe it IS making me dumber 😂 But it did come up with some stuff I agree with.

Any kind of physical touch even if they're just to comfort the guy might make me a little uncomfortable.

Sharing a blanket. Fixing a collar. Sitting on the same side of a booth. If they buy my partner thoughtful "just because" gifts. Running errands together. Canceling plans with me to chill with a friend. Inside jokes would bother me too. Teasing like "See? John actually gets my kind of humor!"

And so much more...

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

If she asked him to do something, like check her car tire pressure, that I normally do.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim on GAG is to help you decode relationship gray areas and protect your heart without turning into a jealous detective 😏

For me, “innocent but not okay” would be things like sharing deep emotional stuff with someone else first, flirty banter or inside jokes, late-night texting, or being super physically playful.

Basically, anything that feels like emotional intimacy or chemistry-building. That’s how “just friends” quietly turns into “oops, I caught feelings.” 🚩

MikeTheBartender · Answer

They ask a guy friend for help with something I'm good at. Grounds for termination.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

An innocent situation that happened to me? I don't remember any

A situation that I'd find plausibly uncomfortable? It should be a behaviour away enough from her normal specifically... Like a deep hug for instance?

DonaldDarko · Answer

Anything where she's more interested in another man obviously. Innocent or not it means I don't fill that niche for her and the relationship is flawed. Why would she need to do anything with other men or I with other women? It's either me and her or it isn't.

Bricealan · Answer

@7phoenix7 Well, it she stuck her tongue in some guys ear, why stroking his penis, that would make me uncomfortable? 😂😂😂😂

Joshydavid25 · Answer

My ex talked about hanging out with her male friend right in front of me, and did think to try and introduce us or anything like that.. Or looking longer than normal even if it's neutral..

Nikki1989 · Answer

My husband would never do any of that nonsense. I know him too well.

Crimsyjo · Answer

You pretty much listed them already. Shared inner jokes constantly, a hug or touch, with a member of the opposite sex. Wanting to spend one to one time with them hanging out.

Anonymous · Answer

Texts late at night or hugs I don’t like really

Shiprex · Answer

Having secret conversations would be something I would find unacceptable.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Being physically touchy with other guys I don't like that.

bowenw · Answer

Texting but not sharing details with me. Going out together.

Alex-Snow · Answer

If she starts paying more attention to the other guy than me. Or even some sexting/flirting etc.

loveslongnails · Answer

Nothing. My partner never makes me uncomfortable because I've no reason to be.

RavVid · Answer

If she acted deferentially on another guys advice I'd know I should dump her before she dumps me

Anonymous · Answer

I'm single, so I don't have to worry about that :P

V4valiant · Answer

I don't want no one touching my woman. That's out of bounds

SunnyDay00 · Answer

Them hiding their cell phone or going out of the room to answer the call.

exitseven · Answer

if she got drunk with him.

AydenHazor · Answer

If I don't trust my partner they shouldn't be my partner. I want any partner I have to have close emotionally intimate relationships with their friends, as I do as well

Manuelwe · Answer

She talks about sex with exs to my friends, no matter what sex they are

Micheal6918 · Answer

Goes to the cinema with the opposite gender

Anonymous · Answer

Probably play wrestling. I mean his hands were all over your body.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Peeing together.

Iron_Man · Answer

Took a nap with my friend

Kevinvdd · Answer

flirt with a guy she use to date

canamlusciouslad73 · Answer

Guess?

Anonymous · Answer

Sexting.

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