Bored or anxious? Which is better?

[RachyRach]

Is it worse to be bored in a relationship or constantly anxious in one?

Bored

Anxious

[Finchie40]

Anxious is better , considering you are still anxious about your relationship with your partner , over being bored with you partner, which could possibly lead to the both of you to go your separate ways , if nothing changes for the better soon. Being with someone you are bored with , is not a good thing whatsoever it pretty much indicates that you and your partner really don’t have much in common anymore and that you are holding on to nothing if the both of you can’t figure out a solution sooner than later. I was married to a girl for 20 years that I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with , but after so many years together , we both pretty much got bored with each other because we no longer really enjoyed doing the same things together like we use to , why it’s wise to find someone that has a lot in common with you so the both of you won’t get bored , most people jump into relationships based off of infatuation, which is stupid to do because you both truly do not know each other , you are both just astray to each other and overlooking who the both of you truly are as people. My ex decided she no longer was happy spending time with me and that’s why our marriage all of a sudden started going downwards instead of upwards and we both started butting heads like there was no tomorrow, so we both decided to go our separate ways and move on with our lives hoping to eventually meet someone that is better for us. That has more in common and isn’t bored lol

[ohsheeT]

For me there's no such thing as bored I can always find something to do

And the same thing with anxious I mean if you're pacing up and down or you worrying about something just find something to do build something I want to walk create something

And if you are bored they say that is a good thing that means you're growing because you're tired of the same old stuff and you're looking for new things to do these things to take on

[DishLady]

Boredom you can fix with a change of scenery. Anxiety is a complicated thing, usually nested in the past, and hard to shake off.

[Nikki1989]

Boredom is far worse, obviously. Feeling anxious is a normal but only temporary reaction to certain situations.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode relationship drama and protect your heart, so let’s get into it.

Constant anxiety is way worse. Boredom means the spark or novelty is fading, but it’s usually fixable with effort, communication, dates, new experiences. Anxiety usually means red flags: insecurity, lovebombing, inconsistency, fear of losing them.

Boredom drains excitement. Anxiety drains your mental health. Choose peace every time, then work on the passion.

[HawkPerception]

I'd much rather be bored than anxious. Being bored is an easily solved problem and doesn't stress you out. It used to be normal to be bored before all the dopamine addiction tools like phones, social media, and video games came out. It inspired creativity and is the origin of many great ideas in society.

Whereas, when it comes to being anxious, there is no good aspect of it. It comes from a dark place. A lack of trust, being fearful, trauma, etc. It causes stress and it's not healthy.

Boredom is better, hands down.

[AviatorTom]

Bored can lead to ending the relationship. Anxious indicates a willingness to continue it.

[Zack-Bann]

Neither is a winner in my book.
But I would rather be bored
Because at least then you can do something to spice things up:
Take that tip you always talked about.
Start that activity together you both meant to try. Etc…


When you’re anxious good luck.
It’s little anyone can do

[NathanDavis]

none of these are positive at all, so

I think anxious is really bad, but being bored might be worse...

anxiety might be something you can work on and it can be worked out as well... "being bored" with your partner of, of your partner... this usually comes from a very serious disconnect that it was just left there to happen for too long

[slatyb]

Sometimes boredem and anxiety can be reduced or eliminated. Sometimes not. Sometimes people are in a relationship with a perfectly loving partner, but still feel alone if their partner expresses no curiousity about their interests.

Anxiety can be internal (anxious attachment), or it can be caused by an unreliable or emotionally unstable partner. If a partner is unable to regulate their emotions, it is often best to end the relationship.

[gasman70]

being bored is a state of mind where anxiety is a mental health condition. so being bored is something that you can easily fix. you can do something not to be bored, anxiety is something that you can't fix without having really big happen to help control it or meds.

[OneViewpoint]

I'll say no thank you to bored and anxious and choose excited. Bored is watching paint dry. Anxious is worrying constantly that you fucked up the paint somehow. If I'm not relaxed and excited, I'm moving on.

[ericJackson]

Anxious is definitely worse. Boredom can usually be fixed with a fun date or new hobby, but constant anxiety just drains your peace of mind.

[browsingthroughthe]

An anxious attachment means a happy relationship for me and anxious woman - unlike that horror movie where she's always around 😅🤣

[browsingthroughthe]

Continued she and i can be anxious together ahahahaha 🥲 is

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I dunno, anxiety sounds like it's a debiliting mental illness to me. Boredom can be mitigated by living a productive life

[WhitneySnow]

Anxious is worse. At least boring can be comfortable.

[browsingthroughthe]

Anxious attached means less cheat hmmmm

[AngryCarl3]

Bored is better, it's a signal that you need to do something. Anxious tends to stop you doing anything.

[Curmudgeon]

Far worse to be anxious. Boredom is temporary, anxiety is damn near permanent.

[Saddlebread]

Put it in context.

[Curmudgeon]

@Saddlebread Bored or anxious? Which is better?
Is it worse to be bored in a relationship or constantly anxious in one?" - I wonder how many were confused by the wording.

[Anonymous]

Bored. It is easier to liven things up than convince an anxious person everything is ok and calm them down

[Kingofkings1992]

Neither one is ideal lmao, but of the two options I'd say being bored is the better. Boredom is easier to fix. If you're anxious, then that means there's a lack of trust. When trust is broken, the relationship is doomed.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Bored is better, you have nothing to do but you can still at least be calm 😂

[jacob33131]

Neither one is good, but I think being bored would be preferable to being anxious. It's much easier, in my opinion, to fix boredom.

[Anonymous]

I suppose it'd depend whether you're just an anxious person or not. Anxious sometimes is just natural state and not caused by anyone.

[jahaims]

If either happen it is because you don't know how to emotionally regulate

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Having struggled with it.

Bored is far better

[Victoria5_]

Bored or anxious could lead you into trouble. You might end up doing something Wiley E Coyote.

[astlavista]

Bored is better. Anxiety is usually much more stressful and draining.

[msc545]

bored is better than anxious. Anxiety is really scary and uncomfortable.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Being anxious is better than bored I hate being bored

[_Jenny_]

@RachyRach Google anxious

[_Jenny_]

@RachyRach anxious means that your word or nervous about what may happen

[RareBreedOfMan]

Bored is worse to be in a relationship

[MrChinaski]

Anxious. At least that means you care.

[YourExLover69]

Bored would be better

[loveslongnails]

Six of one, half a dozen of the other.

[audean57]

Bored, less mental stress

[Darthskywalker6969]

Bored is far more manageable

[blackeagle007]

Anxious. Bored is depressing I feel

[Paige2006]

Anxious

[browsingthroughthe]

Better to be anxious and attached than bored and thinking "they're totally boring" - 😞

[Smileygirl2000]

Non..

[thinkerx]

Bored

[wkhan_87]

Bored is better