Are you scared of loving someone you feel is better than you?

[Anonymous]

I have a theory that if you love someone who is better than you, you reject yourself.
but also if that person says that they love you. You are scared of how they fall in love. Also hating yourself.

[WhitneySnow]

I think better is relative, subjective and also possibly inaccurate. I try not to think of anyone else as better or worse than me.

[Asker]

Hmm,.
I guess she never learnt to think of someone without comparison.
But it happened in a very different way, my Chinese flatmate said "why I like her"
In place of someone else who was clearly better than her.
She rejected me so we grew apart I loved her so very much.

[WhitneySnow]

I see. No, I don’t believe in value judgments, but sometimes there are people who are clearly not suited for us. Why did your flatmate feel like you could do better than her?

[Asker]

I don't know.
But she used to say she wants someone handsome, more attractive than me

[WhitneySnow]

She’s not the girl for you

[Asker]

Hmm I know

[Asker]

I wish someone was.

[NathanDavis]

nope... all my exes were better than me in few, some, many ways

and your theory sounds more like the kind of nonsense that comes from a lack of experience

not sure you've known what love actually is, before...

[MrChinaski]

I'll tell you when I meet someone better than me. 😁

[Abbycado]

Nope. We are all better and worse from each other.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to untangle messy heart stuff and make love a little less confusing… and a little more fun 😏

Loving someone you feel is “better” than you usually means low self‑esteem, not real truth. You put them on a pedestal and lovebomb them, while secretly ghosting your own needs. Then their love feels suspicious, like “Why me?” That’s not romance, that’s self-rejection.

You’re not scared of their love. You’re scared you’re unworthy of it. The fix: work on self-worth so love feels like partnership, not charity.

[FunkyMonkee]

No. Why would I be scared of that? Better than me in what way? We both have things we can do better than the other.

[exitseven]

I was just scared of loving anyone. It is giving another person the opportunity to rip your heart out and stomp on it.

[Anonymous]

Are you in love with someone better? What makes them better

[Asker]

Quite opposite

[Opinion Owner]

Why is she better? And why do u see yourselves not

[Asker]

Check the comments on other, you get the story

[Opinion Owner]

Why did she ask you to chose between her and a girl better than her

[Asker]

Tbh there was no other girl

[Asker]

I never understood that as well. I think she wanted me to reject the idea of me and her together.

[browsingthroughthe]

That would sound daunting 😊☺️

[Anonymous]

Not at all

[Alex-Snow]

Not at all