Have you ever been afraid to fall in love for fear that they won't love you in return?

[StingRayxoxo]

[OlderAndWiser]

I had that experience with the girl I dated from 2015-2017. She was a great girl and we were compatible in so many ways. I fell in love with her and she never got beyond "really, really liking" me. At least she was honest with me about her lack of feelings. She was an only child and was accustomed to being the center of attention without reciprocating.

I learned some lessons and moved on.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[Logorithim]

Nope. If I fall on love with her it is in large part because we both have strong feelings for each other.

[Iwant2kno]

I don’t think I have never let my fear take control of my emotions, future or decisions. So although I’ve been afraid, I have not allowed my fear stopped myself from feeling love for someone.

[ECityGirl89]

Your preaching the choir.

[RussianNestingDoll]

I’m scared to death but take the chance just like every other scary thing I make myself deal with.

[jennifer_bloom]

I'm not afraid of being rejected or dumped - I'm afraid of giving birth and living an unhappy marriage - if I see a lot of potential for fighting - that might cause me to hesitate.

[FancyPantz]

I can relate to this.

[SuperManiac]

When I was much younger, I think there were thoughts and insecurities with one relationship in particular where the love became a double-edged where I was as afraid of losing the relationship as much as I wanted to continue it. It was a rocky one, however, and kind of a rollercoaster type so there was always this constant feeling and threat that things could be over at any given point.

Yet after that one ended, I think I changed a lot over the years. For a start, I think I learned better not to fear things beyond my control. My bigger fear came in behaving poorly, for example (something within my control). If I behave well, then I've learned to better accept whatever outcomes that result.

It's like if I compare it to poker and someone goes all-in on me three times in a row from the small blind and I have no history and call with a pair of jacks and he turns over aces, I've learned not to fear such an outcome or beat myself up over it because I still made the best decision given what I knew at the time. That wasn't a mistake on my part even if the outcome was very undesirable.

So I've gotten the hang of some of that. On top of that, I met my wife later on with whom we shared such a peaceful and trusting relationship which makes it much easier to love, and even fall madly for each other, without fear of losing each other somewhere along the line.

[silvermoon84]

That has happened to me, and I put myself out there and told him how I felt. Instead he used me until his ex decided that she wanted him back. I cut him off after that, cried my tears and picked myself back up again. I’ve got a great family, friends who love me, a job that pays well and treats me well, I’m healthy and have a solid faith in God so I’m good. I’m definitely not afraid to fall in love again but until then I’m happy with my life as it is. I’m not giving up hope, nobody should. Everyone deserves love. As for the guy, he’s married to the ex now. All I really want to do regarding him is pray for him.

[Finchie40]

Pretty much nowadays after the shit i been through my outlook on love and relationships has. dwindled , not saying i would never want to fall in love again i just have more protective walls for a girl to break down before getting my heart a 100 percent. It's sad cuz i was never like that , part of me now feels like relationships are a thing of the past because i am broken. Ii actually want a princess to save me for once basically proving to me that she really wants me by her side and proving to me that love really does exist. I am a very committed person when it comes to relationships but to get me committed again is going to take work , so i am pretty much doomed consodering every gir i really like is eather taken or lives 1000's of miles away lol l

[rjroy3]

Never. The closest thing I've had to that was a scenario where I loved a girl and it hadn't been said yet. But I was confident she felt the same. When I said I love you she said it back within a millisecond, because she'd been wanting to say it for awhile. But I've never had a situation where I preemptively thought about falling in love with a particular person and had fear around it, that they might not feel the same way down the road. Don't see how you could really. I could see having feelings for someone and being worried they may not feel the same towards you currently. But that's a different thing.

[TripleAce]

Ya of course
Its always a concern. Sometimes I've even not pursued someone because of it

I just figured that its kinda obvious she’s above my league and she seems kinda like her type of guy is not exactly me. But for some reason she’s still interested
So lets not even bother so i dont end up being the one dissappointed

Not often but a probably like twice i can remember that happening
But in general yes its something we probably all wonder about

[MannMitAntworten]

Actually... it has been years since breathing those words... anyway, long ago when I would become involved in a relationship more often than not 'she'would express that they are in love with me. Everyone of them would tell me I do not have to say it too. Often I felt the same but also realized a trend where if I said it too they suddenly lost interest. It causes one to feel like conquest, "Yes! I got him to say it! I can move on now..." kind of thing I started to get from them women. So, I grew hesitent to say it anymore and have not in over 16 years. It just does not flow past my lips easily any longer. So, affraid to fall in love? No. Concerned about admittin it? Oh hell yes!

[Secret6620]

Never. I fall in love without reservations or hesitation ❤️🥰

[StingRayxoxo]

❤❤❤❤

[Aethereal]

Yes I very much am. After seeing someone I know fall head over heels for a girl that not only didn't love him back, but kept him on a hook for ages, I'll need to see a clear display of serious interest before I open my heart to someone else.

[loveslongnails]

"Falling in love" is such a misnomer and convoluted term. While I think I know what you're asking, it begs a different question in my mind. "If you knew someone loved you, or thought they did, would you have more interest in them and 'love them back'?" See where I'm going with this?

[debi2622]

Interesting question when you think about it. For me, it has never been that they won't love me in return, but that they will not be faithful. That me, by myself, will not be enough for them. I think what you ask, and what I fear, can be traced back to our childhood and what we got/did not get from your parent/s.

[Ciarle]

I got my heart broken a few years ago. I was scared to even be happy for a while, and then I realised I was scared of guys talking to me. I didn’t wanna be so fragile again, getting out there and being with a person who could break my heart again was too much. It took me like 3 years to get over the fear but I have a boyfriend who I really love now. It’s scaey to think something might happen. But I’d still give it a try

[smg99]

Always I adopted a detached outlook it feels blissful. Occasionally I do trip over and fall for someone. Then I need to tell myself they are just as fearful as i, so if they approach I’ll be welcoming otherwise I’ll try tirelessly though detached.

If I still didn’t get my desired outcomes I’ll find creative ways to keep myself busy.

I hate that love and romance are as much a waiting game, as promotions in ones’ career.
We can spend a lifetime this way in current social culture.

[JohnAlaska43]

Yes its happened to me sadly I have no game. Pick up lines stink and really shy on starting a conversation because of feeling like im a failure all the time.
Sadly I know what I want and need but struggle with talking with women.
Dont dare try to be kind or share my feelings becsuse people think im a creep.
I have a great heart but misunderstood.

[shadowq7]

When you are thinking so much about love, it can not be happened. Love needs to be relax. If you fall in love without any response than live it with yourself?

[Izumiblu]

No I’m not afraid to fall in love. Just afraid of being in a relationship mostly.

[Jjpayne]

Love is always a risk but I see it this way, if I don't find love at least I hope I've at least got a new friend

[Juxtapose]

Anytime I have, it has been one-sided and my emotions have dulled so I don't know if I even I'm able to anymore.

I'm friendly, but I feel much more distant now than I did in my youth.

[BlackRoseFairy]

I was not afraid to fall in love, but I was afraid of him finding out, and even more of admitting it.

[FatherJack]

I could not fall in love with any woman now , I am more afraid of actual relationships themselves after the marriage I endured... and ended. Therefore I do not attempt to date , single dad , so will not have any options anyway , there are plenty of men without my baggage for women to choose from.

[Jemini_Crocket]

Very to be honest. That is maybe why I have such a bad luck in dating? I think it's connected for sure.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I'm afraid to fall in love for fear they won't love me in return or fall
out of love with me for no apparent reasons.

[ChiTown33]

I assume every woman that shows any interest is playing a game. And until i'm given a reason to think different that will be my mindset.

[Anonymous]

Afraid of getting hurt, yes. It gets really tiring. Please do not get someones hopes up a lot if you're not sure about your feelings. A couple months ago I let myself fall for a guy who said he really wanted to be with me etc. then suddenly one day he said he had never actually been very into me so we should stop dating, that he's just been so romantic to convince himself to feel anything for me... You can't trust anyone nowadays.

[JessieLo]

Ummm yes, if I get a vibe that other person doesn’t really want me

[ZeussLightningBolt]

No, I'm not afraid of falling in love, I'm afraid of entering into a relationship for that vert reason

[elissa23Trans]

Yes, I definitely had that happen. I have had moments where I feared falling in love with a “fuckboy” or “player” and that I would wake up in a cold reality where I would be left behind as a used towel. Many guys nowadays sadly do that to girls.

[Giggletr0n]

No, I have never given that sort of thought my time of day, it's a simple matter of if they don't like you then you move on

[weasley8]

Not really. I’ve turned someone down once though because things were already really intense between us, and we would be going to college thousands of miles away from each other. I don’t want to fall in love and then be forced to leave.

[GreenGold1992]

No, I'm a man who likes to take risks when it come to falling in love, whether the woman ends up loving me or not.

In other words, better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

[Anonymous]

yes being vulnerable just liking someone to the point where you care about how they feel is a lot of control I don't want someone else to have also that gives them the power to hurt you

[Moth31]

Yes, I'm afraid of falling in love because there are lots of reasons to consider including that one.

[aa180]

I've only been afraid of falling in love for fear that they won't dominate me in return.

[AndrewMG]

I'm good at putting a front on, but geez I've felt that so many times in the past.

[bklynbadboy1]

I've never felt like that but if I did it wouldn't matter I have no control over my emotions when I fall I fall hard and I can't stop it

[Liam_Hayden]

Nope, but then I have never fallen in love. I choose to love, but that is different.

[TonyMetal_86]

My ultimate fear about love is divorce and breaking promises...

[mooky06]

Yes. I fear that they won’t love me in return or that they won’t love me enough (if that makes sense)

[Kaneki05]

Nah i always do this cause if they can't and won't love me i cannot help how i feel about them. So i alwayd get hurt since no one wants me but fuck it

[duhuijiun]

If he is good enough for me, I will not choose to leave him.

[Jerre]

When I meet the right person, she will love me in return

[FrenchyRomain]

ever since my last relationship i am terrified of loving someone and her not loving me as much...

[Jaye1331]

I don't seem to have any control over who I fall in love with so no.

[bente2]

Yes of course. Am actually currently struggling with this.

[Anonymous]

Bellucci is beautiful in Malena
She's much more beautiful than a lot of models and actresses that people on this site consider beautiful
Unfortunately, I fell in love with someone who didn't love me back and was just using me.. 😐

[Anonymous]

Never been in love so I can't be afraid to fall in love.

[pizzalovershouse]

yah with some 1 who I was hurt by after seeing them for a longtime

[Heartonmysleeve88]

No, I can handle rejection. If they don't love me, I move on.

[Dchrls78104]

It's my biggest fear and a large part of the reason I have never dated.

[coolbreeze]

Love always comes with risk.

[Just_a_human]

No, I'm just not interested in falling in love

[Slim57]

No it's fear that they will wake up one day and decide they don't love me in return anymore

[toddthemod]

Im living it right now.

[Deep_Mind]

Yes... and I was correct

[NovissimumVirorum]

I prefer hate to love

[Ordinarygurl_]

I think so

[AdithyaR]

I'm not afraid but I'm not very keen on love.

[Massageman]

Once burnt - - - -

[winterfox10]

Yeah, sadly...

[Exterminatore]

Absolutely.