Are you afraid of falling in love?

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Alice2398 · Accepted Answer

I used to be, especially after my relationship with the first guy I ever loved was so messy and ended in me getting my heart broken. I didn't trust men at all and thought they only wanted to hurt me and that i was unlovable to them, i don't think i even believed men were capable of ture love deep down for a long time and it was all a lie to me. I fall so easily so id always have to push guys i had feelings for out of my life by any means even of it meant them hating me and never wanting to talk to me again because i was so scared of getting my heart broken because whenever something i committed to failed i used to go to a very dark place in my head.

When i met my now boyfriend, i wouldn't say it was love at first sight but we had a instant spark and we're bouth in similar situations love life wise. Wed never been a serious relationship with anyone else before, never been kissed or anything and struggled believing there was anyone out there for us but it like we were made for each other. We were both really shy at first with each other but we got past it eventually. I really had to grow some balls and i fighted off my selfdoubts because i liked him so much. It tooks us around a month to confess are love for each other and I've never been more happy and in love with someone in my life.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

No, more like I'm afraid of falling in love with the wrong person that will wind up:

-Not loving/wanting me back
-Being cheated on (again)
-Being hurt, disappointed, or rejected

All of which is very likely to happen in ANY relationship or crush on someone. It's just a matter of are you willing to risk putting yourself out there.
For me, it's easier staying single: less heartache.

The6ix · Accepted Answer

I’m not afraid of falling in love but girls and women are because of 1 bad relationship and a few guys. That’s why girls and women will never understand how it feels to get rejected countless times by others and as a guy you just have to be respectful, strong minded and move on. But girls and women seem to just crumble and assume ALL GUYS ARE BAD ALL MEN ARE BAD. I’ve noticed what women do now is substitute real love for fake, artificial, superficial love (ie: he has to be 6ft4, have this much money, be great in this, be fantastic at that) long list of demands. In reality not simplifying true love, and not having super high expectations. I’m not saying it’s wrong to have certain qualities you look for in a guy or a man. But do women and girls assume a guy who is an absolute sweet heart who’s 5 ft 9 is considered garbage compared to a guy who’s 6 ft 3? Because I gotta be straight up and I hope girls read this... If I loved a girl and she had no make up on should I say “ewww put your make up back on you fugly duckling!” No because that would be rude and stupid. I don’t care if a girl is 5’2 or 5’10 it doesn’t matter if I like her that’s all that matters.

standingUP · Accepted Answer

WE DON'T FALL IN LOVE , TRUE LOVE HITS US FROM ABOVE LIKE A METEOR SMACKING US FROM HEAVEN.
Love is nothing to be afraid of. God created all of us to be and share true love.

The fear you are suggesting is coming from finding out that you really never were in love to begin with. Sure we have people that come into our lives and we have a deep admiration towards them and they enhance your life just by knowing them. But that is not "TRUE LOVE" if it doesn't have a power of it's own to prosper. Love is not work and their is nothing a person can do to stop love.

Love is a word that is adopted to fill the missing word of of admiration you feel towards somebody. Meaning the word is useless even tho it is used. Most people feel they love something and truly want to love and be loved. So they misinterpret that feeling as love.

It is not until you experience TRUE LOVE that you realize how you have been confused by the word, you were use to using. At the same time you realize how small of the word LOVE really is for the energetic feeling that is consuming your soul.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I would say very very afraid - the bible says child birth is very painful so I don't know how I can survive that pain - I also don't know how I would survive if my child came out disabled or my husband cheated on me or abandoned me or died on me or if he got sick and smelled terrible for several years etc... or if I became very unhappy but wouldn't divorce him cause I'm afraid of hell etc...

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

Yes and no. I'm not sure it would even be possible for me considering I don't really have any romantic feelings, but if it did, I'm not even sure how I would handle it, as it would be such a foreign feeling for me.

More than anything, the fear of heartbreak, being used, making decisions I would regret, etc. would scare me.

pervertedjester · Answer

No I'm afraid of making more excuses for it in the quest to find it.

Desconhecida · Answer

All the time. Which doesn't save me from the disaster

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. I've been hurt way too many times so I'm keeping my heart locked. I can't even tell if a guy really loves me anymore with all the playing they do. And it's so normalized these days for guys to play around and get all the girls they want and they are considered "macho". Everytime I open up to a guy, I get rejected but everytime a guy comes to me he just wanted to mess around. I was never asked to prom, I had a beautiful dress waiting to be worn and all my friends had dates. Days got closer to prom as I have waited for a guy to give me flowers or write my name on a poster to make me feel special but nothing happened. I got the courage to asks a guy but he rejected me. From a guy, I've never gotten flowers before I've only gotten dick. I've never been asked to slow dance at prom, but grinding was an exception. I can never forget when a guy asked me out to a dinner date it was the most romantic thing that ever happened to me, I trusted him so much. No one ever made that effort to ask me out and not be "ashamed" of showing me off in public. I lost my virginity to him thinking he was the one but then he left me cuz he got what he wanted after weeks of what he called exhausting "boring" dates. Everytime I realize I'm falling for a guy, I stop myself n I just wanna protect my feelings. I have gotten so used to this feeling that if a guy just wants sex or rejects me I'm not even surprised anymore. Nothing special or romantic ever happened and if a guy even gave me flowers or asked me to dance holding hands like in those Disney princess movies i watched and wanted to have since I was a child... I would probably burst into tears and pinch myself thinking it's all a dream.

McKellar · Answer

There maybe some fear there, yes. Deathly afraid? No. Some minor fear, ... maybe.

irritated & tired of going through the same repeated pattern of falling for someone, but nothing happens or falling for someone, you date the person for awhile, that person breaks it off with you & you have to continuously repeat this nonsense over & over & over again? yes.

It can also be depressing that all of your friends are either dating or married with a few children & you're not.

It's also a bit of a "kick in the nuts" if your partner breaks up with you,... your former partner begins to date someone else, that person leaves you behind, your ex-partner gets married to that new partner & guess what? you're still left in the dust single.

Anonymous · Answer

No I'm not.
Love is the most profound feeling a human being can feel. Love for another person is the hardest emotion to come across and nowadays it seems like everything is a game to everyone and no one is really there for you, but you, so to love someone or to be loved by one is the most euphoric feeling because it's something you aren't used to, it brings another side of a person out, a positive side mostly, it's truly a blessing so if you ever fall in love make sure it's someone that brings out the better in you.

Nigjt · Answer

Yes I am again because this Women I've been talking to after all this time she just got her place an said she wants to spend some time alone in her new apt that she will move into on the 29 of May of 2020 an b4 she when she was going to move in she was telling me that she wanted me to move in with her so she lead me to believe that I'd be moving in with her but now it seems like she wants me to wait monts b4 I'll be able to do so so I haven't call her or texted her in two days all this took place on May 19 of 2020 I send her a text on May 20 of 2020 at 4 am that was the last time I texted her.
So yes I am at this time.
God Bless

Nicolette777 · Answer

Very. If I like someone, I distance myself from them, even if they like me, because I’m scared of relationships and falling in love distracting me from my studies. I supposed I don’t like relying on people. It’s not that I’m afraid of them breaking up with me

KeziL · Answer

not at all. a little because it's easy to imagine the beginning and the final falling in love, but I can't imagine the leadup and the building of relationships, that part is hard for me. I don't know what comes in between, so then I get a little scared, but im not afraid of falling in love itself

richardsnarky · Answer

Yeah. I’ve cared so much and put in so much effort and ultimately got nothing in return except for a broken heart, a bruised ego, and several trips to a therapist’s office. It took me a while to overcome that rejection and humiliation and I’ve afraid of it happening again.

WarningWarning · Answer

Atm, i dont believe in it. Or what i used to beloeve is love has changed. I am going through my second divorce. Both guys i have picked and fallen in love with are abusers. 27 combined years of hope each time i heard sorry. Looking for the good quailties and loving those to forget the bad. I am tired.

KaylaJoy · Answer

I admire the idea of love, but I am terrified of never being good enough for someone. I don’t know if I have the capacity to be a good lover. It tears me up inside, and I ruin every relationship I start because my doubts and fears lead me to end it before I have a chance to really open up and share my true self with someone.

flamiE · Answer

No, but I’m amazed by how many people are. If you’re not willing to go all in there’s no way you’d be able to get the full experience. If you both try and distance ourselves cause you’re afraid to fall in love then there’s no point. If you believe they will hurt you why give them a chance in the first place? Yes, it will hurt if it didn’t work out but that’s how you know it’s real. Everyone wants real love but don’t want to get the scars that come with it.

Ruom-ran · Answer

People aren't afraid of falling in love, that happens without our consent. People are afraid of rejection and getting their feelings hurt when reality doesn't manifest itself the same way as their fantasy or perception.

It's always best to practice not relying on outcomes. Start relying on an outcome and you'll get hurt when it doesn't happen.

AmeenKA · Answer

Never have been. Until recently. I fell in love with a girl and now a few months later my dad got a job out of state and we are moving. Its heart wrenching knowing that i can't be with the girl I love, and i told my dad i want to go to college in the state we live in now but he said no. So long story short I am a bit afraid of falling in love now.😭

JSmuve · Answer

I'm not afraid of falling in love as long as she's the right girl. I'm more afraid of committing myself to the wrong woman and have it all come toppling down. That's why I'm so cynical and have such high standards about what I'll accept from a woman. I expect the worst from her until proven otherwise.

Anonymous · Answer

More of the connection and even touching aspects of love. I almost punched an old lady for touching the small of my back in a cold sweat. Like an arachnophobia person surprised with spiders.

That was a weird moment because touching is vary easily avoided in a professional manner. So as much as i recognized avoiding touching with normal events, i never figured out how scared shitless i was of it when unprepared. Made me reassess a lot of things.

Hypnos0929 · Answer

Somewhat. Love to me is like a breath of fresh air or when you're feeling cold but you stick your hand into the sunlight and it warms it up just a bit.
But heartbreak... I remember the first time and I remember thinking to myself "This is what my hell would be. I feel like I've died and gone to heaven, and God gave me just enough light to give me hope so he could send me to hell and make it feel that much darker.".

virtue2332 · Answer

People should never be afraid of falling in love because its a beautiful thing to experience and give to someone. You just have to understand love is not perfect but it is worth putting in the effort than not trying at all.

Pulseofsulfur · Answer

Yes I am scared of falling in love. Because the woman could be deceiving and strip me dry and ghost me. That or she could abuse me mentally and emotionally. Even though I look tough on the outside I'm a teddy bear on the inside. That and what if she hates me and just wanted to pity date me. I fear so many things might go wrong if I ever be in a relationship with a woman

serious · Answer

No I am not afraid. I have never been in love and I never want to be in love by choice and out of my free will. I wish to stay single and lead a loveless life till I die.

saishajain2217 · Answer

Yes, I'm very very afraid of falling in love with someone I think in my life there is no one who can understand me or love truly that I want

DizzyDesii · Answer

Nah just afraid of wasting time by accidentally falling for the wrong one

BetterInBlack · Answer

Yup. You're putting something in that can be taken for granted, or used to manipulate you. It's a gamble.

Orange_bb · Answer

Nope i am not. I am a balanced person and never scared of losing someone you love. Cuz the things i don't wanna lose are escaping from me

Kurαȷ · Answer

No, I'm no longer afraid of that. Because I have already fell for someone I can't have, so it can't get any worse for me. Yo-ho-ho!

sensible27 · Answer

I've tendency to avoid getting close to people I might really like or end up liking. Maybe because I know it will hurt a lot more when they leave.

Saville_Row · Answer

Not at all. Actually, I have discovered that I can be the best version of myself in love. The problem is to find who will inspire you like that.

infinitybreaker2018 · Answer

I am now. After the girl I wanted nothing more than to marry broke up with me to marry someone else, I'm scared to

HOAAH · Answer

I used to be. I am married to a guy who is proving me wrong.

aicarg · Answer

More afraid of my love not being equally matched by the other half.

Deformate · Answer

I am definitely afraid of falling in love... specifically my wife finding out lol

Anonymous · Answer

In some ways. It's probably partly that I don't want to fall for someone who I'm going to find out is lying to me in some HUGE way, and I've committed myself and fallen for someone that will be toxic.

Latoya99 · Answer

Nope, I'm afraid of being committed and getting fuxked over.

Elsa143 · Answer

Yes, from now on and I will be forever afraid of it unless my partner will be REAL and a GEM.

angecandy · Answer

Yeah i am afrai of falling in love. It is like risking your heart on the gambling table.

Aislin9 · Answer

No, I'm finished with romantic love, it's not something I desire.

girlwithsomeqs · Answer

i dont think i am but my actions say differently lmao. i probably am, subconsciously

ColHathi · Answer

Mmmno... I'm afraid of not falling in love, or falling out of love. I'd hate to hurt whoever I'm with.

mrcov28 · Answer

I'm not! It's the greatest feeling in the world. Especially when she feels the same way.

Vencam · Answer

Aye, quite so. But I can't stop wishing for it, though 🤷‍♂️

lucas262 · Answer

I asked out a girl the other dayn all i could think was please please don't call me back, because once you start thinking about brining people into it you realize how fucked up your life really is.

Iron_Man · Answer

I won't allow it even though its real hard since i get attached easy. Dont trust selfish modern day women. Its best for me just to enjoy the moment with then and don't take them serious

It_starts_with_M · Answer

No why should I? It's a good thing, right? Don't you lie to me haha

Metlahaed · Answer

No, I love love! I'm good at love, and I love sharing my love.

julieboerd · Answer

Yeah afraid of letting someone in my life then they leave

Mickey9999 · Answer

Yes but I’m a hopeless romantic so I don’t eventually will again.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m afraid of being somebody’s fool again. I would love to fall in love with someone who I will love me the same way I love them. But when you experience someone pretending to love you you just don’t want that to happen again

_SOARER · Answer

Not at all I think our current understanding of Love is meaningless.  Thats why people are afraid, they dont know what it is.

hammeronfire · Answer

yes because my last 3 relationships have had me cheated on and mentally abused in the former 2 and pump and dumped in the latter. so i dont want to get into another relationship ever again in my life

BoxySama · Answer

I am not afraid, I love the Earth and this game we are playing, I am more afraid of the girl that falls in love I have experienced this before 😶😶🙄😎

Haya99 · Answer

Yes I am since I think it’s hard and needs a lot of attention and caring when im actually hurt from my previous relationship and I think that I can't give that anymore and so it makee it hard on me to fall in love, its actually scary

Anonymous · Answer

My ex girlfriend was. One day she came to me and told me she loves me, it just so happened that I felt the same. Next day she dumped me. Ever since that day, my life has been in a continuous downfall.

archiz · Answer

Not afraid but I am very much in control of my feelings.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Not at all, mainly because I don't "fall in love." I chose to love if I deem her worthy of the effort, but my emotions and hormones do not rule me.

Massageman · Answer

Yes. It might make my wife angry - I'd never hear the end of it!

winterfox10 · Answer

Nope! I'm actually really hoping to form an emotional connection

USA1960 · Answer

Absolutely not. I only hate getting hurt. Yes, men are often the ones who get hurt as well.

Unit1 · Answer

I survived worse than possibly being cheated on, so falling in love is a piece of cake.

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