Are you afraid to fall in love again?

[Simslover92]

I'm deathly afraid to open my heart up to someone again but at the same time I want to so bad. It's weird.

[Anonymous]

Yes.
At the same time, I've always struggled with saying the big L-word to a partner, and that has both been an issue, but also... makes me scared that I'm broken, or there's something wrong with me...

[rebelsunshine]

Don't be ashamed, there's nothing broken or wrong with you.. your feelings for your partner are valid and deserving of respect regardless.

The small four-letter L-word is the same regardless of whom you share it with!

[Opinion Owner]

But if I struggle with saying the words to them? Doubt whether or not I really do, scared to say it too soon, even if he has said it way earlier.
It has made for some tensions in previous relationships.

And I doubt myself. I've questioned if I'm broken, am I aromantic?
But I love romance, and I love being in a relationship, and I've had great boyfriends that has been crazy about me, said the L-word, and I just freeze.

[rebelsunshine]

If I understand you correctly you've felt the emotion and attachment with previous partners but have just been too afraid to say the words?

[Opinion Owner]

I've been unsure. I guess.. I doubt myself how it feels to romantically love someone, and I'm also scared of saying them.
If I say them, and he says them, it becomes real, and then a ring might come up, and living together, and maybe kids, and I'm scared of ending up like my mom. Always bickering, complaining, and having an uneven division of labor in the house.

[rebelsunshine]

Well it's important to set boundaries at the start of any relationship and also have a good sense of what you're looking for. If you set the proper expectations from the start you and avoid red flags you can avoid uneven division of labor and feeling "trapped" later on.

But I hear you, it takes courage. But with the risk come the rewards.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you ^^

[CherryLove007]

Been open since last month. It is a huge step for me. Coming from a past traumatic time with the first love of my life.

[Simslover92]

Same here.

[CherryLove007]

yes dear, best to you :) sincerely

[Simslover92]

And same to you! 😊

[ohsheeT]

No not at all as a matter of fact I crave it sometimes.

But here is the thing I'm afraid of is I could spend three minutes with some one i can read them like a book I can feel there intense beautiful hot sexy energy inside of me , it makes me want to even more , because that's what I want to

But I have to slam on the breaks and tell myself t o stop Mr horny boy. Because it doesn't matter who this person is i'm going to find every good thing, every beautiful thing, every positive thing about them.\nIs because of who I am? And what I feel

So just because I start talking to somebody does not mean that they're for me, the right person, for me. It means I have to slow way down and put it way back back in the back and be respectful and kind and who I am until I figure it out.

In my younger days, these moments would turn into one night, stands or have any girlfriend for a week? And then moving on and I just don't do that anymore , it's actually harder now to find that right person because i protect myself, I protect them and not just jumping into it and believing just because I feel something means that this is the person for me because it's not so I have let a lot of good ones go because\n The things that I felt And I should have just held on a little bit longer , but there's so many other things involved , and I don't want to hurt anybody I don't want to be hurt .. But I do know that there are many of them out there for me, I just have to do it the right way and I just push them away, because\n Of what I feel and they might be the right person, but I don't give it enough time. But i'm getting closer to just let it happen if it's meant to

[Middle_Sch_Whirl_Grl]

I'm 0n a. vollyvball team and we wear the self wicking Vball shorts so. no und8es

[ohsheeT]

I dont get it

[Finchie40]

Not afraid to fall in love cuz i definitely want to find true love , but afraid the person I fall in love with will eventually change their minds , it seems to be the pattern I experience with girls’ that say that want a commitment and love but eventually change their mind

[HawkPerception]

Not at all. I welcome it.

"It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."

[YourFutureEx]

I don't have a clue.

I'm pretty sure I'll never be able to love the way I used to or wanted to, when I was young, for the rest of my life. I do not know if it is me being afraid or I've matured in a way where I have understood the way and the intensity to be given to love. I don't think I'm afraid to fall in love because I'm definitely open to it but the excitement is kind of dead.

The only thing I'm afraid of is myself. Whether I'll be able to provide love to the right deserving person if I find one or not. Unlike you. You'll be alright with the right man once you find him.

[CalmUntilAbused]

Well... If that's the case, don't jump in headfirst. Start it slow, start as friends. Open Your heart only after You've spoken Your minds to each other about every single important issue. It's not that hard... or at least it shouldn't be. We sure live in a hellhole, don't we?

About myself... It's not exactly that I'm afraid of falling in love, it's more like I know it basically amounts to suicide. Unless I know the woman very well, I will simply not allow myself to fall in love. So... Yeah... I'm simply trying to follow the advice I gave You above! 😀

[Zack-Bann]

I had closed the book on love about 9 years ago now
Almost forgot why I did
I missed it


But recently I felt something that resembles it again
Not quite love
But I had an “old familiar feeling” in my stomach.
And I remember why I shut the door before


Unfortunately these things tend to be outside of our control


And in my case it’s always a wrong place wrong time kind of deal


Funny thing is in all those years I had all kinds of lovers.
Many professed undying love for me
But I could never reciprocate
I thought I was broken


I just realized I wasn’t.


And it’s liberating, but also terrifying

[DonaldDarko]

Not sure, it's probably a moot point I understand how the whole thing works now so the romance is gone. It's like that scene in the matrix.

[Curmudgeon]

I understand that all too well. Being out of control and potentially subject to manipulation and ruin by another is a very dangerous situation indeed. And so I have been in a series of "situationships" since my divorce.

To be fair, they have been beneficial, quid pro quo, value for value, and all that.

But to be in that goo-goo in total love feeling? I can't say I could ever trust that again.

[RandomGirl42]

Of all the things I am afraid of , love is not one of them. If my sweetie left me, I would be devastated but not for 1 second would I be afraid to love. I believe, "love" is what I was born to do. 💖

[PeachyPie93]

I was.. but you just need to notice the red flags. When you stop giving your time and energy to the wrong guys, you will find the right guy more easily. If he won't commit within a month or two he isn't worth your time.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

Not afraid, just more intentional now.

Love isn’t the problem, choosing the wrong person is.

So I’m open to it, but I’m not rushing.

If it comes, it’ll be with someone who feels safe, steady, and aligned.

[FreyaRed]

Afraid? No. I don't feel fear or am afraid of anything. It's lack of illusion about human nature and myself. It's not only problem of others but my unforgiving attitude as well.

[Levin]

I'm good. It's about finding someone worthy of my love, and in turn, appreciates me. Appreciation and valuing is what I'm looking for.

[Shiprex]

Afraid not really but actively searching is not happening. Rekindling what i had is more likely. Loyalty is my super power

[Nikki1989]

I have been in love for over 16 years. It is stronger now than ever before which I never thought was possible.

[YTuber417]

Afraid? No. Once you accept that life is just a series of ups and downs and that you only live once, you don't take things too personally as much anymore - granted, I've met death and it really changes how you think about a lot of stuff.

[dudeinohio]

I never was. You have to have failed relationships before you find the right one. You learn how to behave and detect red flags easier.

[JSmuve]

Again? Shit I haven't fallen the first time. Haven't met a woman who was capable of making me fall for her.

[Anonymous]

So u are over the ex u claimed was your only and true love

[Simslover92]

Yes of course I'm over him. I wouldn't be saying this if I wasn't.

[FunkyMonkee]

I'm kinda getting to that point!! Every time I do, it never lasts.

[Dina88]

After my divorce I was. But after getting back out their taking a chance. Won’t get married age.

[ABC1x1x]

The brave only die once. The coward dies every instance and multiple times a day.

[TonyMetal___86]

Maybe it's weird but i'm feeling exactly the same, it:xs a mind conflict between yes and no...

[Jerre]

I’m not afraid, just haven’t found the right woman yet.

[Anonymous]

Not really, in my age, that's not likely to happen.

[Gagforlifetime]

No need to be scared if it doesn’t work you move on and heal

[Anonymous]

I have too many ex-girlfriends. I'm not into dating anymore.

[Abbycado]

Already in it.

[sage2021]

I'm done! Patrick was my last true love ❤️

[Nerdvana]

Yes, very much so.

[MannMitAntworten]

Not remotely.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes I'm very afraid

[Raydergman26]

Yes and no

[eagle1951]

yepper