Afraid? falling in love? No, I am not afraid, I can never fall in love, I am too logical, rational, too realistic to be in love, I am totally incapable of falling in love. I lack that capacity to do so. I know I will never fall in love. Hence I am not afraid or anything.
However it's possible and I am afraid that one day a woman might love me and I would mean the world to her, which is exactly what I don't want. I never want this to happen.
Please don't ask why, because that's hard to explain.
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A little bit, yes. But that's 'cause I'm afraid to get hurt if things don't work out. Normal, I know, but it's, it's just complicated.
But I can't wait to fall madly in love and things work out.
No, I'm not afraid of falling in love. Loving someone is an amazing feeling. I'm only slightly afraid of being hurt because of that, if I happen to fall for the wrong person. So, I just hope the next person I love is the right guy.
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Yes, I am. I already know that I will get hurt, so obviously I don't want that for me.
I can see the sad ending.
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Yes I am. I'm scared of the forbidden love that will make us suffer.
Look dude, I think you and I are a lot alike (you stubborn, stubborn SOB you).
So... by default, I kinda like you.
"By the way a small information emotions, feelings can also be controlled, if the person is very strong on the inside, if the person is very logical then it's not difficult to do so."
What you're saying here just boils down to the fact that self-restraint covers emotions as well as behavior. Which is true, but (to me at least) falls well short of "epiphany" level.
Although yes, many people could stand to take this to heart.
For instance, "venting" one's emotions is usually a VERY bad idea, because that usually just amplifies the emotions and makes them simmer for longer.
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But, aha! we have gotten somewhere here.
We started at "incapable of love". Somewhere along the way, when you weren't looking, someone slid over a couple of pawns and a bishop. Now the board looks like this:
"feelings can also be controlled; if the person is very strong on the inside, if the person is very logical then it's not difficult to do so."
Yeah, you presented this as "information", but I know how people like you (and me) think. If you thought this was irrelevant to your own situation, you wouldn't have said it.
So ON SOME LEVEL you are thinking in terms of DEFENDING yourself against certain emotions.
Which is pretty much the most normal thing in the whole world, by the way. I don't see anything weird here at all, except for the bluntness of your writing. But I've never had a problem with blunt.
In any case.
Look dude, I pretty much approached "love" EXACTLY the same way as you did. (Sexually we're polar opposites, but that is not relevant here.)
I pretty much spat on the whole idea of it. Me? Nope. Not gonna.
Anyways.
Don't feel like writing a long literal story, so here's a parable. (A fuckin' parable!)
My heart had a big wooden door that was already locked. Men came and picked at the locks. They didn't succeed. Even so, I pulled my hardest on the door, just in case. Just in case they got through all the locks. They'd still have to out-pull me.
Then one day a man came along who smashed through all the locks. I was scared. I pulled on the door as hard as I could. I'm a strong girl. I pulled that door toward me really, really hard.
He turned the handle and the door flew open...
... inward. Sending me flying into my own walls. With my own damn strength.
Think about it for a while.
xxNot afraid of falling in love, but afraid of getting hurt, broken hearted.
When you give your heart to someone and that someone hurts you (similar to deceive, cheat, lie, dissapointing, break promises, getting angry, tells you hurtful things, etc, etc), you can feel terrible and you can do something you can regret: from a break up till turning a relationship into an ill one.
It is difficult to assimilate, but these is part of life, about living, and if someone can overcome these, one can become stronger, not loving less or more cold in life, but one could appreciate more to live and gain experience in knowing others.I see this is an older post but I'll answer anyways. I'm terrified of falling in love again and it has happened. I fell in love years ago with a boy from school and got rejected and was heartbroken and depressed for years and said I'd never love anyone again and that I'd always love him. Now I've been with a guy for 2 years and I do love him with all my heart but I'm terrified of telling him how I feel that the same thing will happen again so I don't say a word. I'm in love with him and he doesn't even know, I say I love you as we are leaving and pulling away from each other but he doesn't hear it. I've wanted so badly to tell him how I feel and how much I love and care for him but because the last guy I loved hurt me so badly I'm unable to tell him.
Yes and no. I wear my heart on my sleeve, I'm sensitive and I'm naïve with the right intentions. I am terrified to get my heart broken again, and I don't want to feel the pain I felt once before. I don't think anyone should feel that kind of heartbreak.
But also, no I love love. I'm a hopeless romantic and loving and caring. So I will love with my entire whole being, fully and completely. I want to love and I want to be loved. If I get hurt, then it is just one more story, one more experience to help build my character. Life is gonna happen, love is a part of life so fuck it.Yeah I am I'm not gonna lie, my first experience with my ex was crazy. We linked perfectly I did nothing wrong she even said so she said I was perfect but she still left me and I just questioned myself about everything. All girls would say they would love me as a boyfriend and I can do better but idc I just wanted her back but she just didn't want me but she says she loves me and would be with me again one day. if its meant to be it will she said so that pissed me off. so now I want others girls and i would date them and some would date me, I just always think whats stopping her from doing the same to me.
I'm in love right now. Yes, I'm young. Yup, I still don't know what love is or how to handle it or how to deal with it. I've learned how scary being in love is, how vulnerable you feel, how painful it is, and that love is fucking difficult. It's overwhelming and I still don't know what it is. But I've felt it. I do feel it. And it's scary, yeah.
I'm not afraid of falling in love or love by itself coz I already am, BUT I am, afraid of things not working out for any reason, I think its a feeling that you can't control, coz when you love someone you will just be afraid of loosing them at some point
I guess a bit cause LOVE = chances of getting HURT. But whatever, you only live once, I suppose it's worth it.
Not in a way, i'm afraid that i won't be able to fall in love the way i did with my first love; we never dated and i know i need to move on but i'm really concerned that i'll not be able to love another girl like i did her
No, what I fear is falling madly in love for the wrong person.
i dont think im afraid.. but overall being in love with someone is a very vulnerable feeling im sure.
course. i don't wanna lose my mind or my judgement.
i'm in love now, but it's kind of terrifying. Who knew you could worry about someone so much?
Yes because im obsessed when i love someone i put them first think about them, but all the lead me to bad experinces, now i tnink im starting to love a woman but i runaway from her because i find her too good to give me bad experince sound crazy
yes because if that person breaks ur heart then u have to suffer from that
No. I can't wait to. Hopefully he'll be worth it though.
to be perfectly honest: yes because the last time i was madly in love i got super hurt and it took me actually years to get over it
Yes, I am afriad. But there's more want than fear so I would still do it. I'd just be cautious at first.
Nah im just afraid of falling in love with someone who dosent love me back.
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