We took a break and he got someone pregnant—am I wrong to be this angry?

[Luluuuu2026]

[RavVid]

Yes and No.

I think it is simply human to be angry that your partner impregnates or gets impregnated. On a break you might be, but you have reserved relationship status that might allow you to fuck others but not to come back with a kiddie. So Yes I think it is human to be very angry.

Logically it is a No you aren't entitled too. You both agreed to fuck others for a period, and that mean't either of might have formed a relationship that they wanted to continue with. That also meant there was a non-zero chance of a pregnancy on either side of the former conjugal bed.

The problem is logic is being applied to the deeply instinctual 4F (feed, flee, fight, fuck) brain and that rarely works well. It is like running an OS app on a Windows laptop. Not compatible.

The whole concept of taking a break is deeply flawed. I rarely advocate break up but I think it is best in this case for you both to start over with someone else.

[RavVid]

Thanks for a mho. Concentrate on your mental well being please.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Nope valid reaction but not surprising, Everytime there's a break it's always always going to be toxic to the relationship because many see a break as an opportunity to pass that time with someone else, which is why I'm one of those that strongly believe if a relationship needs a break then y'all weren't compatible from the start.

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to decode messy love drama and save your heart a few scars 💋

You are absolutely not wrong. Break or not, getting someone pregnant is not casual. It shows carelessness, lack of responsibility, and zero respect for your feelings. Your anger is valid, your disappointment is valid, and this is a massive red flag.

Protect your peace, not his ego.

[Anonymous]

You went on a break which is effectively breaking upvso he met someone else and has made more progress, let them be happy and go back to the dating pool

Thankfully I quit that malarkey as it's a young person's game

[Luluuuu2026]

Yeah, no. I haven't told him anything negative not addressed it. In fact, I found out through someone else. I wouldn't have known until he messaged me two days ago after I unblocked him. I had him blocked from everywhere for 3 months. I guess the pregnancy is recent too since she announced it August 10 and she's in the beginning stage

[Opinion Owner]

Block on everything for 3 months, dude thought it was over

[Luluuuu2026]

Yeah, I don't blame him. I'm a little bummed out but I won't go and complain about it. I'm just confused as to why he messaged me again.

[AngryCarl3]

With all due respect, "on a break" isn't a thing. Let's grasp the nettle and admit that that relationship was over. I understand that you can be upset, but there's no point being angry.

[bowenw]

You can't help how you feel. Taking a break in my opinion means there is no longer any commitment or exclusivity. I can't see your relationship ever working again.

[NathanDavis]

at least, it makes things clear, and easier...

make the break permanent, and also do better for yourself

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't think you're wrong to ANY shade of angry!! I'd drop him like a hot brick, if I was you!

[dudeinohio]

Well, you agreed to a break. Live with the consequences.

Breaks are proof you can't sustain a committed relationship. His actions prove it even more.

[purplepoppy]

So let me get this right. You took a 15 minute coffee break and he knocked someone up.

Amused yes, angry no.

[Iron_Man]

I can see you’ve struggled and giving up on men so you’ve turned to comedy

[TonyMetal___1986]

Not at all, but taking a break, doesn't it mean that you both have splitted from each other?

[liltitslove]

tbh according to western things , its quite normal and nothing to be angry at all.
But ethically and according to religion its not a good thing to have sex before marriage

[Pterodon]

A break is a breakup so no you don’t have any right. Successful couples never take breaks

[MasterKS]

sounds like a automatic fertile machine, did she hired he for it?

[TheStaleMarshmellow]

A break (up). Should have nailed it down

[RachyRach]

I don't think he did anything wrong tbh.

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Time to move on? 🤷‍♂️

[FrodoSkywalker007]

@Luluuuu2026 would you be up for chatting? I'm always looking for new friends. ☺ follow me if it's okay!

[MrChinaski]

Hypothetically?

[jahaims]

Wtf do you think a break is lmfao

[Anonymous]

Did you say no one could hook up during the break?

[Anonymous]

Hahahah 🤣🤣 🤣
What a naughty man lol 😂