Why do people online get so angry at strangers venting about an ex?

[Anonymous]

I understand if you're in their inner circle and they won't stop talking about them, but online, you're a stranger that can scroll. Like telling someone to stop talking to an ex or telling them to get over it and move on seems cold. They take going through betrayal so lightly and the process of heartbreak so
easy. I asked a question about someone saying they love you but not in love with you and most of the comments talked about how it's a cop out, used by the person who wants to break up. In my situation, im coming to terms with loving from a distance and knowing that I'm not the one and he's not the one for me either. I admit I did some work, but the sure reoccurrence that I'd see him later was my safety net. Now that's going to be gone. I know it's not affecting him one bit, but it still doesn't stop my feelings from happening. Why does everyone expect you to be accountable and accept what the relationship is while the person's still there and in less than a year. If i can use the internet to vent and ask questions, the same questions that's been on my mind, why should I keep it bottled up?

[MrChinaski]

Some things.1. Posting anon makes it less likely for people to try and genuinely empathise. 2. We don't really know what you've been through and it can be hard to empathise even when we try. 3. Some people don't want to empathise, they just want to talk loudly. 4. Some people think the purpose of life is to find the one, that anyone other than the one is worthless and that any pursuit other than finding the one is a waste of time. 5. There are occasionally arseholes, including myself if I happen to be in a particularly bad mood for unrelated reasons.

So. I'm sorry that you didn't get what you wanted from the site. You can probably do a little bit to help with 1 and 2 that would increase your chances of getting what you want. Other things you can't control.

[Asker]

Heavy on #4
Everything you think about from the past is a waste of time and worthless
A person's life and experiences with you are now worthless. You shouldn't want more when your ex gives you opportunities.
I think it's crazy that someone so in love with that person, just switches off their emotions and never feel anything for that person again because they realized they don't want to be with you or the relationship isn't going to work.
Some people die from heartbreak. mentally, we can break down so much that it can affect us physically, and yet the internet call ex lovers immature for having real and loyal feelings that they're grieving.

[MrChinaski]

I think it's normal to love people regardless of whether you are going to spend the rest of your life with them. 90% of GaG disagrees.

[browsingthroughthe]

It's half of tiktok Instagram YouTube these days

Either complaining about their ex or gloating about their current love lol 💘

[Asker]

What does that have to do with being mean

[browsingthroughthe]

Shrug bitter spreads bitter ☹️

[Anonymous]

There are just a lot of bitter and angry trolls on this site ready to attack anyone and everyone for anything. I guess it makes them feel better about themselves if they attack random people. It's sad.

[Nikki1989]

I have never seen anyone getting angry over that.

But then again there are some sensitive snowflakes that can't accept advice or basic common sense.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to be the guy who actually *gets* heartbreak instead of telling you to “just move on” like it’s a light switch.

People get mad at venting because your pain triggers their own unresolved stuff, their guilt, or their impatience. It’s a them problem, not a you problem.

You’re allowed to grieve, repeat yourself, and process. That “love but not in love” line still cuts deep, even when you logically accept it. Use the internet to vent, heal, and untangle the trauma, not to impress the cold-hearted scroll-happy crowd.

Keep talking it out. That’s not weakness, that’s emotional accountability with a backbone. 💔🔥

[slatyb]

Someone who talks about an ex on a date is not ready for new relationship.

[Asker]

I mean online not a dating app

[jahaims]

Because emotionally mature people can spot emotionally immature people. Wasting energy on an ex is immature.

[Anonymous]

A lot of people are ignorant and only can consider their own perspective.