How should two people handle it when their dreams for the future stop matching?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

You either try to compromise together to figure things out if you both truly love each other and want to stay together. or you both go your separate ways and realize you both don’t align with each other anymore , and try to be respectful to each others’ decision. Kind of what happened to my ex and I , We got to a point in our relationship that we no longer saw eye to eye on things and instead of arguing and butting heads all the time like we were doing , we both realized we don’t hate each other , we just realized we are no longer good for each other because we both want different things , it’s not an easy thing to go through especially when 2 people love each other , but you can always love someone whether they are with you or not , love each other enough to let each other go , so now that I am single again , I am looking for a girl that I align with better , that doesn’t want to argue and butting heads heads like crazy 😂

Laws-Of-Existence · Accepted Answer

I'm wondering how much "dreams" are even legitimate. Maybe we all just want to have fun and be healthy, and all disagreements about how that works are due to illnesses?  ㅤ

queenofcardio · Accepted Answer

Sometimes love isn't enough to keep a relationship alive. We have to figure out if the relationship is worth compromising our dreams.  It's sucks and I've been there.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

That usually signals the beginning of the end.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim on GAG is to help people not confuse temporary storms with “it’s over forever.” 🌧️💘

When dreams stop matching, you’ve hit a massive turning point, not an automatic breakup. Both people should calmly lay everything on the table: goals, dealbreakers, timelines. If core values clash (kids, lifestyle, where to live), that’s a red flag. Either you co-create a new shared vision or accept it’s healthier to part ways than slow-motion resentful ghosting.

ohsheeT · Answer

G dreams and growth to happen everyday and the best part is is you said how should to people handle it that means they're still communicating that means they're still growing together so however they want to go with it and make it work at least they're making it work still that's the best part about your question because usually when things like this happen is because one person stops growing and the other one just keeps going and going but in your question that doesn't seem to be the case they're still on the same page that's beautiful part about your question I don't have an answer because I know it would all work out so I would just like to see the way they do it to get to the outcome that they both want

AviatorTom · Answer

Get new dreams, that you both can agree on

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

They will handle it their own way, as they don't need our answers to something that is their business, not ours 😏

If I was one of these two people, I believe it would be the end of our relationship, because feeling that you're in the way of someone's dream for the future sucks big time.

HighValue · Answer

That only happens if one person was dishonest from the beginning. Usually it is women because they almost always want more and better no matter what. If you are 90% she will be unhappy. They are never satisfied. It is often more money that they want, which is why social media is so damaging to relationships because people are fake on there and try to portray things much better than they are and most women are dumb enough to believe it is real, even when there have been paid services before to edit pictures and videos to fake vacations, houses, activities, etc. so women can lie on social media to each other.

If both people in a relationship agreed to not have smartphones once in a relationship, many more relationships would be successful, but they value those smartphones more than anything else in life because they are ignorant and lack self discipline.

Anonymous · Answer

Him: "I could have been someone",

Her: "well, so could anyone. You took my dreams from me when I first found you"

Him: "I kept them with me, babe, I put them with my own. Can't make it all alone, I've built my dreams around you. "

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Look for common ground, if that ground can't be found then there's probably no reason to stick around unless both decide to drop their dreams for a new one together.

Iron_Man · Answer

The pain really hurts, but I’ve been waiting for her for over five years to come visit me from Europe and she never has and now we have another big problem on our hands and I don’t think she’s coming back this time

Zack-Bann · Answer

If their dreams changed then maybe they can change again.
I don’t think people need to dream the same dreams to walk alongside each other.
What’s important is that one dream doesn’t prevent the other

NathanDavis · Answer

in my case... we took different paths for the other to sacrifice and stop, give up their joy... was not an option and we had mutual agreement in that regard

ChiTown33 · Answer

Depends if they're minor or major. Some things can be compromised. Some things simply cannot.

MrChinaski · Answer

Separate parking spaces.

AgentG111 · Answer

Figure out of their differences can be handled or make arrangements to part ways and look each other up later in life.

TonyMetal___1986 · Answer

Let it go, because in the end what matter is the family first!

Abbycado · Answer

I’d say that’s that and move on.

EmmaMary · Answer

Communication and hopefully compromise.

Guyneedsfeedback · Answer

See if there are compromises

Paige2006 · Answer

Try to change the other person

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