Should you be honest if you think your partner’s dreams are unrealistic?

[HawkPerception]

Yes

No

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Eeek. It really depends. I think when someone is "dreaming", it's more of an emotional communication than a practical or realistic one. I think it's worth exploring that emotional connection and asking theoretical questions about how it would play out. In my experience, it helps dreamers to be able to to talk through their ideas and often they will talk themselves down, if they are a halfway sensible person.

But if the dreams begin to pose a threat (as in, he/she wants to take all of your shared savings and buy cryptocurrency), it's time to have a serious talk about boundaries. There are dreams, and there are fantasies. Most people have dreams; but some people bridge over into fantasies and that may require additional help.

I think if it's a common theme in the relationship, it's helpful to have a specific, calm conversation about some safe phrases to use as reminders if things feel like they are getting out of hand. Something that gently signals them that "this topic is entering 'fantasy' and needs to stay there". That way, the conversation stays respectful of their feelings while offering a cue that it's "just a pipe dream".

[Rei02]

Just remember that one thing is to be honest and other thing is to be unsensitive. You can be honest without being unrespectful.

Eg, "I want to be in the next Olympics and participate, not a joke."

You: It is a great you want to do it, but unless you can prove you can fulfill the requirements which are in the entry, it is impossible.

Now it is up to your partner how he/she takes it.

[Zack-Bann]

You should always be honest about what you think


But when it comes to dreams it’s important to consider the other person’s perspective thoroughly.


Many dreams can seem unrealistic until they are achieved


And many dreams are simply inconceivable


Like breathing under water with no equipment is a futile dream for a human
But becoming a scuba diver isn’t


That’s the nuance to have here

[HawkPerception]

Well said man. Couldn't say it better.

[Ariesman81]

Only if you want to be told how mean and unsupportive you are.

[CarolinaGirl5]

Lmfaooooo yes

[Dongie]

Yes.