What is it really like being in an interracial marriage long term?

[Anonymous]

I sometimes date a colored girl and I fancy Indian and Chinese girls

But having been married myself, I worry what it works be like to be in a interracial marriage
Would race become the main issue?

[Laulenke]

As of next week I will be married to my beautiful wife of 19 years she is Japanese/Korean and I love her to death she has treated better then all the other women I’ve dated and she definitely has treated me better then my ex wife (which she was white)

[Asker]

I relate to what you're saying
This woman I was dating made me feel special
Not always nagging me
Not demanding

[AviatorTom]

I know a few interracial couples. They face many of the same issues same-race couples face. Race is rarely an issue.

[rose_noire]

Long term it's not really about race, it's about whether you both do the right thing when it's inconvenient.

If you're dating a type, race will feel like the issue, if you're dating a person, it won't.

[EmmaMary]

I have absolutely no idea whatsoever... Sorry.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to give you the unfiltered relationship truth with a little charm on the side 😏

Long-term interracial marriage is like any other serious relationship: communication, respect, and shared values matter way more than skin color. Race only becomes “the main issue” if either partner or their families have unresolved biases.

You’ll face cultural clashes, weird comments, maybe some family red flags… but if both of you are a team, it actually deepens intimacy. You learn, adapt, and build your own culture together.

So no, race doesn’t ruin it. Emotional maturity or the lack of it does.

[Anonymous]

A colored girl? What is this, 1920? What color was she? LMAO. What color are you - beige-ish, pink-ish, white-ish? Race is only an issue when you deal with small minded people in certain parts of the world. Unfortunately, there's a lot of those.

[Asker]

Haha

Well okay I'm in a backwater part of the world
It's true
I'm also old. That might explain.
OG view is the world
Maybe 1930s

[Opinion Owner]

Well climb out from under your rock. Everyone in the world is a colored person of some shade and you're no different. Just because you're in beige/white end of the spectrum doesn't mean you're not colored. If you can't look past skin pigmentation, you don't have much chance for a successful interracial marriage.

[rose_noire]

Anon -- Your logic eats itself.

You said race is only an issue for small minded people, then you made it an issue just to feel big over an old man who said he's old.

You said everyone is colored, then used beige/white like it's not.

[rose_noire]

@question Owner -- respect for saying it straight, most people double down when called out, you didn't.

That's the whole point of long term anyway.

[Opinion Owner]

@rose_noire I didn't MAKE anything an issue, Rose. I don't feel big over anyone, I just called out a person who is trapped in their own racism and bigotry. Pointing that out to someone doesn't make me feel bigger, but rather, it's a point to make THEM realize that they are NOT bigger. Get it?

[rose_noire]

Anon -- You just proved my point again.

You said you don't feel big, then you said you need to make him feel NOT bigger.

That's still about feeling big.

Pointing out bigotry by being bigoted about age is still bigotry.

You didn't call out racism, you just changed the target. Get it?

[Opinion Owner]

@rose_noire That's your opinion, which I don't agree with

One more try with you; this wasn't about age - you made it about age with your inference.
I was letting someone else know they are NOT bigger than someone else BECAUSE of their COLOR. That is not in the least about "feeling big", though it seems to be for you. It's about saying you're no bigger, or smaller, than anyone else based on your race. If you choose to interpret that as a flaw, or label it as " that's still about feeling big", that's your prerogative, and your inference.

HIS racism is not a result of his age, or his era. Racism is a result of ignorance, and it's taught and learned. That's nothing more than a justification and an excuse. That's no different than saying " Everyone else had slaves at the time, so why shouldn't I?"

The target remains the same; it's ALWAYS ignorance. Be well.

[rose_noire]

@Anon-- Appreciate you clarifying. I hear you.

My point was never about where his racism came from.

My point was about the method.

You said you don't feel big, but your method is still about making someone feel not bigger. That's still about big.

We can point out ignorance without becoming what we point out. That's all.

Be well too.

[Pterodon]

Mine is black and I love being in a biracial relationship. I think it’s hilarious that I’m very much a white open gun carrying MAGA with a black woman

[genericname85]

Like every other marriage except that her skin color is different than yours.

[Asker]

Oh right
Do you have experience?

[genericname85]

I'm here willing to talk and I'm not charging you. Take it or leave it.

[Asker]

It's a valid question
You suggesting you know
But you only know if your been there

[Asker]

Another person here said they have no idea

[genericname85]

I've dated interracially. I wasn't married. It doesn't make a difference.

[Asker]

Maybe you live more racially integrated city

[genericname85]

lol i actually live in probably the most right leaning county of my country. i live in the capital city of the county that just elected a party promising to kick out immigrants XD so no i wouldn't say i live in a racially integrated city. pretty much the opposite of that. i'm just not that way personally.

[dudeinohio]

Not at all. It would very rarely even come up as a topic.