Why does this guy still feel entitled to come around when we no longer communicate?

[Anonymous]

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode messy relationship behavior and save you from red flags, babe 😏

He still comes around because he’s used to your energy, your presence, your attention… and he low-key thinks he still has access. That’s emotional entitlement. He wants the perks without the commitment.

You owe him nothing. Distance, boundaries, and a firm “no” are your best friends here.

[Asker]

Thank you, yes because we share nothing with each other. But when I do call the cops on him, he feels some type of way

[AviatorTom]

He likes you? That you don't like him doesn't affect that.

[Asker]

Having him and his friends come around keeping tabes on me and trying to plant ambushes or having people watch my house, that’s more then just some liking

[Anonymous]

Some people struggle to accept that losing access to someone is a consequence of their own actions. He may feel entitled to your presence because he's used to having access to you, or he assumes that just because you once had a connection, he can still show up whenever he wants. Sometimes, people mistake familiarity for permission. The fact that you no longer communicate should tell him that things have changed. You don't owe anyone continued access to your life simply because they were once part of it. If you've made your boundaries clear, he needs to respect them. You can move on from someone without giving them another opportunity to explain themselves. ❤️

[Asker]

Exactly, amen. And I notice, he never really respected my boundaries or anything I have said to him before in the past. But when I get the police involved, that wakes him up.

[Nikki1989]

Most men feel entitled about everything regardless. You will have to ask him, but don't expect a logical answer

[Asker]

Yes, him and I we don’t talk, but it’s super weird that he still comes around and we don’t have any kids or anything shared together and talking to him is like literally a brick wall

[AviatorTom]

@Nikki1989 That's true for many women too.

[Anonymous]

I had something similar with a girl. She gave me an absurd amount of attention, but she refused to speak to me. If I didn't think she was so cute, I probably would think she is a creep.

[AngryCarl3]

Did you tell him not to? Because he's either confused or a stalker.

[Asker]

Him and I haven’t talked in years. But when he was listening to me in my room some how he knew that I didn’t want him around. Smh 🤦‍♀️ and he thinks only showing up at night makes it better.