My boyfriend gets mad about everything... What gives?

[Jackie1106]

My boyfriend gets mad at me about a lot of things. Like when I don't text him a lot when I'm at work or when other guy friends stop by my work to see me. Also when I want a pajama day alone in my house he gets mad that I'm blowing him off. He's had girls cheat on him before. Why is he doing this? What should I do? We've been dating a year and three months and I love him very much. Help?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he is incredible insecure of your relationship. He sounds like he is in a defensive mode...He'd rather accuse you or get angry at you ahead of time thinking you are going to cheat on him.

It becomes a self fullfilling prophecy if he accuses you of cheating and if it does happen, he can say to himself and others, "See,..I knew it all along."

It's a way to keep the wall up. Don't be surprised if his whole diluted mistrust drives him to cheat, just so he can pre-emptively hurt you before you hurt him.

It's a weird, crazy vicious cycle...

It hard to love someone like that when they don't even love themselves. You don't want to cheat because you'll make him a martyr in his own head. He'll take himself out of the equation eventually. Just keep your emotional distance,...things could get ugly down the road.

[Kain6th]

He sounds clingy and controlling, tell him to respect your space or else break up with him

[countrygirl123]

He sounds like he has some definite trust issues, most often that just takes a lot of time to heal. If you really really care about him, then go out of your way just to show him you can be trusted. He's probably getting mad because he doesn't believe you are actually doing what you say. You might try sending him pictures of what you are doing at that particular time so he can't question if you're lying. :)

[marythom]

He is incredibly insecure. You can talk to him about it... but since you guys have been together over a year now, there is absolutely no reason he should not be able to trust you. Just because he had been cheated on in the pas isn't an excuse (because you are not any of those girls!). I don't really see him changing though...