Boyfriend angry all the time?

[Anonymous]

boyfriend and I are together for a year and few months. He lately started getting agitated and irritated with every little thing and anything can trigger his anger from something getting delayed, to my microphone when calling each other, to his headphones not working. We are currently long distance temporarily and communicate on a daily basis. When I brought up his anger he got defensive and angry at me for not understanding that he gets tired from work and wants to chill and not think much about anything so I asked him to call me when he cools off ( he always calls me right after work so if something happened he'll vent at me about it. I dontt mind him venting about work or life but not pointing his anger towards me cause that's hurtful). He can be pretty mean when he's angry. I love him and I care so clearly something is bothering him stress or depression or his studies. Says he is exhausted from not sleeping good. When i ask him about it he gets mad and says he doesn't want to talk about it so I change the subject. I know how sweet and caring and loving he can be and I miss my amazing boyfriend. I asked him many times what can I do to help him and he got defensive that im offending him by implying he's emotionally weak. He has this plan about us living together and being at the same city without asking me and when I found out I expressed my concern partly because of his anger especially if we start a family in the future. Since I voiced my concern and said that I was thinking to move abroad for work next year he has been getting angry at me and refuses to discuss it. I brought it up and he said I cannot sleep for days cause I was overthinking that you don't love me anymore then I decided to not give a shit about our future since I am not decisive and like to mess with him. He also became more jealous and suspicious although telling me that he trusts me and he isn't worried. Honestly not certain what to do but I love him a lot and I see him as the man of my life.

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I was planning to apply for a job in another country but haven't discussed it with him yet.

[Guy13]

Oh my... This is not how I would hope that my partner would react. I think I would be happy with your chance to work abroad AS LONG AS I was secure in you and that you were secure in us. That's too bad... it is kinda like a temper tantrum cause things are not going his way? I do not know as you are there. I hope this works out as you wish it too. Good luck on that job opportunity...

[Asker]

Yes it seems to be what you described. When I mentioned that I am not happy and might need to go abroad his first thought was that he already planned to return back so we can be together and now he will have to re-evaluate his life. While I was in the midst of my own career pursue. And now I lied that I'm not going anywhere but I will apply to this job and then if I get it will discuss it with him cause he gets extremely angry and frustrated. Do you think that's the reason when ever we speak he gets mad? He says is because I'm asking whats up and he doesn't want to talk about it. Then I'm like maybe take some time to cool down and call me when you're calmer cause he's calling me already annoyed and I explained to him that it makes me sad when I dont know how to handle it (most times I don't).

[Guy13]

Fits of anger are not a good sign. Please be cautious