Long distance, is it a valid reason for a break up or just an excuse?

[Anonymous]

Recently my boyfriend of over a year told me he just couldn't handle the distance anymore. At the time I tried to be understanding, but now it just feels like an excuse.

We never had any real arguments and it doesn't seem like there were any underlying problems but from my perspective, things were so great and completely worth the drive. we only live a few hours apart.

So the question is, have you ever just used the distance as an excuse? Or was the distance the real reason for the break up?

[jayyparkk]

Distance breakups are notorious for being just excuses. The only case of where a distance breakup would sound realistic would be something where you wouldn't be able to drive to. In this case you say a few hours. Now for some that may seem a lot to drive for, but in this case I don't think distance is the reason. Since you seem to be fully willing to drive those couple hours to meet him but not vice versa, I say he has lost interest in you and is using it as an excuse.

[BobBobinson]

I think it's probably an excuse. I honestly believe that if you really love someone, you'd be willing to drive/fly hours to be with them. But then again, I've never been in a long distance relationship before, so I'm only saying what I would (probably) feel like.

[isotope]

a lame excuse Id say.. If you love the person.. You'll wait for them no matter where they go.

You don't have to see someone everyday to love them and appreciate them for what they truly are.

[BirdofParadise]

I have never used distance as an excuse... but after being in a long distance relationship for a few years I wouldn't want to be in one again.

[answermethis20]

I would never be able to do long distance, especially if it was so far away. So I doubt he's just using it as an excuse.