Boyfriend beat me up.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of 2yrs hit me for the first time 2 days ago and my best friend says if he sees another bruise on me that my boyfriend would regret it. I love my boyfriend but I starting to fall in love with my best friend how do I leave this boyfriend before I get hurt again.

[scofield]

My advice, as a guy, is to leave. Now.

Common Responses as to why you "should" stay:

"But I love him!" - He doesn't feel the same or he wouldn't turn his hand on you and injure you physically.

"It was my fault!" - It very well may be, but he isn't in the right state of mind to handle problems in a mature manner. Hitting doesn't mean: Problem Solved.

"It was accident!" - Oops, I accidentally roughed you up. That didn't even work for the Mafia and they got away with quite a lot.

He's not in control of himself and lacks proper manners on how to treat a lady. No matter how a girl acts (unless she's trying to kill/severely injure you) guys don't lay a hand on them. He hasn't learned this, nor has he learned how to handle a situation with his head. I've met a few women who were in abusive relationships. It only gets worse. EVERY TIME. There is no single relationship that's physically abusive that gets better. It doesn't.

If you feel you're causing him to be upset then this relationship obviously isn't working for either of you two. So, leave.

[Anonymous]

just leave. deal with breaking up with him later. for now just remove yourself from the situation. if your gone, hell get the point. leave a note or something telling him not to contact you and cut him out of your life. if you want to talk, do so on the phone, or somewhere where he can't hurt you.

if he hits you, he doesn't respect you no matter what you think. there are so many guys out there that are decent and that can't tolerate violence against women. I wouldn't recommend rushing into another relationship straight away, but never consider getting back with him. he's not worth it if your living in fear of being hurt again.

[Anonymous]

Break up with him and cut off contact. That means no taking him back even if he apologizes and seems like the sweetest guy in the world. You just got proof that he is not so remember that. This is the most important because if you keep taking him back you're continuing the cycle of abuse. Tell your family and close friends so they understand why you're leaving. Stay away from him and cut him out of your life. He just put his hands on you and he will do it again as soon as he has a "reason". You'll get over him. Good luck!

[Asker]

I believe it was an accidents

[Opinion Owner]

He accidentally hit you? Are you sure?

[Asker]

I made him mad it was my fault

[Opinion Owner]

Oh no girl. I don't care how mad you make someone they have no right to put their hands on you. He crossed the line and is now making you think it's your fault. It's not your fault. He should control his impulses. He's not 5. He can't go around hitting people because they make him mad. Your boyfriend is a bitch and not a real man. I bet he wouldn't have done that to some 6'5 300 lb. guy if he made him mad! =(

[ashley90]

Get out quick. Don't do it in person and if you do, make sure it is in a public place. Then just tell him it isn't working and break up with him. If he threatens you or tries to hurt you again tell an adult. Call the police. Just make sure he doesn't hurt you again.

[Asker]

Evey time he says he is sorry and he will never do it angain and he says its an accident

[ashley90]

That doesn't change the fact that he does it, and will continue to do it. Really, get out of it. You should not put up with that EVER. You deserve better.

[Asker]

But I love him with all my heart how can you leave some one you love???

[ashley90]

If he loved you with all his heart he would NEVER hurt you. I thought you said you were starting to fall in love with your best friend? Then you can't be in love with your boyfriend with your whole heart.. But I know it will be hard leaving someone you have been with for so long. Trust me, I know. But it will get better with time and you will get over him. You just have to end the relationship before he hurts you again.

[Asker]

I love my bestfriend but but I don't know how to end it with my boyfriend in a safe manner

[ashley90]

Like I said, do it over the phone or in a public place. If he threatens you or says anything that scares you. Or if you are just afraid, tell some official so they can make certain he stays away

[Marycoolness]

Leave now. It wouldn't get better, it will get worse. I believed in good and now I'm in the hospital with fractured rib and damaged lung. Think about your own health and mental state! Love yourself, leave him for good

[sarrry]

just say its over, don't tolerate that.. he's a coward. you deserve so much better

[Asker]

Evey time he says he is sorry and he will never do it angain and he says its an accident