I haven't seen my boyfriend in 2 months. I'm so confused as to what is going on?

[xxshadowxx26]

I haven't seen my boyfriend in 2 months or so and him and I have had our fights just like every other relationship but him and I were all good telling each other how much we love each other and talking about our future and how someday we'll be together (we live an hour and a half away from each other) so just recently a co-worker of his had just become single and she has asked him for a ride several times then I had a jealousy fit about the issue so we were okay then several hours later he came back telling me that he's not sure if he loves me or anything that he's very unsure about his feelings towards me and what not...So I asked him what he would like to do about the issue. And I told him I need to know today because it isn't fair and I'm not gonna waste my time and whatever. He came back at me with he wants to take a break because we aren't connecting anymore, we are constantly arguing, and we have been getting on each others' throats along with the fact that the distance is very stressful.I told him we have been through much more worst stuff and he knew from the beginning that I was moving so he knew what he was getting himself into and he didn't care so whatever I spoke to him and told him lets work things out and he said I really don't want to I just wanna take a break from the whole thing. so he decides lets take a break and I asked him how long of a break are we looking at mind you I don't believe in that since that's something that today's generation uses of "taking a break" so he said well if I find out you did something with another guy that's it were over I don't care and it would bother me like crazy while if I did something I know it would bother you so I said yes it would so we agreed that we have no sexual contact with the opposite gender. then I asked him if he would like to speak to me at all during this break and he said it doesn't matter to him and I said okay then we'll talk in the evenings to see if anything happen and if we broke the rule of pretty much being faithful to one another.

We then agreed to call each other by our actual names and what not. He did give me the girl's number and he swore to me that there's nothing going on that he doesn't see her in that way just that he likes her as a friend So I called her and she was saying omg I'm so sorry I asked him if it would bother you blah blah I apologize if I caused you drama and I would understand why you would be calling me up for and stuff like that and I promise there's nothing going on your boyfriend is not even my type of guy he's to immature for me and whatever. And the kinda relationship we have is just co-workers and just friends nothing more nothing less. So for the past few days they have been going to parties together getting drunk and he's crashing at her house and what not. And yesterday morning I tried to talk to him and he ignored me or rather rejected me and just last night out of the blue he sent me a good night text...I mean this is confusing me

[CrystalMinds]

Let me start by saying this: you said that he knew you were moving and he knew what he got himself into. WRONG. You can't imagine what a LDR would be like if you never had it before. En plus, every person is different.

The fact that you live a while apart could be a factor in the change of feelings. You haven't seen each other in a while so the feelings when you're around aren't there right now.

He wants to take a break but not cut you out of his life completely, because I mean, it's not an official break up. I didn't believe in having a break as well but actually it could be a good idea. But the fact is that you live a while apart so the whole "break thing" isn't really doing anything to me, in my opinion. You don't see each other that often I guess?

I wouldn't give him just a day to make a decision, it's still about feelings and you can't figure them out overnight. But I wouldn't like a break from about two months myself.

Just set a date a couple of weeks/months from now to meet up, talk things through, all the issues, frustrations, feelings, whatever you wanna say and make a decision: stay together or break up.

It's living in insecurity for a while but you have a certain point in the future (if it's weeks or a couple of months) where you'll know for sure how things will go or end.

[xxshadowxx26]

yeah we set up the break for 7 days where we will talk everything out and see if we have feelings for each other...I mean when he was at the party he did text me and then yesterday he went all day not wanting to talk to me and then he sent me that random good night text...but the irony is that he has not deleted my pictures on his phone and he hasn't changed none of his passwords to his social networks

[CrystalMinds]

Was he drunk or intoxicated at the party? That could explain something, to be honest. I don't think that stuff is really on his mind, changing passwords and deleting photo's. I know other people who still have pics of their ex'es on phones and fb :)

[xxshadowxx26]

he was very drunk at the party and high at the time and just now I saw that the girl was happy with spending time with him and she's thanking him for making her smile and tonight they are gonna go off to another party

[CrystalMinds]

Nothing wrong. You both agreed no sexual contact so... I wouldn't worry about that girl too much. He might feel something for her, that happens. Or he could feel nothing for her. I'm afraid you'll have to trust them on that. I wouldn't look too much into her statusthingy.

[xxshadowxx26]

you think? I mean it just seems like it and it hurts seeing that and I just wonder why he would text me night last night and I don't know at this point but she told me straight out she doesn't see him like that and whatever but who knows :(

[CrystalMinds]

Yes, they might be lying. But they might be telling the truth. If he's getting back together with you after this break, you're gonna worry about that girl, he's gonna get fed up with it and break it off. You need to trust him. Trust is really important, especially in a LDR.

[xxshadowxx26]

I guess your right so I should just disregard the whole thing and wait it out and actually give him trust...

[CrystalMinds]

Yeah, I think that's the best thing to do. Just know that he could either break up with you officially or get back together. Just see what happens, though I know it's hard to do. Good luck!

[Razp_Sorbet]

Just had to say that fights in relationships are NOT normal. Bickering here and there, slight disagreements are normal but fighting is not a normal thing.

[Guy13]

He is no longer your boyfriend

[douride2]

After 2 months of no contact is he really still considered a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

He's just not that into you.