My boyfriend makes me feel so ugly. How do I deal with this?

[leslie02]

My boyfriend has never told me that I was beautiful ot anything like that,he only talk about my butt how great it is and he said some hurtful things like everybody looks at your butt only,everyone who tells you that you are pretty just wants to get into your pants,there is no nice and pretty girl in the worl,i don´t need to have a beautiful gir,but you are not ugly,and I would not replace you for a beautiful girl...but he would say how pretty some celebrity or a friend is..so obviously he doesn´t find me pretty much,right?and just for the record,i am probably not ugly,everyone tells me I am beautiful-except for my boyfriend,and I get a lot of attention everyday-don´t want to sound conceited,just to let you know that other people find me attractive...he says he really loves me,that I mean a world to him and he doesn´t want to let me go..but he can´t also really love me if he tells me things like that,right?it really hurt me and it proves he doesn´t like me much and doesn´t love me enough if he tells me things like that-or am I unreasonable?

[Kinglouis]

It's good he is just your boyfriend now, so there no obstacle to dump this low life mf.

You deserve someone much better then this, lose him, fast

He makes you feel ugly, while you are not, you are young, and you will find a better partner

He is using negativity to control you, don't reward this

Talk to him about how this makes you feel, and that is makes you think of leaving him

give him an ultimatum of a month, so he can prove he can change

Otherwise, read my first 3 sentences over and over again

[twice-shy]

I don't think this guy will ever understand the word "LOVE" !

He says he really loves you. Yea Right.

Talk is cheap.

Heck, there is more love for you from us that respond to you than what he seems capable of giving you.

Love is directly related to "Caring" and I can tell that we care more about you than he does.

Dump this ASS ASAP!

[leslie02]

You are absolutely right..he says he loves me,but he does not have a clue what a real love is about..thank you and everybody else who answered

[twice-shy]

Thanks for the Best Answer :)

When you find someone who "Truly Cares" about you, love will be before you :)

Take Care and Good Riddance to Bad Rubbish!

[kangaru]

I feel that he is being insecure, maybe he is worried that someone will take you away (some selfish people do that) henceforth he put you down. but this is your life and you should be free to do what you want even if you are attached or married I feel that you have your own life. life is short, live happily and dump him.

[diosadelanoche]

He sounds emotionally abusive. When you love someone, they're beautiful to you no matter what. You should get out of this relationship before it gets worse, and he convinces you that you need him because he's the only one who would be with you. You don't need to tolerate that. Find someone who respects and adores you.

[Anonymous]

He's just playing with your mind. He wants to tell you that you're pretty, but he's too scared too. He's just insecure. Which is OK. He just needs some anti-anxiety pills to help him. At least he's not physically hurting you. If he is, then break up. That's what I would do.

[Anonymous]

It sounds as if he is so selfish he does not want want you to feel good. He sounds really rude and disrespectful. Or maybe he does not realize how he is acting and does not know how to compliment or that you want compliments. Either way he does not sound like a good man.

[leslie02]

well,when I tell him how I feel,he says he did not mean it,that I am the most beautiful girl in the world,or that he had not been telling me that I was pretty because I did not tell it either,or that guys always told him not to show a girl that he is crazy about her..but when I told him how come he would talk about my butt all the time how great it is,he did not say a word..so clearly he does not really like my face much,right?

[Pedantic]

This situation goes beyond whether you are beautiful or not. There is a respect and a tact issue at hand.

And for all you guys out there reading, the 2nd best way to get into a girls pants is to make her feel beautiful (#1 is use alcohol), so in a way, this guy really doesn't know how to get a properly good time out of you. It *will* diminish sex quality because through the whole thing the girl is constantly going to be wondering if she's good enough or why it is even happening if she is ugly, etc...

But all of that aside, most tactful men out there actually do realize how injurious it is to a woman to make her feel unattractive. Its like...part of the love book... or something... everyone who knows anything at all knows not to cross that line. Never, ever, call a girl ugly except in the hearing of your own brain.

All I can say is your man didn't get the memo. He has a lonely life ahead of him -- lots of luck with those celebrities :)

[Spirit156]

Of your butt is the only thing he thinks is good about you and putts the rest of you in a so-so state

Id be thinking twice if I made the right decision to stay with him

Hes obviously fascinated by butts and he's one himself a pure ass

They say species search for species... obviously he doesn't care about the rest

Now my opinion is he loves your butt but the rest is just a byproduct

[the-man-who-knows]

He sounds like a pig. You deserve someone that will treat you right. I would dump him and move on. Staying with him will only cause you pain.

[rizzo389]

Not very respectful. He should be greatful that he has a beauty like you. And should let you know. He needs to learn some manners and be a gentleman. Show some class to your lady.

[Mar1uxia]

“The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows & the beauty of a woman only grows with passing years.”

[leslie02]

that?s true..and if a man really loves a woman, he should probably see the true beauty in her..and I am a good person,different from other girls,and I don?t think I deserve to be treated like that..I just don?t understand..he probably sees me totally different

[Anonymous]

Get rid of this guy - he sounds very confused and very immature.

He also sounds like a bully, who thinks he has to make you think no one else would ever want you, it's an attempt to control you and keep you under his thumb.

Get out.

[leslie02]

well I don?t know..he can see that a lot of men are interested in me and it pisses him off,but he doesn?t really appreciate me..he?s been telling me all those hurtful things from the beginning but otherwise he was very considerate and treated me nicely,but i?s getting worse,he is not considerate or nice anymore,but he wouldn?t let me go..I?ve been telling him it?s over for 10 months,but he would still come,it?s still like on and off relationship,because he doesn?t want to let me go and I love

[glitterberryalisa]

what a jackass. if I were you, he'd be gone. real fast. you can find someone SO much better than that.

[FluffySheep]

Why is he even your boyfriend? He's a jerk. Kick him to the curb, you deserve better.

[evenlift]

This guy sounds terrible.

[Anonymous]

you feel ugly ? I am ugly and all girls hate me and I never had a girlfriend or a female friend . Suck it up