My boyfriend cheated on me with a coworker and still speaks to her!

[Anonymous]

After, having my female intuition tell me something was wrong. I questioned him and found out that he was flirting inappropriately with a coworker. They technically cyber-f***ed via text, video chat, fb, etc.

After his begging and pleading I took him back. Now a year and a half later, I find out he still speaks to her. They started talking again 2 weeks after I found out the first time. They call each other, and text. He even switched her name in his phone, so I would not suspect anything.

When I confronted him, he admitted it and called her in front of me to tell her they could no longer be friends.

I am in so much pain right now. We have been together for 3 years and 7 months. I really love him and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. But I do not know if I can get over this level of betrayal. He has cried, begged, and pleaded with me and says he refuses to let me go.

I know he loves me but this seems unforgivable.

What should I do?

[Ace8696090]

It's best if you forget about him. In order to do that you must cut all connections with your boyfriend. Be happy with your family and friends. occupy your mind with things that you want other than your boyfriend. listen to music because it helps a lot. It's best if you forget about him. I also experienced the same thing. My girlfriend and I were together for one year and 4 months. We love each other so much that we treat ourselves as husband and wife and then one day I found out that she kissed,had cybersex and having sex with a guy that she liked before me. the didn't even have any relationship with each other. the boy isn't courting her at all. I left everything just for that girl but this is all I get.. it's just so frustrating... well you got your tip so no reason to listening to me. hahaha

[Alessus]

I agree with pr3ttybr0wn that what he did was not suitable actions from someone in a committed relationship and that you shouldn't have taken him back. No matter how he begs or cries, your trust in him has been broken once already and statistically speaking it's quite likely to happen again. I advice you to break up, otherwise it might just end up eating you inside, that nagging feeling left by his betrayal and the constant suspicions caused by it. And if you do catch him again, it'll be so much worse.

[3boys4me]

You sorta brought this on yourself by forgiving him the 1st time and not kickin his loser ass to the curb. You know he loves you? Sorry girl but if he truly loved you he would never be able to bear hurting you in this manner. He quite obviously has no amount of respect for you because if he did there's no way he would treat you this way. I mean come on don't you deserve better?

[vmw2008]

Leave him. He's not sorry he did it, he's sorry he got caught. He has a bad habit of needing to step out on a relationship and that will not change. He will do the same to any other girl he dates.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

It is unforgivable.your first mistake was taking him back the first time.he's not gonna change.once a cheater, always a cheater. Dump his ass

[Racez]

He really is just holding you around, and kinda wants you just for hookup reasons. It's clear that he's so much more interested in his co-worker.

You need to leave him now, and stop wasting time on him. You're still young, and you'll see that leaving him is one of the greatest things you can do in life.

[quinto532]

Don't waste any more time feeling sorry for yourself. For once, he did you a favor. Block him as well, and look for someone who appreciates your worth. I was in a similar position a few years ago, and I had to go to counseling as well as recruit a trained private investigator from cyb4rgeek's hacking lab to help me find out what was going on.

[MollyM207]

Honey, you need and deserve the support of a counselor right now. Get counseling services for yourself FIRST, then talk with your counselor about having him come in for a few sessions.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Sorry for your pain. Drop him like a bad habit. He has no intention of changing and being faithful to you.

[temptationfalls]

Leave. It sucks but he's not showing that he is serious about the relationship.