Why does my boyfriend collect sexy pictures of other girls/models?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. We both love each other very much and I would say we have a pretty open relationship. We have argued about him keeping or looking at pictures of sexy girls before and i have told him that I didn't like it and that I get jealous because of that. He said he understood but I still find those pictures in his phone. What should I do?

[SteelyMcBeam]

Well, you've already stated your wishes to him so that's about all that you can do. But if you are in an OPEN relationship and he is just whacking off to pictures and not actually pursuing women on the side why would you care? I thought OPEN relationships were where couples could be inclusively polygamous (like inviting friends over for threesomes and stuff like that).

To be honest, I've been single for large portions of my life and I just like to masturbate to women who seem horny. I rarely remember who I've masturbated to as p*rn women use stage names and are a dime-a-dozen from my perspective. It just feels a lot better to masturbate to moaning women who are visually being stimulated than it does to masturbate without. There is literally nothing personal about it; it's just mother nature's programming for naked women to make our dicks stimulated.

Maybe you could take sexual pictures of yourself with your head cropped off (so you can't be identified down the road), and offer those to him to use. I'm sure neither of you would be against that idea!

I will say this though. He shouldn't keep such pictures on his phone as that's just asking for trouble if the phone falls in the wrong hands. I just stream everything without keeping history, myself; more variety, no problems of history being found by guest users.

Finally, just remember that p*rn is just a sex toy. Would you be upset if you were told to throw away your sex toys? Don't fight him; join him and play together.

[26ukdude]

"I would say we have a pretty open relationship"
Meaning they can talk about things together, not an open relationship in the sense they see other people.

[juggaloscrub]

I've shared my view on this subject a number of times. The way I see it he is showing you a lack of respect. If someone that's in a relationship with someone does something that the other person had asked them not to its a problem. In my view it doesn't matter what it is. I sure would be upset if my girl had a collection of guys on her phone!

[Eternallylucky]

For masturbation. I caught my own brother cutting out pictures of bra worn by models from the fliers. I think he uses it for visual stimulation.

[Anonymous]

It's just p*rn. 99% of guys will look at p*rn and hot women with or without your consent. It's sad, but true.

[Anonymous]

Well if he's like me he just really likes women lol. For me they're harmless. Just a bad habit I picked up as a kid that I haven't put the effort in to kick. It's like p*rn but less cheesy and unartistic. Trust me those pictures don't even begin to compare to you. No picture can compete with an actual person. I know this and I'm sure he does to. I wouldn't pressure him to do anything. Love is about acceptance and sharing. Just make sure he knows exactly how they make you feel (without attacking him) and he'll decide what to do on his own. Don't let this minuscule detail ruin a good thing. Share your feelings then try your best to let it go and focus on the good stuff

[26ukdude]

They're just pictures, you can't cheat with a screen or a piece of paper, relax. Women get off to books like Fifty Shades of Grey and other steamy novels fantasising about the men in them, whats the difference?

[AshBrown]

You cannot do anything to make a change. Accept it; give him space; and live your life.

[skippertod1]

cos guys are meant to be unfaithful and spread thier seed, better he is open about the pictures rather than hiding them.

[Anonymous]

Because he likes looking at them, and he thinks your jealousy is a stupid reason to deny himself the simple pleasure of looking at pictures.

[mario1321]

there's nothing wrong with admireing a womans beauty, if you dont like it though than you start collecting mens pictures

[Gianisaur]

guys look we can't help it