Do you think the 'learning curve' exists early on in relationships?

[kaylaS91]

I've been with my boyfriend for a few months and we're happy at the moment, with a lot of chemistry and we get along great. My friends, however, say he should be a better boyfriend and I still have to work on 'shaping' him more. They said a 'good boyfriend' should definitely feel he has to pick up his girlfriend when going out for dinner or to the movies, for example.

Do you agree that at the beginning of a relationship there's a learning curve, in which both individuals learn more about what goes and what doesn't in terms of what the other finds annoying, consent, turn-ons/turn-offs, etc?

[TadCurious]

Yeah, I think this learning curve thing does take place, but it's mostly -- if not unconscious -- then sort of trial by error, little observations of the other's reactions, and so forth. In effect the 2 people are learning best how to be together. Hopefully, of course, it works.

[TadCurious]

thanks kayla for MH, and good luck with the learning curve!

[NovemberJoseph]

Your friends sound feminist. Yes, I think there is a learning curve in which you learn more about each other early on in the relationship.

[kaylaS91]

agreed! not just that friend, but a lot of my friends including male ones say that about the driving, as well as him always paying for my food, etc.. I told my boyfriend before that I think those 'rules' are silly and it actually makes me feel uncomfortable when someone else is paying for me and such, so I'm cool with it. He did say a few times that he should have come pick me up before we met up for a date. So I'm just curious if that's normal for everyone to have a sort of transition period to get into the groove of being in a relationship.

[lamebabe]

The learning curve definitely exists.

And I agree that he should be picking you up for dates, but if that's not what you desire then it doesn't matter.

[mario1321]

Dont worry about what people say, only learn each others habits

[cajun]

but our failures teach us better..