Polls: Relationships

Or would you have to put them down?

So i have learned a lot about something called Attachment theory and i may write a mytake on it sometime. so what the Anxious attachment style is specifically is im the type where when i feel like the other person might be pulling away from me i tend to pursue them even harder because of my anxiety over them possible leaving me. and unfortunately this in turn tends to push them away even more because anxiety tends to kill the other persons attraction in my experience. I'm not acting like my authentic self and instead reacting to my own anxiety. the other person can usually pick up on those vibes easily.

Anyone else the anxious attachment types? or can at least relate to these issues

Here are the Symptoms of anxious attachment style as an adult
"- Adults with an anxious/preoccupied attachment style might think highly of others but often suffer from low self-esteem.

- These individuals are sensitive and attuned to their partners’ needs, but are often insecure and anxious about their own worth in a relationship.

- If the loved one rejects them or fails to respond to their needs, they might blame themselves or label themselves as not being worthy of love.

- Generally, adults with anxious attachment need constant reassurance that they are loved, worthy, and good enough.

- The strong fear of abandonment might often cause anxious adults to be intensely jealous or suspicious of their partners.

- This fear might also lead them to become desperate, clingy, and preoccupied with their relationships. Adults with an anxious attachment style are often afraid of or even incapable of being alone.

- They seek intimacy and closeness and are highly emotional and dependent on others. The presence of the loved one appears to be a remedy for their strong emotional needs."

Here's a good picture that demonstrates it well

So im trying to find ways of overcoming my anxiety now that i learned this about myself and become more secure.

Enter the GAG Educational Twilight zone...

You are there with your fiancee and her father who are Chinese, he no speak English, she speak English good.

You being generous man, offer a pear for sharing and carefully, cut it in half and give your fiancee the other half. You good man!

She has a look of fright... her father says some weird stuff in Chinese and they march off, her in tears, they very hurt and seem... angry.

What went wrong?

Answer forthcoming on Monday... no cheating on internet...

Can men and women be freinds? If you were their boyfriend / girlfriend would you be concerned?