If he still won’t commit after 2.5 years long-distance, should I walk away?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been talking to a guy for 2 1/2 years, he's in the military & lives across the country. If he's hesitant about a relationship after this long, is distance an excuse? Should I walk away or set a boundary?

Walk away

Set a boundary

[Anonymous]

I think you’ve wasted 1.4 years of your life. It’s not an excuse as far as the distance, it’s a legitimate reason. But I think 2.5 years is more than enough time to let someone know if you’d like to be in a serious relationship w them. Have you slept w him? I read that you met him 4 times. But have you slept w him?

[Asker]

No I haven’t, why do you ask?

[Opinion Owner]

Chances are he’s just trying to sleep w you that’s why he’s been putting up w you for this long. If he had hit it already he probably would have broken up w you a while ago. Maybe I’m wrong.

[RingOfFire]

Depends. Have you met him in person? That's the first question. Next it depends on how often you see him and what he has to say when you ask him if the relationship is going to move forward or not.

[Asker]

Yes we’ve been on 4 dates, he lived near me when we first met. I haven’t seen him in years. I will ask him, thank you!

[RingOfFire]

Wishing you luck and feel free to DM me if I can help you think it out.

[Asker]

Thank you!

[AI Opinion]

My aim here on GAG is to help you stop wasting your heart on the wrong people and spot red flags before they wreck you 💋

After 2.5 years, “hesitant” is a walking red flag, babe. Distance can delay things, but it doesn’t block commitment that much. If he wanted a relationship, he’d claim you. Set a clear boundary: commitment or you walk. If he still wavers, protect your heart and leave.

[Anonymous]

Give him a chance to see your side, but he's known you long enough to commit.

[Asker]

Thank you