Polls: Relationships

First, he got me pregnant and didn’t want to discuss about the topic. The first thing he asked was where to get the abortion. When he found out I might keep it became angry. He said really selfish and inconsiderate things to me like I will resent you if you let the kid born…I don’t want a beeping child…etc. Lucky for him that I got a miscarriage, and he was just so relieved from that he doesn’t care about my physical health. He then realized how big of jerk he was, apologized, and give him time to fix things.

Not long after, he randomly came to me and told me his friend paid flights/hotel to do some crazy adventure by himself for the weekend…an example, like purposely sleep near people with covid. We live together and he didn’t discuss with me at all. His friends didn’t just randomly did that…they asked him of he’s down and he just said yes excitedly. He purposely didn’t tell me on my birthday because he knew I would be upset. He decided to tell me today. I obviously got upset about it. I did tell him that everything adds up, and this would really add another damage to our relationship. How inconsiderate and selfish can you be for not even discussing this with me…and just do it. He understands and that it makes sense that I’m upset. But, He won’t back down and basically saying he will go. He value his friendship with his friend and cannot be disrespectful to this free trip. He does have the option to pay his friend back…but he rather go have fun and fix the relationship after. It’s very hard to say this but he rather me be upset, damaging the relationship, and go have his weekend. He also lied that his friends bought it without asking the dates. He actually told his friend which exact date.

Then he tried to play it cool and told me to just let this go and suck it up. And that this is only happening because of the pregnancy and miscarriage thing. On top of everything, he missed my dad’s birthday claiming he got the dates mixed up.

Lets say you get so upset that you tell them ''IT'S THAT OR ELSE IT'S OVER'' and they end up doing it; chances are it won't even be a genuine change from the heart.

It's one thing if they are wasting money on drug (inquiring passed dues) and you've talked about that many times but another to put constant pressure into the relationship.

Generally are ultimatums relationship killers?

Please state where you were raised as well thanks!

Falling for people that are incapable of being loved and/or loving you back is one of the worst things ever. Especially when they make you think otherwise.

#ihateyou
#iloveyou
#ShaTTeredQuestions

This is our anniversary weekend. The night we are actually celebrating is tomorrow. So technically we don’t have any specific plans tonight. However, this morning, we were discussing what to do after work. To be fair, I did dress up and put on make up thinking we would be going somewhere.

One of his buddy is in town for the weekend. Since we were celebrating our anniversary tomorrow, his friend said maybe to hangout on Friday. He heard nothing from his friend for days so no confirmation. Then in the late after today, his friend confirmed he can hang out tonight.

While I asked him if he thought of what we’re doing after work…he then told me he’s going out with his buddy. However, he said he was pretty annoyed at his friend for being last minute. It gave me no chance to plan something with my own friends. If it bothers me, he said he can just do something with me tonight. He feels bad for leaving me at home with nothing to do last minute. Also, none of my friends are available. At the same time, his friends are always busy so they barely meet up. This one particular friend actually moved to a different state so they barely see. I would feel bad for not letting him go.

Also, my boyfriend and I are currently going through a rough patch. Last month, his actions and words disappointed me (not cheating) a whole lot and made heart sank. Right now, he’s trying to fix things and making things up.

Should I let him go?

My boyfriend often said “I am yours”. I don’t mind this and usually I respond the same too like “I am yours too.”
But when he said “You’re mine” I kinda have mixed feelings about this.
How about you? Does it bother you or you’re okay with that?

I fell in love with a total sham once; someone that never existed. He played that role for years.

Honestly which heartbreak or love deception would you rather deal with?
A) Getting cheated on or finding out they love someone else
- They once had feelings for you but things happened and they cheated on you. Or they loved you but at the same time can't get over an ex partner who they also love. This is obviously the common scenario many people deal with.

B) Finding out they can't love anyone at all
- They never had real feelings for you (they have zero to little ability to love) or if they did, they saw you as a commodity to get something. They forged a complete relationship and kept the act going for years. They aren't even a normal human.