Polls: Relationships

We've heard these comments before, such as:
"They were crazy, how do I end up with these people who have mental issues?"

So I am wondering - in this age of ending the stigma of mental illness - how far are you willing to accept it from someone new in your life? If you had a bad experience with someone suffering from a mental illness, will it affect how you choose a partner thereafter?

This is for people who find out early that their partner or crush has a mental illness, as I know finding out knee-deep after falling in love it makes things much more difficult.

Kudos to those who stand by and support their loved ones, and thank you all for answering honestly even if you think it might not be politically correct, or may make you seem insensitive to the issues. I understand we all have our boundaries.

A guy is living in a small town looking for love. But has made 2 online girl friends and 1 real life friend.

1) First girl is Asian and living in Thailand and the guy and her have been friends for a year. They flirt every now and then but he always second guesses flirting with her.

2) Second girl is living in America, who also lives in a small town. But due to a argument, they stopped talking. He reached out to her saying how much he missed her and wants to be friends again.

3) Third girl is a childhood classmate he rekindled at work. But they have different personalities as he is adventurous and she’s not. He loves meat and she’s vegan.

So which one should he date?

In my opinion cheating women look worse to me for some reason, they seem more slutty and in my experience they are worse people.

This one is a bit long but you can skip to the second paragraph!

Recently I’ve become acquainted with a guy who I thought was pretty cool. At first he was really sweet to me and seemed respectful enough though, like most men, he decided to make the topics of most of our conversations sexual. I never felt as if he was using me or being disrespectful until recently. Before then, it was just decent conversation.

He has never been very careful with his words or actions, and recently has done things that I find myself having trouble forgetting. He mistreats me in a way I’ve never experienced. He’s called me names and said disgusting things about me, then expects me to forgive and forget as soon as he delivers me a halfass apology. I feel he’s always toying with my emotions and blaming me for the times when the energy between us isn’t positive. I’ve tried explaining my perspective to him many times and asking him to treat me better, but I’ve made little progress. I have so many doubts about him at this point, simply based on his known actions. I wouldn’t be surprised if he were talking to other women or disrespecting me in a way I don’t yet know about.

why do you think some men behave this way? I refuse to think that men are bad communicators or simply childish in general. There’s too much evidence that goes against that.

my take on it is that he somehow gets off on being able to control my emotions because they are one of the few things in life that he has control over. I think maybe in his mind it makes him powerful to shit on me and make me sad and then find a way to keep me around each time he does. I’m truly unsure. All I know is that it’s been hell for me and I can’t continue to speak to this person without some change or at least some perspective on what’s going on. I don’t know why I’ve let it carry on for so long. In many ways I feel sorry for him.

what do you think?

thanks! 💖