Should you be opening the door and holding stuff for your girlfriend?

[dpy87]

I'm ok with doing it to a certain extent and if its necessary. If you expect it every time then no.

Yes

No

Depends

A total of 62 votes were cast: 31 girls and 31 guys. See detailed results

[Punkbuster107]

I’d say as a general rule, yes you should. That doesn’t mean you have to be an idiot about it. If your hands are full, or you’re in the middle of a fire drill, or you have some reason to believe that the woman in question is opposed to being treated like a lady, etc., or if you’re both in a hurry, then obviously don’t go out of your way to act chivalrous at the expense of something more important. In general, it’s a very nice thing to do whenever it’s reasonable to though.

[WhiteSteve]

I was raised to be a gentleman. That means holding doors for ANYONE arriving at roughly the same time as you, and would of course include my lady. I’ll hold things for her too when needed, but I reserve the right to bust her balls, like “you know, I left a bunch of things I’d like to carry with me at home, for the exact reason of not wanting to have to hold a bag.”😜

[ImSparkly]

There’s a difference between it being expected and offered. I would never expect someone to be chivalrous in that way, but I do appreciate it when a door is held open, boxes are picked up and carried when it’s offered organically.
There’s also the other extreme of a cuck/simp type guy who carries all my bags for me after taking me shopping which is just annoying.

[ebbyeb]

I mean to just be helpful and courteous. If you constantly feel like a third arm maybe draw a line at a point... but at the end of the day, there’s worse things.
Sometimes people just need a bit more help with things and that’s okay. Especially if you love them and are in a relationship with them. But to your own discretion!
Hope this helps :)

[OlderAndWiser]

"Should" you be doing this? No, it is not required by law. However, it is polite and respectful for a guy to do that for his woman and that's the kind of guy I try to be, so I do it every single time.

[Little_Bumblebee]

I see holding a door as something polite and not gender-based.

Holding stuff... If we walk together, and if he's significantly stronger than me, there's one very heavy bag that I would struggle lifting all the way, but he wouldn't. Then I don't get why he wouldn't want to hold it.

If he held everything, then I would help him as well.

I don't expect him to hold my bag just because I'm a woman. Or that I should never hold something ever.

I see it as how much effort and how you can help each other.

[Screenwriter]

I expect the door to be held open for me when we're dressed up doing something fancy. I hold the door open for men with packages. It's common courtesy. I know it's old school: women are too weak to hold open their doors or such. Well we know men aren't too weak to hold open doors, but helping them when they need it is sensible.

It's just a bit of chivalry. But I'm chivalrous to MEN TOO!.

[Massageman]

Common sense and common courtesy. Too bad they are so uncommon, lately. Thank you.

[NobleFlight]

Of course. I will always hold the door for my girlfriend. She does the same to me as well. Holding stuff, it depends. If she’s fine on her own I’m not going to bother her asking if I can hold it. If she is holding her own there is no need to get in her way.

[genericname85]

you can do whatever the fuck you want xD everyone lives their own life. i hold doors open for everyone, not just women. given that i'm the first one walking in and since i'm mostly the one walking faster than the woman, i end up holding up the door mostly. carrying stuff, for me it depends. i'm not a packing mule but you know i expect her to hold some stuff for me as well, when i'm trying on clothes.

[Zeppelinrocks]

Yes, and she should do the same when your hands are full. The point is that whoever is closer to the door or more able to open the door should open it. If both people are equally close to the door and equally able to open it, the man should.

[Toast792]

I just open doors for everyone. And if I see a person who looks like they need help carrying stuff, I would offer to help them. It just seems like common decency.

[The_Maphio]

It's a common courtesy, so yes, of course.
Here's hoping she's going to do the same for you and she doesn't act like a little entitled bitch.

[ThePolishKnight37]

I was raised that way and I still believe in Chivalry. I carried my girlfriends books in high school. That should tell you about me, at 16 17 I was doing it and in front of other teenagers

[bamesjond0069]

If she is a traditional lady yes. If she's a modern trashy girl then no. I would think the answer should just be yes because who would have a masculine and trashy woman as a girlfriend? but a lot of you dudes go for that. Lmfao

[serious]

Nothing wrong with doing such things. These are very good and gentleman things to do.

[exitseven]

Why wouldn't you do this? She is your girlfriend. Besides you need to make yourself useful.

[MahdiA]

If you’re a gentleman, yes. I would do that if I had a girlfriend

[RingOfFire]

HELL YES!

Treating her like a princess is half the pleasure of the relationship!

[Iron_Man]

Not holding her purse or other stuff but at first opening doors

[najekim]

Being old school, of course. It's being a gentleman.

[Beautyforeverybody]

Yes. That’s called manners and caring

[TacosRAwesome]

At some point it's human decency.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

If I feel like it I do it.

[MrCreep]

Weirdo why you even need to ask

[msc545]

No. Why bother?