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It shows that you can't keep promises and you are unstable.
It says a lot, but that alone doesn't make you a bad person.
It could be a mistake.
It also depends on other circumstances, such as the person being unable to leave the relationship due to mental, physical abuse, manipulation, control over resources etc. I wouldn't justify cheating in general, it is a mistake, but keep in mind that every situation is different.
However, I don't want to make my answer long and complicated.
Regardless, I would never forgive someone for cheating.
The numbers on this are quite odd. At the time I answered this, 113 guys had responded and 83 guys (74%) replied "yes, it says a lot", which I presume is a strongly negative "it says a lot". 37 girls had replied and 29 of them (78%), said the same thing.
So what's strange is that according to those numbers, roughly 3 out of 4 and/or women say that cheating is (presumably) a bad thing. But if you look at the number of posts on G@G, by men or women, the incidence of "cheating" is more like 3 out of 4, and not 1 out of 4 !! Sounds to me like there's a lot of answers in the category of " I know the right answer so I'll put that down, and I kinda believe it, but it's not what I've done !!"
For married couples, the numbers for extramarital sex are estimated at 20-30% for women, and 30-40% for men worldwide, but even higher for men in some places.
Its your unique view on it. If you and your partner/s have set a standard and understanding that exclusivity is you both/all want, then that is a promise you have made. If you are no longer happy with or wish to change that promise, then it needs to be discussed with them. Not discussing it and doing otherwise (cheating) is a break of trust, regardless of whether it is physical, mental or emotional infidelity. All these parameters should be clarified so you do not hurt the people you care about/love. To hurt them, if you really care for them, should hurt you too.
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It makes that person selfish and a liar, and not trustworthy.. So yes, if a person can't be trusted and don't honor their word or promise, that does say a lot about the person..
I think it shows that you are constantly searching for new experiences and don't want to be bored in life. You don't want the same experiences day after day, you want something new. Like finding new people and discovering new places. To me, the idea of sex with another person is a new experience and changing up something in their life. Which is why it's so important to never let love life get stagnant and always be checking in with a partner rather than assume that they feel about the relationship the same as you do. Maybe they are holding on to feelings and those feelings materialize into finding another "partner" that will address how they feel and what they are feeling. Relationships are complicated but I'm sure that communication and compromise could very well prevent most, if not all types of cheating because it addresses there feelings before they act on them
It seems the obvious answer would be yes, but in fact is no. Like, Ok, that do tell something about the person. But... every action of any person also say something about that person ^^". Cheating is just not a exception. And well, a interesting thing I could say about this particularly subject, is that cheating would say different things if the person is a male or a female.
Like, if the person is a female, I think we can assume that cheating would mean the girl is not satisfied with the marriage (or relationship)... But, I guess the girls would have to say if I'm right about it.
Now, that's not true about males. Because males, have a unconscious and primitive need to have sex with a lot of different females. So if a guy cheats, what that will mean is that he doesn't have much control about his own instincts.. Which is a bad thing. People must be rational to live in society.
Yes. Infidelity tells me a person has zero willpower, and lacks self-control over their desires and emotions
I'd never trust a person who cheated in the past, because oppportunity will control their loyalty, because they're too weak to stay faithful when a situation arises that makes them feel vulnerable.
Being disloyal does not necesarily make someone a bad person, but it brings their character and moral compass into question. Nice people can and do cheat. Cheating makes them a weak disloyal person, not necesarily a bad one.
It says a great deal about the cheater. Some of which include:
- They have zero respect for their partner and relationship
- They are short-sighted, pursuing short-term pleasures that rarely have a future
- They lack empathy, and may even be narcissistic
- They are extremely selfish
- They lack morals
- They are liars ; to their partner, "friends", and themselves
- They are weak-willed; because they (probably) allowed other (equally worthless people) convince them that cheating was okay.
- They are either (a) pathetic; because when they are inevitably caught, they'll think simply apologizing is going to erase the horrible thing they did. (b) extremely arrogant; because they think they can get away with it and you won't do anything even after they get caught. Such people are much, much less than just trash.
Yes, cheating says that you have poor communication skills in relationships and that you're disloyal to your partner. If you want out of a relationship, the best thing to do is to end it and start over anew. If you're having issues with your partner that makes you want to cheat, instead of cheating, communicate with him or her and try to solve those issues. If you feel those issues would never be solved, break up and move on. It's better than tricking your partner into thinking everything is fine while you're secretly servicing other dicks or pussies and putting your partner at risk of getting STDs. Cheating is unacceptable, should never be forgiven, and says A LOT about the person.
Anytime you cheat, you choose to cheat. You cannot accidentally do it.
It does not, however, make you a bad person. Not necessarily.
There is a reason why people have been able to move past that in a relationship and be completely happy with their lives. I'd say it's often not possible, because the person cheated on either can't forgive or can't get over it. That's understandable. But it doesn't make someone who cheated the sum of the Earth. There are much worse things you could do to a person. People are just too emotional when it comes to cheating. They abandon all logic and reasoning.
Yes. It says that ultimately you can't be trusted when the chips are down.
Cheating is a choice, and choices have consequences.
You as person would be bad at relationship but would not make you totally bad person.
He could be kind as fuck in other areas or helpful.
Life is like a game the choice you make the chance you take decides your future.
Every action has its reaction.
The things we do always comes back to us sometimes with extra power.
Good bad is a matter of view, but we are all bound by certain self made rules if we are not holding them up then there is no point to our lives itself
Cheating is only cheating if you agree NOT to see anyone in " your relationship". In other words, you guys are exclusive! they are yours and you are theirs.
Hmmmm where was that term familiar from yes you're right " marriage". Until you say" I do" and your finger got his plate on your hand. You're his. Other wise. YOU'RE FREE AS A BIRD. FLY WITH OTHER BIRDS. Cause girl, marriage is a lonely place to be. Imagine being stuck with one person. For rest of your life.
At first i used to be against cheaters and could never fathom how someone could do something so shitty. Then i found myself doing it. Sometimes a partner can make you feel so worthless and unwanted that over time u find yourself finding comfort in someone else. Like others have mentioned. Windows of opportunity are created and things happen.
I still find it a cowardly thing to do and selfish. I live with the guilt and memories daily
There is literally never a reason to cheat. Never. It shows that you don't give a shit; don't respect or even dislike your partner that you are doing that behind their back. Is it that hard to break up with someone because you're not feeling chemistry with them and THEN try dating someone new?
If you cheat on a partner it pretty much means you don’t value and respect and love them , and you shouldn’t be with them anymore , that should be their answer to leave their partner , what gets me is a cheater going back to a partner after they cheated on them , not only is a cheater wasting their time they are wasting the partner they cheated on’s time as well , Just end the relationship , basically the cheater answered their own question that they don’t love their partner anymore
Cheating says a lot about you. But staying with a guy who does not really care about you says a lot about you, too. You let him use you without ever trying to take care of your needs. That is not love! Leave him and move on! You could make so many men happy! Find one and make your life what it should be!
Unpleasant Truth is Humans like to Overestimate life with Morals and Rules, When Actually Humans also being part of animal kingdom as a species, have Primal Instinct in their Brain. These Primal Instincts are the Oldest and Strongest regardless of Suppression and Hiding. It's Only Natural that Humans Follow the Primal Instints of Need for Sexual fulfilment and tendency to by bred by the dominant male in sight.
As morally wrong as it is, It's Only Natural.
Nature Knows Best
I said it depends because I have basically cheated before but I had a reason that justified it in my head. I’ve tried explaining it to people and some even agreed with my reasoning. Granted I won’t do it again because that was my first relationship and I didn’t know at the time how my actions would be received but after seeing my girlfriend cry to me has definitely changed my perception and helped me gain empathy for people so I would never do it again.
Yeah, it says you can’t be relied on, depended on or trusted to keep a promise to people you supposedly care about. Some may disagree with this, but if a friend cheats on their partner repeatedly I start side eyeing them and questioning their character, even as a friend.
No I don't think it makes you a bad person ,, I think maybe they just didn't think it out far enough sometimes when people are at that point in there relationships and they have had it it's done and over ,, and they just want to feel something positive they go for it. Doesn't mean they are bad, doesn't mean there right either
but the you have the person who just does it to do it , and they lie to try to get away with it that's fucked up I say they person go fuck themselves
Yes, it does.
Even if you are downright promiscuous, by getting into an exclusive relationship with someone, you are agreeing on a connection bound by some terms.
So if you then go out there and violate those terms, you are unequivocally committing an act of betrayal against the other party.
Doesn't matter what the circumstances or your own beliefs and desires are, an agreement is an agreement.
Cheaters have no integrity whatsoever. They want to have their cake and eat it too. If someone is so unsatisfied within their relationship, then simply end it. But no, they want to benefits of both world, the privilege of screwing around and the benefits of being in a relationship.
You don't know anything about cheating honey. And no, it only makes you 'bad' in the victim's eyes.
And while you can't blame the victim of cheating, there is nearly always culpability for failures in the relationship that creates the opportunity for cheating in the first place.
Time to get over yourself.
Um, no. So if I kill someone I'm only bad in the eyes of the victim. See the issue of the logic here? Guessing not. I have seen relationships that have minor issues. You know not putting the seat down, or when taking the trash out they don't put a bag in right away, or they made some meal slightly different then normal and someone cheats. Cheaters will cheat no matter how good or bad the relationship is. You cheat, you deserve to have your nuts taken or your eggs removed. Don't need that kind of trash having kids
@NerdyEngineer - Clearly you don't know what you're talking about either. Consider just reading more and posting less cuz you're clueless and there is information here you can benefit from.
Sure thing pops once you take your head out of your ass. I have read far more then you have and know more on the subject then you even could dream I know. So clearly you have no clue what your talking about, so get your depends on and go take your nap.
@NerdyEngineer - Fuck off ya little cunt.
You should never say that you will never cheat. It may be your intention to never cheat on anyone for the remainder of your life, but making such statements seems to be like spitting into the wind.
Cheaters are among my least favorite type of people. They tend to be LIARS, which is another bunch I don't care for.
Cheating is still cheating, just like rape is still rape and murder is still murder.
You choose to cheat, its not an accident. "Honey I tripped, my clothes came off and his dick ended in me." So its a choice and it says a lot about you willing to treat others like crap, break trust and that commitment means nothing. No matter who they are, what gender they are, what religious stance or side of the political fence they are are, you are scum and proudly proclaim such when you cheat!
Cheaters have sadistic tendencies. Their primary goal isn't sexual conquest of someone new or some unfulfilled needs, cheaters want to hurt their partners. If you aren't hurt and you take their cheating as free ticket to cheat on them, they will get rid of you very soon. You don't give them the suffering they crave for.
If you're casual about cheating or cheat in multiple relationships it says a lot. Someone who is miserable and does something drunk they regret sure it might kill the relationship (deservedly so) but I wouldn't assume they're a bad person.
and once you get into bad marriages and reasons people may stay in them it gets more complicated still.
I think you have to have terrible morale to cheat on your partner. It’s a character defect in my books.
Lol whoever downvoted definitely cheated on someone
@HawkPerception Lmao I’m astounded by the downvotes I get sometimes.
I feel that man. Same here
Yep, if you can do something like that to the person that you love and that loves you, it is as easy as breathing to play other people like a fiddle.
Person to be avoided.
It says you're unloyal and you can't keep your promises. OR, you're wishy washy and you don't MAKE any promises.
Either way, you're unreliable and sneaky.
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I think there are people that want to cheat, its more about conquest than anything else,
I have cheated but through sexual lust, didn't want to have anything else with hi, just sex
It says that you are a dishonest, lying bag of shit who only cares about yourself and is ruled by your appetites. No different than a thief.
Cheaters just suck at being loyal
And that should be enough for people not to want to be around you
But most times it isn't
So who fucking cares
It says that you’re a coward because you werent brave enough to breakup with your girlfriend/boyfriend and/or be honest with the sidepiece. It also says that you're untrustworthy and fear commitment
It honestly depends. I know some people could be pressured and have a hard time getting out of the situation. Some people know and are willing to cheat. Either way both situations can say things about you. First situation can mean you are weak willed and not strong enough inside to get out. Second one means you are untrustworthy, loser, as*hole who should learn there lesson and karma will get you back.
Circumstances leading up to the cheating are critically important, but your choice to cheat does say a lot about who you are as a person, yes. It speaks to a great deal of a lack of self awareness and an inability to communicate.
Actually cheating, Backstabbing, snitching these are all same things if you see it clearly. You do it and it take your image and trust down in the person you do it with. And yes it makes you a bad person because if you can do it with one person one time you can do it again and again. how much you deny it once a cheater is always a cheater so better to stay loyal. Because some things never remain the same after being hurt. If you know what i mean. I hope you understand this.
@CharlineTipp have you ever cheated on someone?
I mean it does say a lot because it does show selfishness, no impulse control, no care for loved ones. But I’m sure a lot of nice people cheat and plenty of jerks cheat so who knows.
Never did this until my ex husband did it to me on grand style.
So now if I see some one I fancy , I go after them. Whether I have a girlfriend or boyfriend.
It means you are not with the right partner. There's some part of your relationship that is lacking for you that you are not willing to address and work on with your partner
It shows that they cannot be trusted. Even if you are close to them and if you are a 'loved' one, they will backstab you. People like that are terrible.
Untrustworthy.
Without trust then it’s pointless to be with someone. You’re weak and pathetic.
My sister cheated on all her exes. It means she just used them. She could care less about their feelings.
It says that you are either recklessly impulsive, incredibly disloyal or plain and simple a bad person.
I don't think it makes you a bad person overall, it just means if you can't get your act together you're not the best partner in the relationship arena.
It shows you cannot honor commitments and that you are not capable of being the bigger person and just walking away.
Yes... selfish... low character... a liar... unfaithful.
Yes it says a lot im not gonna tell you to cheat cause that's a shitty thing to do to someone but if your not happy then move on but first talk to him and see if anything changes is know you know what you have to do
I think you have cheated or are thinking of cheating, you're clearly projecting.
Yes it says a lot. Don't do things to others that you don't want others do to you.
It says that you are specifically emotionally unavailable.
Yes, I think it says quite a lot about you as a person no matter the circumstances.
Does it make you a bad person... I don’t know.. doesn’t make you a reliable person. If you choose to cheat then you shouldn’t be in a relationship. Just get out of the one you are in...
It shows a lack of commitment and loyalty. I realize fit some people it's a one time screw up, but from my experience, most people who cheat do it repeatedly.
Let's put it this way. You will be CONSIDERED a piece of shit person by majority of your acquaintances. Now if you cheat behind "a spouse", then in all sense, they would be right.
It says that your current partner doesn’t meet your standards in some way and you need to get your needs let from someone else
Everything you do in regards to human interaction days something about you as a person.
cheating is a bad thing that for sure if they keep cheating then yes they are bad people but if they regret and change then I would say they were bad but they learned the lesson.
Not all cheaters are bad people but all cheaters to have bad qualities. They can change but it’s literally them that have to make the conscious choice to change.
Most of the time it says that you're an outright wanker.
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