My boyfriend got a new apartment and he's living by himself He told me I can move in with him but Im not ready yet So he gave me spare keys to his apartment And said "U can come anytime u want, even if Im not home" & "U can come and decorate the apartment"
Why would he give me his spare keys?
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Does it mean anything if boyfriend gives me his spare keys to his apartment?
I would say because he genuinely cares about you, trusts you and your judgement and hopes that long term you will eventually settle down with him.
The fact he has given you the option to decorate to me further demonstrates his wish for this to be a joint home as he wants you to feel at home there and that your values and opinions are reflected in the home.
He is trusting YOU with EVERYTHING he physically owns!
Further, he trusts YOU to be able to explore WHEREVER your curiosity may lead you! He is wordlessly saying: "From YOU I hold NO secrets..." and to be MATURE ENOUGH to value and safeguard HIS belongings as you would your OWN ~
He trust you he's ready for another step in your relationship although you're not ready yet he's respecting that Also he's allowing you to transit slowly by saying hey you can decorate come by anytime he's really ready for the transition but respects your comfort zone but giving you a little push in a nice way 🙂
My boyfriend did that to me and he got me puzzled at first as it was 2 weeks after we met. Men can answer such questions better then I ever would. But he is serious and has made his mind up about you. A man's cave is a man's cave. Now its very important how you are gonna go about it and just be respectful.
Clearly he wants you to live with him, he literally asked you, so if you said no b/c you aren’t ready, then he’s going for second best, by having you FEEL like it’s your home! He’s just biding his time, sooner or later you’ll get into a fight where you are and you’ll just go to his place, after all having his keys is a life boat for you!
It means that he understands that you aren't ready to move in yet, but that you are free to, whenever you ARE ready. He wants to make it feel like your home just as much as it is, his. He is (either consciously, or subconsciously) trying to show you that he is ready for commitment.
It means he’s not seeing anyone else and he would love to see you often.
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Well yes and no. I'm not sure what you're thinking but take it at face value. He asked you to move in, and you aren't ready, which is fine. But he's giving you the keys to show you that he's serious about it (if/when you're ready) and you are welcome to go over anytime and make yourself at home (maybe help you get used to the idea?). But there's no pressure I'm sure or "hidden agenda" beyond that.
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And yes like everyone else is saying, means and shows he trusts you 100%
That is a HUGE deal. He basically just gave you permission to enter and exit his sacred space whenever you please. He really really really trusts you if he gave you that key.
He wants to get you to move in with him or else he wants you to clean his place when he is not home.
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Anonymous
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so you can let yourself in whenever you want when he's not home duh so he doesn't have to keep dropping everything to let you in since you don't have a key. if my girl lived in my state i'd be giving her a key to my place as well.
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He's saying you can move in but maintain another place to live as well, if you want.
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