Polls: Relationships

Going to be extremely vulnerable here---

I just found out that I have to get a hysterectomy (removing my ovaries) done because I have stage 4 endometriosis (the most severe type). My entire uterus has scar tissue upon scar tissue. I'm still in my 20s. I haven't found my forever partner, still a virgin. 3 doctors now have advised me to get it done so it won't spread to my lungs or liver or cause them to remove my bowels all together too.

I know it will be for the best. But im scared that when I do get a boyfriend, he will be disappointed he won't be able to see my growing belly, or rub my belly and he might view me less of a woman. I'm really at a cross road here. Its extremely uncommon for a woman in their 20s with no children to have one.

The only positive I see is that I won't have a period anymore, but I feel like a freak and I will be at the mercy of someone else to carry my child and what if I say something one day they don't like and they take it out on the baby? this is something that worries me. Can I please get insight from the girls AND guys on this one

Do most relationships have that or can it jump straight into deep connections, compatible goals, genuine affection, loyalty, respect and deep love, not just admiration and feeling the highs.

Do you really need to be infatuated to have a successful long-term relationship or it leading to marriage? Or can you just love them a lot, without that first stage? Is infatuation important? I heard that can actually blind you and not let you make better judgements of that person since you're thinking they're perfect and they're not.

My bfs parents bought a tropical vacation home out of the country ( in the USA) and my boyfriend and his dad were both telling me to get a passport and I did.

My bfs mom originally told me and my boyfriend that I could come down South with them next year in the fall but now my bfs mom told my boyfriend she doesn’t allow me to come because we’re not married and I’m not her daughter in law. My boyfriend got pissed and told her that it’s serious between me and him and that we’re together for 3 years already and she said that’s their rules and their house.

why did his mom change her mind about me coming togther with my boyfriend if she likes me so much?

( she’s always hugging me and she bought me a very generous bday gift as well and she always feeds me. I also always come to his family get togethers and always have bought gifts for my bfs nieces and nephews as well).

What do you think of this?

I saw an episode where a wife wouldn't let their daughter enter ballet school. She suffered a dramatic event of being raped by her former ballet teacher as a kid. Only her mother knew later on but she kept this a secret.

Finally when she admits it to her husband, instead of being supportive... he walks away, scolds her and is disgusted by not being the first man. He was too focused on the ''you're tainted'' part and nearly wanted to proceed with a divorce. His own mother was very ashamed of her son's attitude. Though he only apologized because his mother talked him out of it. He wouldn't have done it on his own account. The former school finally gets arrested when she reports him and he does it to again to the daughter's friend.

Even though it's a ficitious episode, real cases like this does happens. Honestly I would not forgive him. He wanted divorce and his own mother had to talk him out of it. How is being raped being tainted? That's out of someone's control. I would find that attitude and him walking away unforgivable.

I am just curious.

If you have cheated, please share. I'm really curious. I've been overhearing some people talk about cheating like it's normal and okay, so I was wondering.

Imagine a situation where:
-Older Brother (30): In a committed relationship for 3-4 years, living with his girlfriend.
-Younger Brother (27): Had a tumultuous, on-again/off-again relationship with a woman (25) over the past year.
-The Ex-Girlfriend (25): Struggled with the relationship due to repeated cheating, emotional conflicts, and mistreatment by the younger brother

When the Ex-Girlfriend First Reached Out to the Older Brother, He Was Supportive and Neutral → Initially, he listened, gave neutral advice, and didn’t seem to have a strong opinion about her or the relationship.

-However, After That, the Older Brother Became Harsh & Judgmental → Over text, he started expressing strong dislike toward the ex-girlfriend, saying she was manipulative and toxic.
-The Older Brother Has Reached Out Multiple Times to Confront the Ex-Girlfriend → Instead of ignoring the situation, he actively engaged with her in texts, being dismissive and harshly critical of her role in the relationship.
-The Ex-Girlfriend Tried to Explain Her Side → She reached out to the older brother to show him the full picture, explaining that she had been hurt, cheated on, and mistreated. However, the older brother ignored this perspective and continued blaming her entirely for the toxic cycle.
-Even After the Breakup, the Older Brother Still Feels Strongly About the Situation → Despite the fact that the younger brother and the ex-girlfriend have broken up, the older brother continues to speak negatively about her and express strong feelings of resentment toward her.

What do you believe are the primary reasons for the older brother’s intense and harsh behavior toward his younger brother’s ex-girlfriend?