Would you be suspicious if your spouse wants to go on solo trips?

[YourFutureEx]

Would it bother you if your spouse is traveling without you or their friends? Would you believe when they say that they want some 'me time' and want some personal space and freedom?

I would be totally cool with that

I would allow them but would be a little sus

I would not allow them that

Other

[Finchie40]

Sadly in today’s society No , if a partner insists on having solo trips without you on a regular basis , you are best to walk away from that relationship , and realize your partner just likes the convenience of you while they weigh their options. A loving partner will put themselves in your shoes before making decisions, they won’t want to leave your side and request space from you period , they will include you and not automatically exclude you , A partner that automatically excludes you is up to no good , they will claim they aren’t doing anything wrong but that’s a load of bullshit. I can’t tell
You how many taken girls’ I have hooked up with when they were on girls’ trips , and I can’t tell you how many times I have witnessed cheating girls’ on girls’ trips , to the point I no longer stay on a relationship with a girl that all of a sudden needs space and time away from me when she never did before. So I am no longer a sitting duck for a girl that doesn’t value me like I valued her. Don’t stay in a relationship with someone that is clearly writing Sucker on your head. A loving partner doesn’t need space from you period , they want to experience things with you not apart from you. Most people these days are selfish and only want what they feel is best for themselves without considering their partners’ feelings , i suggest you kick her ass to the curb where she belongs if she is demanding solo trips away from you

[AviatorTom]

No, I wouldn't be suspicious. I'd wish her a good time on the trip. My wife sometimes goes on trips by herself to visit her family. Sometimes, I do the same to visit my relatives on my own. Yes, we sometimes travel together to visit family members.

[Genie23]

I'm an ambivert. So, those who don't know me might wonder why I get all friendly and talkative and times then disappear or don't wanna hangout. Sometimes I just want to either spend time alone at home or go out alone. So, I'd be that kind of partner who would sometimes need "Me time"... and no, I have no intention of socialising with anyone when I say I want to go on solo trips but even my friends don't understand that so I understand why would a spouse understand that.

So, if my partner/spouse wants to go on solo trip, I wouldn't get suspicious at all. I'd trust him.

[Genie23]

And at times I disappear*

[YourFutureEx]

I think you're just an introvert who knows how to socialize. You really need some personal space and periodic seclusion but you also love talking to people. I don't think ambiverts exist. There are extroverts. And there are two types of introverts. Socially inept introverts and social introverts.

Or maybe the whole concept of introvert-extrovert is flawed as it's too polarising for the human nature that's too vast and complex that all of us are left leaning or right leaning ambiverts.

[Genie23]

To be honest, no. I'm not an introvert as I prefer and enjoy company of my favourite people most of the time and often like talking, getting to know new people. I can entertain the whole crowd or strangers when I please but there are few days I just don't want to be bothered and crave my own company instead. Maybe I'm just moody.

You're right I don't fit exactly in either of the mold 100 percent.

[YourFutureEx]

Yeaaa my assessment was incorrect. You're not a social introvert. You're a mean extrovert.

[Genie23]

Lol! I'm mean and proud of it.



But it's funny a guy who shared a gif of someone flipping calls me mean xD I don't think you've ever shared this but I'm guessing you're an introvert? Judging by your posts over the years

[YourFutureEx]

If I'm flipping off to you, it means I trust you. Take it with pride.

I have no idea how you've figured that out from my questions. Yes. I'm the sheer definition of introversion. You girls are so weird, you can smell anything and everything about others. Scary.

I have had a long journey in my personality growth. Even being a normal introvert is such an achievement for me because I was born a pussy. Then I had to grow from it but then there was the next challenge, shyness. Then it took a lot for me to not be shy anymore and then I became a typical introvert. Now I have plateaued at the next level - social introvert. I tried to be an extrovert but I realised that it's not me. It was draining, while being a very social person with some occasional 'me times' in between keep my spirits up.

Initially I wrote the stories about how I levelled up from one barrier to another but while writing, I realised that I cannot give you more details about my embarrassing stories that easily.

[Genie23]

Aye, I didn't mind at all. I was just teasing you. Besides I prefer talking to people who don't pretend to be too good/nice and isn't afraid of joking around without worrying how they'll be perceived. I grew up with 3 older brothers and one sister who's the oldest and they all would pull my leg and roast me all the time and I'd do the same to them. So, I'm not that sensitive, lol

😆 We are good at reading people. It's a gift. Just kidding. To be honest, I've noticed that those who are introverted tend to be talkative and insightful on text while extroverted do that on calls or in person as they have too much to say. Also, I feel people with lot of depth are usually introverts. Hence, I thought you're one.

That sounds like an incredible amount of growth. I can relate to one thing, though. That's shyness. Believe it or not, I was a very shy kid but I started opening up as the years went by. Now I can approach anyone without feeling shy but the only time I still feel shy is when I have a crush on someone. In that case, I unintentionally treated cold my former crushes, poor guys thoughts I hated them, lol. I must say social introvert are much better company than extroverts. Why? I lived with extroverts in PG. It was exhausting at times. So, you do you!

Hey! Don't do that to me. Didn't you say you don't think I'm mean and all? Which means ou know you trust me. So, come on. I won't tease you 😇

[YourFutureEx]

Gone are the days we used to shake hands with the people we trust. Now we just 🖕 and call them our allies xD

I wish I had siblings like you do. I'd have grown even more as a person. But fortunately, I have always been surrounded with scavengers and savages (extroverts) who have pushed my boundaries and shaped me who I am today. I really love extroverts because they really complement my energy. I feel like a total extrovert in front of introverts which isn't very exciting to me. Maybe that's why you struggled with extroverts because your energies got clashed.

No matter how extrovert you are, one cannot convince me that you are not a shy person. I really believe that you feel shy a lot lol. This is you youtube.com/shorts/bKpri2F5NXo?si=a5RSjkVJSzXQe5Y4

I am extremely talkative on text, to the point I can't help myself. I would like to believe that I am normal irl and on call? Nope. Phone calls are my worst nightmare. I cannot think of anything that I hate doing more than talking on phone call. I am more comfortable on video calls tho.

Don't shower me with compliments. I know that you're fattening me before you slaughter me with embarrassment. I wholeheartedly trust you because I clearly recognise the limit of how mean you can be!

[Genie23]

🤣🤣🤣

Ah! I can understand how you felt when said you feel like a total extrovert. You're right I did end up clashing with some and many extroverts aren't very good listeners that's the reason why I find it bit annoying at times but another problem is extroverts don't understand the meaning of exhaustion, lol. They just want someone around non-stop. That gets tiring considering I'm SO talkative that after a while I'm like okay, I want to recharge myself. 😅

LMAO @ the video. That's me. No wait, she's still looking at him for a second. I avoid eye contact with someone I have a crush and barely say a word or two like yes or no, lol.. HOLD ON. How did you even know that I'm shy? I mean I thought I came across as a talkative, friendly person so I thought you could have never guessed that. Bet you can't tell whether I'm a texting person or calling or something else

Tell me something I don't know, YFE. I KNEW you'd be the kind of person who avoids phone calls but would be okay with videocalls. How? One of my close friend's an introvert and I've dated one as well. So, their preference and yours match. Hence, I know things about you without knowing you 😁 I'm good at observing.

LMAO! Why are you making me sound like some evil camp in Disney movies who has a hidden agenda. 🤣 I was just interesting in learning about your growth. I'm mean but only during business hours. XD

[YourFutureEx]

As a sincere introvert, I think I should take that hint and allow you to recharge your batteries before you take your next attempt at embarrassing me somehow 😌

And girls say guys can't take a hint lmao. Why can't you girls make it a bit easier. Like for example, this is me when I like a girl


How do I know that about you? One of my close friend's an extrovert and I've dated a few as well. So, their preference and yours match. Hence, I know things about you without knowing you 😁 I'm good at everything.
You are a calling person. Next question 😏

You've got to be kidding me that you are friends with people like me and have dated one. It's not like you can't, but it's just not possible for a mere human being to mimic a fraction of my awesomeness. They must have flaws that I don't.

I will tell you someday. And yeah during business hours lol. Get some sleep and recharge yourself. I won't be replying to you.

[Genie23]

Hahaha. You were right. I was exhausted and ready to unwind but don't worry. I don't try to hint of anything. I sign out when I need to recharge it's just that I've had those annoying experiences with only people I lived with.

LMAO!! That pic. 🤣🤣 I've got to see The Family Man (if this is that from that series) . Next question, do I prefer videochat or avoid it? Bet you can't guess that. 😆

🤣🤣🤣 I meant introverts, not exactly like you.. but okay, lol

[YourFutureEx]

That pic is from Gangs of Wasseypur xD

You are not a fan. If someone wants to see faces, you would rather hang out instead of video calls. Next question. 🥱

[Genie23]

Oops, lol

Damn. 😳 WHO are you?



I don't want to ask any more questions as I know you're Mr. Know-it-all afterall 🤷🏻‍♀️

[YourFutureEx]

How can you repel me while you're literally holding me (the god) in your hand (the cross)?

Yeah I know everything. Your school roll number, your card details, your shoe size, your secret chai recipe. I just checked your bank balance and instead of stealing from it, I now want to donate you some. Hmm what else should I check...

[LazerBean]

I mean, I would know something is wrong because that's absolutely not him. He's super social and always wants to go places with someone. But I wouldn't think he's cheating or anything, I would just want to know what is bothering him. But I would not stop him or anything.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I'm all about building trust and understanding! A solo trip isn't automatically a red flag. We all need a little "me time" to recharge those social batteries, right? 😎 As long as there's open communication and trust in your relationship, let them enjoy their freedom. Trust is key, darling! Keep an eye on overly secretive behavior though, if you catch my drift. 😏

[ThisDudeHere]

If it's relatively close nearby and it's some place with sentimental value to her, then I guess I wouldn't have any problems. I mean, I like to stop by places I used to visit just to see how they've changed. Some long-distance trip to some tourist resort all alone? Susy baka

[Anonymous]

People can be on the other side of the planet and you can still feel they are very much into you through their communication with you from there. Unless you are already dating someone who lacks those skills to begin with. Then you don't have tells to read.

[Miristheiss]

Yeah, that wouldn't fly.

She has gone on a couple of really short trips with her two sisters but outside of that, no.

I wouldn't have married her if solo travel was part of the deal.

[Fireguy17]

My wife goes on trips to see her family or friends a couple times a year, and I stay home and take care of the cat.

Kind of my vacation too.

[avery58]

I mean, I can't stop them. They are a free person... But I would find it a little sus, yes.

[Nikki1989]

Not at all. I have no reason to be.

[NathanDavis]

nope, I would just ask

[Abbycado]

Yeah, I’m not insecure.

[alice55]

I won't allow it, I would just break up.

[Anonymous]

It's cool I guess.