Polls: Relationships

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Who do you think more often or is more likely to admit when they're wrong, particularly with the opposite sex? Men or women.

I read this in a fantasy novel called: The Etherial Squadron by Shami Stovall...

"Women want men who are gentle with them, but rough with everyone else. You have to be tough on the outside, but soft enough for them to feel like they've learned the real you."

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"Second, you need to make eye contact as much as you can. Across the room. In a conversation. While you eat. Whenever. you.
Can. Women love it when you stare deeply into their eyes. Lastly, you need to pick a physical feature about them and compliment it as the most beautiful you have ever seen. Her eyes. Her hair. Her complexion. No other girl compares. Got it?"

I went through this about 10 years ago. My then 25 year old girlfriend made more than me when I was 32. But at the time I was pursuing a dream (I was a professional athlete) and I my time was consumed with training. I was no dead beat but I just had a different focus at the time.

I was doing freelance work just to pay the bills and I was struggling. She even offered me money at one time (which extremely kind of her) but it I turned it down out of pride and went further in debt.

Anyway the insecurity was on my side when it can to this (also contributed to our break up). She didn’t care but I did. It had a lot to with being raised to “be a man” when it came to being a breadwinner.

Nowadays I make a lot more money given I’m retired from my sport and have full focus on my career. But I am also a lot more “boring” now since I’m no longer the free wheeling adventurer I once was.

But money is a touchy issue. Form a evolutionary perspective I really do believe most women still subconsciously expect a man to provide for them even it’s unnecessary or impractical. They might get into short term flings with guys who offer other benefits (looks, excitement, adventurer, personality, etc) but when it comes to long term commitments they have a much higher bar on this

I also believe when a woman makes more money then her boyfriend/husband she’s more prone to cheating. Especially if she is comparable to him when it comes to looks (maybe she will stay loyal if she’s physically unattractive compared to him)

In fact I believe it’s unfairly more socially “acceptable” for a woman to do this given the guy is considered a “chump” if he is financial dependent on her. More more acceptable then vice versa.

I have a divorced uncle who worked a low paying his entire life and was supported by his (comparably) rich wife. She was no multi millionaire but she earned a lot more than him.

She ended up cheating on him the entire marriage. He tolerated it because they had kids and he needed support.

Who do you think loses interest in a partner more? Who do you think loses feelings for someone more? Men or women?

Did you pick the person that liked you or did you pick someone you liked but doesn’t like you back? Are you happy in your relationship? Why or why not

Please explain your choice.

For this question, male is defined as someone with a Y chromosome, and female is defined as someone without the Y chromosome.

I assume that if you have a pink account or blue account, you are a female or male, as I have defined.

I got this idea for a question by watching Netflix. Personally if I'd be married to someone who turns into a zombie, who needs to drink blood to live and demands me to help her, but stays otherwise about the same, I'd expect myself to be willing to donate blood to her. As long as it doesn't danger my health. If the relationship wouldn't be as serious, I'd be more likely to break up.

Maybe the reason some people cheat and others don't is that some of us consider cheating to be a horrible and unforgivable breach of trust, while others might think, "I won't get caught but, if I do get caught, it's not that big of a deal."

So, two questions:

1. Have you ever cheated on a partner to whom you had promised faithfulness? and

2. Would you end the relationship if you discovered that your partner was being unfaithful?

Also dad of 2 young kids, wife not been the same for a while. Want to care for her but same time really lonely! 🥺