Questions: Relationships

My boyfriend and I have explained to my mom several times now that I need a much better job (outside of the house that pays hourly) in order for us to move in together later on…. my boyfriend and I are in a committed relationship for over 2 years now. My boyfriend also thinks that my mom doesn’t help me out enough or pay much attention to me and why isn’t she helping me find work….

My mom gets very mad and annoyed anytime we bring the subject up to her and in private she tells me negative things ( I’m gonna get tired out, etc..) and then says why don’t I continue working from home… My mom also thinks my boyfriend is going to make me lose my “disability” benefits that I get due to the fact that I hve severe anxiety and depression and learning disability - if I end up getting a job outside the house….

is she jealous of my relationship? Or is she fearful of me moving out?

ps - everyone loves my boyfriend and he has many friends and is well liked at his job as well

You're apparently in a good relationship but suddenly you've realized there are major incompatibilities. Just love alone isn't enough. Which would be worse:

- Poor communication: You were both in the "falling in love" stage that you failed to see if they share your similar goals and values. Neither of you communicated what you wanted out of the relationship. You've just realized you share nothing in common, have arguments and there is too much drama.

- Getting lied to: You were honest about what you wanted out of the relationship, your goals, values, etc. They pretended to assimilate to your ways and lied so they wouldn't lose you. However, there comes a point they can't keep up with the lie and the truth eventually comes out. You're rightfully upset they pretended to be on your same page.